10+ Ways to Tell if a Libra Man Is Playing You

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If you’ve been chatting with a Libra man, you may get swept up in how charming he is. Even though Libras usually show their love to their partners, it’s sometimes hard for them to share their feelings. [1] If you’re concerned whether or not a Libra man is playing games with your head or serious about your relationship, don’t worry! We’ll go over a bunch of red flags to look out for so you can tell if your man truly wants to build your connection.

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He gives others more attention than you.

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  1. Libra men really care about their social lives and love attention, so try to notice if they’re holding conversations with other people more than you. Pay attention to if they loop you into the conversation when they’re talking to someone else or not. If you notice that he ignores you or seems more excited talking to someone else, it could be a sign that he’s playing with your feelings. [2]
    • It’s normal for Libra men to enjoy everyone’s company, but it’s not a good sign if they leave you out.
    • Try talking to the guy if you notice he’s not giving you as much attention. Since Libras are more social, he may not realize that he’s not including you.
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He doesn’t initiate conversations.

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  1. [3] Libra men want to stay in touch with the people that they’re close with. Look back through your messages with the guy and see if you’ve been the one that’s had to start every conversation with him. If he’s losing interest or only trying to test you, then it’s probably a sign that he’s not interested anymore. [4]
    • Libra men might still reply to your messages quickly since they don’t want to hurt your feelings or start a confrontation.
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He won’t commit to plans.

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  1. [5] Since Libras hate making people upset and want to avoid it, they may not agree to any plans that are even a few weeks out. If you did have a plan with a Libra man, he won’t want to hurt your feelings, so he may cancel at the last minute saying he’s busy with something else. There’s a chance he’s keeping his distance because he doesn’t want to hurt your feelings or he may be waiting for you to end it. [6]
    • Watch out if he says things like “maybe” or “it depends” whenever you suggest something since it could mean he’s non-committal.
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He won’t act as affectionate.

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  1. [7] If a Libra man likes you a lot, he’ll want to be affectionate and show he cares by hugging you or holding your hand when you’re together. If you notice that he’s starting to pull away from you or seems more distracted when you try to be affectionate towards him, he may not want a serious relationship with you. [8]
    • It may take a little time for a Libra man to show his affection, so if you just started a relationship, be a little patient to see if his behavior changes.
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He’s only into physical intimacy.

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  1. Libra men are really good at flattering other people, so it’s easier for them to be physically intimate with others. Look back at your conversations to see if he’s eager when you talk about sex but doesn’t say much when you discuss other topics. If you mainly only see or talk to each other when it leads to something intimate, then he might just be using you. [9]
    • Check the times when he sends you text messages. If it’s only late at night, then it could be a red flag.
    • If you’re worried that he’s only using you for sex, then you could consider abstaining from sex until he decides to commit to you.
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He hides his feelings.

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  1. Even though Libras are more reserved with their emotions, they’ll still be in touch with their emotions. As your relationship grows, the guy will eventually tell you how he feels if they see you as a serious partner. If you’ve been chatting with the guy for a while and you still don’t have an idea about his feelings, then he may be avoiding getting too attached to you. [10]
    • The guy also won’t open up about his hopes and dreams for the future if he doesn’t see you as a serious relationship.
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He starts criticizing you often.

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  1. A Libra man will usually approach things with an unbiased opinion, so they’ll tend to see things from your point of view. [11] However, if your guy gets more argumentative or makes you feel more insecure, it could be a sign he’s trying to push you away without actually bringing up your relationship. If you don’t feel respected when he talks about you, it’s probably a sign he’s playing you. [12]
    • Mention when he’s starting to call you out for things and ask him why he’s doing it so you can know for sure.
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He doesn’t introduce you to his loved ones.

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  1. Libra men value their relationships with the people they’re close with, but they worry about the people they bring into their life. [13] The next time he mentions his friends or family, ask if you can meet them. If he keeps making excuses, you should be a little suspicious of his intentions. [14]
    • If you know any of a Libra man’s friends already, try to get close with them since the guy trusts their opinions.
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He doesn’t make you a priority.

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  1. If a Libra man is serious about your relationship, he’ll let you know that you’re important in his life. He’ll text and call you, and he’ll want to make time to get together and build your bond. If your guy tends to disappear or makes plans without you, then there’s a chance that he’s just playing you and isn’t fully invested. [15]
    • Think back to any dates you’ve had with the guy. Was he the one that set them up or have you taken the lead most times?
    • Tell the guy if you notice that you’re planning all your get-togethers. If he still doesn’t change after you confront him, then it’s a real sign that he’s not interested.
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He doesn’t have your back.

