How Sexual Am I?

Take this test to see your level of sexuality.

So, sex! People are doing it every day, and many more people are thinking about it. It’s just part of nature, but we each have a particular relationship to it. What’s yours?

Answer these 12 quick questions and we’ll tell you how sexual you are. Ready to find out how strong your sexual energy is? Click “Start Quiz” now.

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Questions Overview

1. First, how much would you say you enjoy having (or thinking about) sex?
  1. I enjoy it a ton. Sex is one of my favorite activities.
  2. I enjoy it the same as the next person. Sex is a significant part of my life.
  3. Meh. I could take it or leave it.
  4. No, I don't enjoy sex or thoughts about sex.
2. Do you feel that sex is an important part of romantic relationships for you?
  1. Absolutely. To me, sex is essential for making a connection and having fun.
  2. For me, sex is important, but it's not the most important thing.
  3. Sex can be important, but honestly, I could do without it.
  4. No. I don't look for sex in my relationships.
3. Would you ever (respectfully) hit on someone in public?
  1. Absolutely, and I do often! If I’m attracted to someone, and the vibes are right, I’ll go for it.
  2. Sure, but I’m pretty selective about who I approach. I don’t hit on just anyone.
  3. I rarely hit on people. It usually takes a stronger bond for me to want to have sex with someone.
  4. I’ve never pursued anyone that way.
4. How often do you talk with friends about sex?
  1. Often! It’s a natural and essential part of my life, so I discuss it with people regularly, if they’re open to talking about it.
  2. Sometimes. There’s a time and a place for it, but that place is usually in private.
  3. Rarely. I don’t really feel the need to talk about my sex life with people who aren’t involved.
  4. Never. I don’t see any reason to talk about sex with other people.
5. How much sexual experience would you say you have?
  1. More than most people, I would guess.
  2. About as much as the average person, however much that is.
  3. Not a whole lot, but that’s okay.
  4. None.
6. What do you think is most important about sex?
  1. Having fun and trying new things.
  2. Emotionally connecting with a partner.
  3. Experiencing physical release.
  4. I don't think sex is particularly important.
7. How would you best describe your sexual style?
  1. Wild and fun.
  2. Passionate and intimate.
  3. Simple and not super fussy.
  4. Obligatory, or I don't have sex.
8. Does your sex drive ever become distracting or derail your thoughts?
  1. Yes, often. Sometimes sex is all I can think about.
  2. Sure, sometimes thoughts of sex can be distracting.
  3. Sexual thoughts aren't usually a problem for me.
  4. I rarely or never have sexual thoughts.
9. When you connect with someone physically (with hand holding, a kiss, or sex), are you the first to initiate or does your partner normally initiate with you?
  1. I usually initiate.
  2. It's probably about equal.
  3. The other person usually initiates.
  4. I don't initiate, and I don't let others initiate.
10. No judgment: when you’re in a relationship, do you still feel attracted to other people?
  1. Constantly. My sexual attraction doesn’t stop when I’m in a relationship. I have too much sexual energy for that!.
  2. Sometimes, but my partner still always has my full attention. Even though I’m a sexual person, I have a strong sense of loyalty.
  3. Rarely. I’m not attracted to that many people, so it would normally just be my partner.
  4. I'm not often sexually attracted to anybody.
11. Do you ever get restless or irritable if you go a while without any kind of sexual activity?
  1. Yes! I need to have sexual activity at least once a day to be satisfied.
  2. I can go for a week or so without sex and still feel satisfied.
  3. I can go months without sexual activity.
  4. I don't ever crave sex that way.
12. Do you ever get bored of sex, or thoughts of sex?
  1. Never. Sex is always appealing to me.
  2. Sometimes, but only when I've had too much of it, or had it recently.
  3. Often. I typically want to be doing other things.
  4. Always. Sex doesn't interest me.

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Let’s Talk About Sex!

Sex! People have it—and think about it—every day, all around the world. Some do it, some don’t. It’s a natural fact of life that we don’t talk about often enough, for one reason or another, which means that lots of us have lots of questions that we might be too shy to ask. That’s why we’re here!

How much sex is a normal amount?
There’s no “normal” amount of sex to have. Some people do it more than other people, some prefer to do it alone, and some people don’t do it at all. There’s no “correct” way to have a sex life—as long as it satisfies your needs and doesn’t hurt anyone else, your sex life is perfectly fine!

That said, we do have some numbers to crunch. According to one survey, about 55% of people aged 18-44 said that they have sex once a week or more, while most people aged 18-44 average about 1 sexual partner per year. That implies that the people having the most sex are having it with a committed romantic partner, which probably isn’t much of a surprise. Also, this is a self-reported survey, so keep that in mind.

What is safe sex?
Safe sex is 2 things. First, it’s consensual, meaning that everyone involved wants to be there and wants to have sex. Then, safe sex is physically safe, meaning that you’re using protection to guard against sexually transmitted diseases, but also that it’s physically pleasurable, rather than unintentionally painful.

What is consent? Consent is another word for permission, and is a must for any sexual situation. The best, most effective form of consent is verbal, when everyone involved has said something along the lines of “Yes, I want to do this.” Also, consent is continual, meaning that at any time during sex someone can say that they’re done, withdrawing their consent and ending the interaction. Like many aspects of sex, consent is very personal, and each person’s boundaries are different, but it’s crucial to always respect those boundaries.

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