How to Survive Alone

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Whether you’re living on your own for the first time or you’ve been isolated from others for a while, being alone can be extremely intimidating. Not having anyone around for support might leave you feeling depressed, scared, or vulnerable. Luckily, there's almost nothing you can't do alone if you just develop the right mindset and prepare yourself accordingly. You never know—you might even begin to enjoy being alone!

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Embrace your freedom.

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  1. Take some simple steps like personalizing your space, inviting friends over frequently, and creating a schedule for cleaning and maintaining your home to make living alone more fun and less stressful. You can make your own rules, and you don’t have to ask anyone else what they think about your home. [1]
    • One of the great things about living alone is that you get to make your own rules. If you want to have a giant beanbag chair or a hammock in your living room instead of a couch, there's no one to tell you you can't.
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Stick to a routine.

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  1. Instead, wake up around the same time every morning and get dressed before tackling the day. The more structured your life is, the less lonely you’ll feel, even when you’re on your own. [2]
    • If you’re working from home, it might be helpful to get out of the house at least once every day. Head to a coffee shop, go for a walk around the park, or take a jog around your neighborhood for a change of scenery.
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Get out of the house.

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  1. Even if you aren’t going anywhere in particular, simply leaving your home can help you feel better. If you want some social interaction, head to a coffee shop or a deli and grab a bite to eat. You’ll feel much better if you spend some time away from your home. [3]
    • It’s also nice to have a reason to get dressed in the morning. Even if you don’t have plans for the day, try putting on some clothes and heading out the door.
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Socialize with others.

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  1. If you don’t know anyone in the area, join a club or a group to meet new people with the same interests as you. Try heading to your local community center or library to stay in contact with other people. [4]
    • The more social you are outside of your home, the easier it will be to live on your own.
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Connect with people online.

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  1. You can reach out to your friends and family members for a video chat or a phone call every now and then. Stay connected with your friends via social media or online hangouts over Zoom. Even if you’re alone physically, you can still talk to people on the web. [5]
    • Connecting with people online is a great way to combat any loneliness you might feel, especially during the holidays.
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Go on adventures by yourself.

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  1. Want to go on a vacation to Mexico? Do it! Want to check out the new museum that just opened up? Go for it! Don’t limit yourself on what you can do, and be open to having fun, new experiences on your own. [6]
    • If you feel wary about heading out on your own, try carrying pepper spray with you.
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Pick up a new hobby.

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  1. Maybe you can learn the guitar or get really good at swimming long distances. Whatever it is, pour your heart into it and learn a new skill. It will keep you busy and enrich your life without anyone else around. [7]
    • If you end up taking a class, that’s a great way to meet new people!
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Adopt a pet.

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  1. If you’re feeling a bit lonely, consider getting a dog or a cat to keep you company. Or, go for a smaller animal, like a hamster, a lizard, or a snake. Having an animal to play with and interact with can really boost your mood when you’re alone. [8]
    • Adopting a dog is also a great way to get yourself out of the house. Most dogs need 1 to 2 walks per day, so you’ll have to leave your home at least once.
    • Check out local animal shelters nearby to give a homeless pet their forever home.
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Challenge your lonely or negative thoughts.

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  1. If you find yourself having negative thoughts about yourself, try to counteract them with a positive one. Or, ask yourself if you have any evidence for that to be true. For example: [9]
    • If you think, “I will always be alone,” ask yourself, “How do I know that? Can I tell the future?”
    • If you think, “If I’m alone, I have to be unhappy,” ask yourself, “Do I, though? Or can I appreciate myself for who I am?”
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Distract yourself when you start to feel lonely.

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  1. If there are certain time periods or activities that make you feel alone, keep a few things around to distract yourself. If, for instance, you often feel lonely when you’re making dinner, listen to a podcast or an audiobook. Little things like this can make your life a lot more enjoyable on your own. [10]
    • The holidays are often very tough for people who are alone. If that’s the case for you, try making your own traditions! Instead of having dinner with family, you could go out to eat or see a new movie.
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Make sure you’re safe.

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  1. Make sure your doors and windows all have working locks, and turn on the porch light outside when it starts to get dark. If you’re really worried, consider setting up a security camera outside of your home in case anything happens. [11]
    • You could also adopt a large dog and get to know your neighbors as an extra defense against danger.
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Address health problems as soon as they happen.

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  1. If you start getting sick or get an injury, go to the doctor and get checked out. Living on your own means that you have to be extra aware of your health levels since there’s no one else around. [12]
    • This is especially true if you’re older. Being on your own and suffering a severe health problem can be dangerous.

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      References

      1. ↑ Jennifer Butler, MSW. Love & Empowerment Coach. Expert Interview. 31 July 2020.
      2. ↑ https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/27624679/
      3. ↑ https://www.health.harvard.edu/mind-and-mood/the-challenges-of-living-alone
      4. ↑ https://www.health.harvard.edu/mind-and-mood/the-challenges-of-living-alone
      5. ↑ https://www.health.harvard.edu/mind-and-mood/the-challenges-of-living-alone
      6. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/anxiety-files/201702/living-loneliness
      7. ↑ https://www.bhf.org.uk/informationsupport/heart-matters-magazine/wellbeing/dealing-with-loneliness
      8. ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/mental-health/mood-boosting-power-of-dogs.htm
      9. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/anxiety-files/201702/living-loneliness
      1. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/anxiety-files/201702/living-loneliness
      2. ↑ https://www.safehome.org/resources/guide-securing-home/
      3. ↑ https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/aging-place-growing-older-home

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      Being alone can feel scary or intimidating, but with a little preparation and the right mindset, you can survive being alone. If you plan to live alone, find a place that is near friends or family or close to the places you plan to go to the most, like work or school. When you live alone, you’ll need to learn to deal with lots of little things that may feel new or scary, but try not to get overwhelmed. For example, if you’re scared you’ll burn the house down if you try to cook, start small and learn how to make a simple dish or two. You can also try to embrace your freedom by personalizing your space and making your own rules and schedules. To learn how to handle a survival situation alone, keep reading!

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