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  1. Libra men are extremely supportive of the people they care about. If he’s always cheering you on and rooting for you when things get tough, he really does want to keep building your relationship. When a Libra man doesn’t put in the effort or completely stops being your cheerleader through hard times, it might be a sign that he wants to move on to something new. [16]
    • If he disagrees with a lot of points you make in private and public, it may be another sign that he’s lost interest.
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He gets defensive talking about the relationship.

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  1. Libra men don’t like conflict and will try to deflect tough conversations back on how they feel. Try to bring up how you’re feeling and ask him if there’s anything wrong. He may try to make you feel bad for bringing up the topic in the first place to try and ignore the conversation. If he starts getting upset easily about the topic, then it could be a sign he’s trying to hide something. [17]
    • Don’t be afraid to end things if you don’t feel like the guy is going to put any more effort into your relationship.
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What are the positive and negative traits of libra men?
WikiCassowaryReader988
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I've gone out a couple times with a libra guy and I've heard conflicting opinions about libras so I'm curious what anyone can tell me about libra men generally and in relationships? are they cheaters or are they generally pretty loyal? do they prefer to pursue or be chased? how do you keep a libra guy interested/attract him? What are the pros and cons of dating a libra man?
Angel Eyedealism
Astrologer & Performance Artist
Libra is ruled by Venus, and Libra men tend to be very attractive people, and being in a relationship is extremely important to them. However, Libras flip flop, so when a Libra man is in a relationship, he wants to be out of it and when he's out of it, all he thinks about is being in one. They're constantly trying to balance things. In a relationship with a Libra guy, you definitely want to appeal to his sense of aesthetics, you definitely want to be not rude or gross around a Libra man. He gets turned off by somebody who’s coarse, wants a woman that is refined and intellectual, because he’s an intellectual. It's an Air sign. The Air sign loves intellectuals, but it's a Venus-based sun sign. So he definitely wants a woman who is attractive, but also intelligent.

You can tell a Libra man is playing games if he becomes cold and distant, or not engaged. If he goes off by himself, then that's a really bad sign, because he's supposed to be balancing his energy with your energy. Libras find themselves through their partner. So if he becomes evasive, that means he's not interested in you. Libras are so polite, they won't necessarily come out and say they don't want to be with you, but they'll do these evasive maneuvers.
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In my experience, Libras are the most devoted, engaged, honest, open, genuine, completely committed men possible. They love every last shred of you, good, bad or otherwise… they see who really are no matter what “state” you’re in, and love you because of your faults and flaws, and not not despite them. They definitely have a “standard” in mind for anybody they will consider being with, but once they decide you’ve ‘made the cut’, they accept that you’re human and not some flawless “ideal” who isn’t allowed to have your imperfect moments (ie not looking perfect, sick with a stomach bug or stuffed nose, bad hair days, flop clothes, etc). Once they know you’re CAPABLE of looking and acting “flawlessly” when needed, they get over the fact nobody is actually flawless, including you.

And I truly cannot understand anybody says they are “flaky”… in my experience, they are like rocks! I learned what “I’ve got you” meant for the first time in my life with my Libra… No matter where I was, or what I needed, DONE!!! if I sent a text and said “I need to talk to you”, the phone was ringing with an instant of hitting send… If I said “I need you“, the doorbell will be ringing before I could blink. If they heard or sensed any distress or shred of upsetment, sadness, stress, anxiety… FORGET IT!!! I couldn’t even tolerate that… and it ate him a lot if he couldn’t fix it or make it better for me. If I was in any kind of trouble…flat tire, broken leg, didn’t matter!!! Flew to my side instantly.

And there is absolutely no tolerance for anybody hurting me… At all… Under any circumstances. At times I feared for people who he even perceived as having hurt me in any way. And there was absolutely absolutely nothing he wouldn’t do for me… NOTHING.

I don’t think I ever knew what it meant to be “adored”, how I SHOULD AND DESERVE TO BE TREATED AND LOVED, OR even what being “loved” really meant until along came my Libra. I’ll never again accept anything less from anybody in life.

Maybe I lucked out! But if that’s the case, I’ve never been luckier.

PS I’m an Aquarius… Pretty true Aquarius, but not at all distant or “needing my space“… That is one part has never applied to me. My Libra never wanted to be without me…and I LOVED it
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