Unkind words can really sting, especially when they come from someone you love. If you just can’t stop thinking about something hurtful your husband said to you, don’t worry. There are things you can do to help yourself heal and move on. In this article, we’ll talk you through some of the best ways to get past your hurt.
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QuestionWhat does it mean if your partner says hurtful things?Allen Wagner is a licensed marriage and family therapist based in Los Angeles, California. He received his Master's in Psychology from Pepperdine University in 2004. He specializes in working with individuals and couples on ways they can improve their relationships. Along with his wife, Talia Wagner, he's the author of Married Roommates.A lot of times, hurtful words are said in the heat of the moment. They come from a person's fight or flight response, and tend to be an exaggeration or a product of their frustration.
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QuestionHow do you fix a relationship after saying hurtful things?Allen Wagner is a licensed marriage and family therapist based in Los Angeles, California. He received his Master's in Psychology from Pepperdine University in 2004. He specializes in working with individuals and couples on ways they can improve their relationships. Along with his wife, Talia Wagner, he's the author of Married Roommates.Take time to backtrack and correct the hurtful thing that you said. A lot of times, couples tend to sweep hurtful comments under the carpet, but this just creates fodder for future arguments.
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- If your husband regularly uses words to hurt, belittle, or threaten you, then this is an abusive behavior pattern. [15] X Research source Get advice from a therapist, a doctor, or someone else you can trust if you think you may be in an emotionally abusive relationship.Thanks
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- ↑ https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_to_deal_with_mean_people
- ↑ Allen Wagner, MFT, MA. Marriage & Family Therapist. Expert Interview. 24 September 2021.
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/articles/200312/how-fix-your-hurt-feelings-1
- ↑ https://www.understood.org/articles/en/9-tips-for-having-difficult-conversations-with-your-partner
- ↑ Allen Wagner, MFT, MA. Marriage & Family Therapist. Expert Interview. 24 September 2021.
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/articles/200312/how-fix-your-hurt-feelings-1
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/articles/200312/how-fix-your-hurt-feelings-1
- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/blog/we-are-responsible-for-our-own-feelings
- ↑ https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_to_deal_with_mean_people
- ↑ https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/better_than_sex_and_appropriate_for_kids
- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/blog/letting-go-of-the-past-why-memories-remain-painful-over-time#3
- ↑ https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/forgive_andfeel_happier
- ↑ https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_to_overcome_your_brains_fixation_on_bad_things#
- ↑ Allen Wagner, MFT, MA. Marriage & Family Therapist. Expert Interview. 24 September 2021.
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/rediscovering-love/201107/hostile-venting-mean-phrases-scar-intimate-relationships
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