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    How can I make a guy obsessed with me over text message?
    John Keegan
    Dating Coach
    John Keegan is a Dating Coach and motivational speaker based in New York City. With over 10 years of professional experience, he runs The Awakened Lifestyle, where he uses his expertise in dating, attraction, and social dynamics to help people find love. He teaches and holds dating workshops internationally, from Los Angeles to London and from Rio de Janeiro to Prague. His work has been featured in the New York Times, Humans of New York, and Men's Health.
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    Try giving him compliments to show your interest and make him feel good. A little playful teasing can also make you sound more flirty.
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    What if that guy is my best friend and he's also my other best friend's boyfriend? He tells me he doesn't like her anymore and needs my help, and tells me he's crushing on me.
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    First off, that is wrong on so many levels. Cheating is never something you want to be involved with. All it will get you is a whole lot of drama. Tell your friend what is going on and see what you can work out from there. But whatever you do, do not cheat on your best friend.
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    I sent my crush a text saying, "hey handsome" and he replied right away with "lol." Did I miss something or what?
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    He might just have felt weird or been surprised if you never talked/texted him that way before. Or he doesn't think he's handsome and thinks that was a funny thing to call him. It also kind of depends on your age; if you're in your early teens or something, that might not be language that people your age tend to use and it might be a little awkward. Rather than using the exact example from the article, you should just follow the general guidelines and say something that comes naturally to you.
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    How can I keep a guy's interest?
    Community Answer
    Be yourself. Don't try to turn him on: if it's there it's there, if it's not it's not.
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    What if someone likes you but they're dating someone else?
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    Wait it out. Don't be a homewrecker and ruin his relationship. If you do end up together you will be starting up your relationship off on a negative note and he will remember it. Wait until he's single before you start dating.
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    What can I do if he doesn't like me?
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    Unfortunately, you can't make someone like you. The best, and healthiest, thing for you to do would be to move on. Flirting with the guy in hopes of getting him to like you will only push him further away from you. If you are already friends with this guy, you might even lose his friendship entirely.
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    How do I make a guy want me more?
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    Be independent and confident. Guys love someone who is able to stand up for themselves. Don't text him constantly. If you text him once or twice a week and tell him about all the fun stuff you've been doing, he will want to be part of it. JUST BE YOURSELF. There is no faster way to lose a guy than to pretend like you are someone else. Don't pretend to like everything he likes or he will get weirded out. Just be yourself, have your own interests, and pretty soon, he will want you like candy.
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    What can I do if he's playing hard to get when he really likes me?
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    Play hard to get back. Show him that you will not chase him.
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    How can I tell if a guy likes me?
    Community Answer
    If he's coming up with reasons to text with you, he likes you.
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    How can I turn a guy on if he doesn't know me or doesn't like me?
    Community Answer
    If the guy doesn't know you, introduce yourself to him and go from there. If he doesn't like you, it's best to move on and find someone who does.
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    How do I text a guy I just met?
    Community Answer
    Get his number, then try to meet up outside of school or the place where you met him. Than get to know him a little better and follow the steps above.
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    I have a guy's number, and we talk sometimes, and I think he likes me, but I don't know what to say in a text. Any ideas?
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    Text your BFF. Sometimes they have the best advice on what to say. Or ask him a question so that you can make a conversation out of that. You could also give him a compliment if you're completely out of ideas.
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    I like a guy but he lives 5-6 hours away from me and I was wondering how do I know if he really likes me the way I do him?
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    If he is willing to get together with you even if you live far apart he will show that he is willing to make the time and sacrifice to go the distance and see you. This is a good indicator that he likes you.
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    How can I think of topics to talk to my crush about?
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    Think about things that you know he is interested in or participates in. For example, if he is part of the basketball team, ask him, "Hey, so how is basketball going?" or "Are you enjoying basketball?" If you don't know enough about him, ask him simple questions like, "How many siblings do you have?" or "What do you like to do in your free time?"
