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Everything you need to know about the misunderstood omega male
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You've probably heard about alpha males—but what about omega males? They're basically the opposite of an alpha, but that's not necessarily a bad thing! Where an alpha wants to lead, an omega wants to go his own way. Read on to learn more about these elusive, independent men and how they stack up to the other 6 male personality types. Maybe you know an omega male, or maybe you are one yourself.

Things You Should Know

  • Omega males don't care about social status. They follow their own counsel rather than listening to or depending on others. They're neither leaders nor followers.
  • Omega men tend to be creative, quirky, introverted, and authentic. People appreciate their helpfulness and sincerity. Their impulsivity and irreverence can become problems.
  • Omega males don't bow to any authority other than their own. They usually don't follow leaders or obey rules unless they agree with them personally.
Section 1 of 3:

Omega Male Definition

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  1. An omega man doesn't like thinking in terms of hierarchy or group dynamics. As the ultimate loner or outsider, he's the guy who goes his own way and doesn't care what other people think. [1] He's authentic, impulsive, non-judgmental, and welcoming.
    • The omega is the polar opposite of an alpha. While the alpha wants to be a leader and cares a lot about what other people think, the omega wants to do his own thing and other people's opinions don't affect him at all.
    • Omega men are often misunderstood because they're unconventional, independent, and not afraid to go their own way.
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Section 2 of 3:

Characteristics

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  1. An omega man doesn't need anybody else to go where he wants to go and do what he wants to do in life. He's capable of doing everything on his own. He'd rather learn how to do things himself than rely on others. [2]
    • Being independent also means shying away from any responsibilities, especially those that require him to answer to anyone else.
    • The downside of this trait is that he can have a hard time asking for help when he actually does need it. He may not express his needs, meaning he may struggle more than he needs to.
  2. The confident omega does what he wants to do, wears what he wants to wear, and says what he wants to say. He doesn't really care what society says about his choices. He tends to have an eclectic, bold taste that some people might regard as weird, but it suits him just fine. [3]
    • Many omegas tend to flout gender norms as well. Societal notions of masculinity mean nothing to the omega man. If wearing heels or eyeliner makes him feel good, that's what he's going to do.
    • Unfortunately, some immature omegas may experiment with things that are risky or even illegal in the name of curiosity.
  3. He never lost his childlike sense of wonder. His wide-eyed curiosity keeps him from having preconceived notions. He's more likely to be hopeful and optimistic than cynical and jaded. [4]
    • Some omegas have a dark sense of humor. This can be amusing with the right company, but inconsiderate in the wrong circumstances. It's best for omega men to be discerning about a situation.
  4. Omegas like to be creative and fix things, so they're always looking for ways to do that. But don't be surprised if his fixes are completely unconventional! Omegas may come up with unique "life hacks" that they're excited to share. [5]
    • People often seek out his advice because of his out-of-the-box thinking. His solution probably won't be anything they would have thought of, but it'll work like a charm.
  5. He's unique and has a lot of diverse interests that really come through in his style choices and the way he acts. Even though he's introverted, he's not afraid to make a scene when he's out in public, as long as whatever he's doing is entertaining to him. [6]
    • He's not seeking attention and he doesn't care if he gets it. But because he's so different, he does tend to draw stares and whispers wherever he goes.
  6. The omega male doesn't care what anyone thinks. This man won't do something just because someone tells him he should. He's just not interested in how other people think he should lead his life. [7]
    • He's also not one to ask for advice—he's confident enough to make up his own mind without validation from anyone else.
  7. The omega's childlike curiosity and lack of concern for others' opinions mean he doesn't tend to judge other people either. He's always happy to listen to what you have to say (he's a great listener) and he's not going to condemn you for making a decision that might go against the grain. [8]
    • He appreciates different viewpoints and tends to listen without challenging. This can make him hard to pin down—he won't always let on whether he agrees with you.
    • Because he's non-confrontational and tends to go his own way, he's not a guy who always has to be right. He's perfectly fine agreeing to disagree.
  8. The omega male has a reputation for not being great with other people, especially when dating. But it's really just that he prefers his own company to anyone else's. In a relationship, omegas tend to be skeptical of anyone who tries to fit him into a specific role or box or pressure him to conform to their (or society's) expectations. [9]
    • He's definitely not going to get married and have kids just because that's what society expects him to do—although he will do it if that's what he really wants.
    • Omegas are more likely to have non-traditional relationships that are better suited to their own needs. For example, he might be polyamorous or ethically non-monogamous.
  9. Omegas tend toward niche hobbies and interests that don't attract a lot of people. They also get bored pretty easily, so they're likely to jump around among a lot of different, completely unrelated pursuits rather than focusing on one thing. [10]
    • Since omegas aren't very competitive and don't care about being either leaders or followers, don't expect them to be into sports (especially team sports like football and hockey).
    • An omega guy is frequently going to be drawn to activities that allow him to express his creativity, such as painting, woodworking, or fashion design.
  10. While he may enjoy socializing with people he likes, he also needs plenty of alone time to recharge. If you see him out at an event or social function, he'll likely be camped out somewhere on the fringes and he won't stay long. [11]
    • If you're in a relationship with an omega male, be understanding of the fact that he needs his alone time. It's nothing personal—he just needs to recharge.
    • Typically, an omega has a small, close-knit group of friends. A lot of his friends will be people he was more or less forced to hang out with, such as his old college roommate or his lab partner.
  11. When the omega male offers help, he has no ulterior motives. He genuinely likes to be helpful to others—not to gain their approval, but because he wants to feel useful. He has a lot of empathy and understands what it feels like to be shunned or brushed aside by others, so he doesn't want anyone else to feel that way. [12]
    • When an omega guy helps you, he won't expect anything in return. In fact, he'll probably get uncomfortable and shrug it off if you try to make a big deal out of it.
  12. The omega male doesn't care about having the trendiest gadgets or the latest styles. He's more concerned with utility than appearance—something's value for him is in what it does for him and how it enriches his life, not its brand or how much it cost. [13]
    • The flip side of this is that he's not the most ambitious guy. He's happy with where he's at, not constantly chasing the next big thing. His goals may be modest or unconventional.
  13. Omegas don't tally who wins or who loses. He doesn't see someone else's success as his own failure. On the contrary, he's more likely to believe that when one person wins, everyone wins. He's happy to celebrate anyone's victory and doesn't see it as taking anything from his own life. [14]
    • For an omega, there's plenty to go around, so there's no need to fight over anything. If someone else needs something more than he does, he'll gladly give it up.
    • Being non-competitive also means the omega male isn't very ambitious. He's not trying to get ahead in business and he's unlikely to be an entrepreneur. The idea of "beating out the competition" just doesn't sit well with him.
  14. Omegas don't like to be leaders or take on too much responsibility, so when they get to the point in a career where they're likely to be promoted, they're just as likely to bounce to something else. An omega guy also gets bored easily, so by the time he's mastered a field (if not before), he's ready to move on. [15]
    • Because they don't do well with hierarchy, omegas are more likely to be self-employed or to have several side hustles rather than a single stream of income.
    • An omega male likes the flexibility that freelance work can give him because he only wants to work when he wants to.
  15. There's something appealing about his childlike zest for life, his quirky authenticity, and his "live and let live" attitude. And because the omega guy has no ulterior motives and isn't trying to get ahead of anyone else, he has no reason to be anyone other than himself. [16]
    • Omegas rarely, if ever, lie. While they care about your feelings, they usually respect you too much to deceive you. And the idea of lying for social status makes no sense to them.
    • An omega man has enough empathy to read a situation. Even though he doesn't feel the need to impress anyone, he's not going to intentionally hurt anyone either.
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Section 3 of 3:

Omega Vs. Other Types

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  1. The alpha male craves to be the leader, the center of attention. He needs all eyes on him and he needs to feel important. The omega man, on the other hand, will be off to the side. He doesn't care if people pay attention to him or listen to him, and has no desire to lead a group. He'd prefer to go his own way. [17]
    • Some people interpret this omega male behavior as anti-social, but it's not necessarily that. He doesn't need to be the leader of the pack to feel fulfilled—he feels fulfilled just by being himself.
    • In a romantic relationship, the alpha male also wants to be the leader, the one who's in charge. The omega male has a more equal relationship where he and his partner are independent of each other.
    • The alpha male tends to care a lot about his appearance and strives to suit society's norms. The omega male doesn't care about what society thinks and his appearance reflects that. He dresses and grooms himself in a way that makes him feel comfortable and free. [18]
  2. The omega male doesn't follow anyone but himself. If that means going against a leader, that's fine—although he'd prefer to stay apart from them altogether. The beta male, on the other hand, needs authority and will follow a leader, even sometimes at the expense of himself or his own values. [19]
    • Ultimately, betas seek approval and don't want to disappoint anyone around them. Omegas, on the other hand, are going to do what they want regardless of what anyone else thinks or feels.
    • While both omegas and betas are reserved, the beta male is also friendly to everyone. The omega male, on the other hand, is more standoffish. [20]
  3. An omega male is happy with what he has and who he is. He enjoys his quiet time and small social circle. The delta, though, dreams of having a large and interesting group of friends and doing all kinds of amazing things with them. He gets lonely more easily. [21]
    • Deltas see themselves more as "normal people." They do what society expects of them and accept its boundaries. Omegas ignore social expectations, and a few revel in breaking them.
  4. Gammas are definitely people-pleasers who will do anything to smooth over conflict and ensure that everyone's happy. Contrast that with an omega guy, who's always going to do what he wants and doesn't mind if some people disapprove. [22]
    • Gamma men don't cross boundaries as much as omega men can. They would never step on anybody's toes and they go out of their way to make sure they haven't unintentionally offended or upset someone.
    • Gammas tend to be followers, another thing that sets them apart from omegas. They want to be part of tight-knit groups and follow a trusted leader, unlike omegas, who prefer to carve their own paths alone.
  5. Sigmas and omegas are alike in a lot of respects—they're both introverted, assertive, and prefer to go their own way. But the sigma man tends to plan far into the future and never takes a step without calculating the risks involved. The omega man, on the other hand, just does whatever he feels like doing in the moment. [23]
    • Sigmas risk missing out on good things because they spend so much time planning for the future. Omegas risk messing up situations because of impulse decisions.
    • Omegas may make impulsive choices, such as quitting a job without having a backup plan. A sigma wouldn't quit a job without having their finances in order and lining up another job to take its place.
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