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    How do I know if a guy likes me or not when he always replies late?
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    I have the same issue. My boyfriend always responds after a few hours. My advice is that you need to kind of look at how he behaves in general. If he flirts with you, tries to spend time with you, etc. he likes you. He might be too busy to reply to your text right away, or he might be insecure and trying to look less eager.
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    Is there an article like this for guys about girls?
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    Don't be a player. When you're messaging her don't let her know you're also texting some other girl or that you're with someone else. Compliment her, and keep the conversation going. Ask her how her day has been etc.
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    My boyfriend asks me to entertain him and I never know how. I always feel like I bore him. What should I do?
    Community Answer
    Ask if he wants to play 20 questions and make it as flirty as you want!
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    He has a girlfriend but he does not want to let go of me and I love him too. What should I do?
    laone bosima
    Community Answer
    Let him know your feelings about that and tell him to make a choice between the two of you. Also, give him time to make that choice.
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    How can I get my ex to want me again?
    Community Answer
    Well if you truly miss him, you can get back together with him. You just have to make sure that he is single. Tell him that you miss him and that you would like to try dating again.
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    How do I turn a guy on through text messages if he doesn't return texts?
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    If he doesn't return your texts, he probably doesn't like you. It would be best to move on and find somebody who is actually interested in you, or just focus on yourself for a while.
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    How do I ask a guy I like to homecoming without being obvious and awkward about it?
    Community Answer
    Just ask him! In my experience, it is the simplest way to do it.
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    I started dating a close friend, we were together for over a year, then he broke up with me. Now I've lost my friend, and I'm still in love with him. What should I do?
    Ngann Nguyen
    Community Answer
    MOVE ON is the only answer I can give you. It didn't work out. He's made his decision and you'll be wasting your time if you try to get him to change his mind.
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    He says he likes spending time with me, even though he's got a girlfriend. He said he was gonna end things with his girlfriend if things were stable between us, but I feel insecure about all if this?
    Community Answer
    Cheating is never the best choice. If you know he has a girlfriend, you should back things up just a step. If that other girl knows you two like each other, you are gonna be in the middle of a whole bunch of drama. So, basically, back your relationship up and take it slowly. Also, be honest with him. If he truly likes you, he will respect your opinions on the situation.
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    Would these steps work on girls as well?
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    For the most part, yes. You might have to modify some things a little bit though. (For example, you would probably want to replace "Hey handsome" with "Hey beautiful" or something similar.)
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    How can I be sure he loves me when he doesn't call me?
    Community Answer
    Honestly, assuming you're in a relationship with said person, you need to confront him if you haven't already, and tell him that his lack of calls is making you feel insecure about your relationship. It will definitely be difficult and nerve-wracking, but it must be done. Make sure you pay close attention to how he reacts. If he blows your concerns off, he's probably not the one for you.
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    How do I turn a guy on through text messaging and know he likes me when we have never seen each other?
    Community Answer
    Just be yourself, and don't pretend to be someone you're not.
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    I have a crush on someone, but I think I've fallen in love with a boy who is already in a relationship. Can you give me any advice?
    Community Answer
    If the guy is already seeing someone, don't try to break them up or get involved with him. Just get to know him as a friend for now. Circumstances may change in the future.
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    How do I turn a guy on through text message if I am not sure about his feelings for me?
    Community Answer
    Take small steps first, send some casually flirty messages. If his response is positive, then he might have feelings for you.
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    How can I get a guy to text me first?
    Happy Walrus
    Community Answer
    If you asked for his number, chances are he wants you to text him first. Unfortunately, if this is the case you might be waiting awhile. You can instead start by texting something like "Eric?" or whatever his name is. He might respond with "yea, who's this?" or "What's up?" these are just a few examples. At this point he's asked who you are or how you're doing and you can start the conversation how you normally would.
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    How do I get the guy I like to kiss me?
    Community Answer
    Kiss him first. Don't be afraid to put yourself out there and make the first move.
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