Flirty or Friendly? 12 Signs Your Coworker Might Actually Be Flirting with You

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Since you’re around your coworkers so much, you often build up a fun rapport with most of them. But differentiating between them being nice and them being flirty can be tough, especially in the workplace. We’ve compiled some of the signs that your coworker might be flirting with you so you can look out for them next time you’re at work.

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They always take a lunch break with you.

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    If you notice that your coworker always makes it a priority to take breaks with you, they probably like you a little more than as a friend . This is especially true if they offer to take you out or buy you lunch a lot, too. [1]
    • There’s a reason your coworker likes talking to you when you’re not working! It’s easier to chat and make conversation when you both aren’t busy.
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They always stop by for a chat.

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    If your coworker walks over to where you are a lot to strike up a conversation, there’s a good chance they’re flirting with you. [2] However, if they just like to chat with everyone, you might see them talking to your other coworkers just as much. [3]
    • For instance, maybe you work on the third floor and your coworker works on the fourth floor. If they’re constantly coming downstairs, they probably just want to see you.
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They compliment you, but no one else.

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    If you notice that they tend to reserve compliments for you and you alone, they probably have a little crush on you . [4] Keep in mind, though, that if they compliment everyone, they might just be a nice person.
    • Pay attention to how your coworker acts around other people. If you see a difference between your interactions and everyone else’s, that’s a big sign that they like you.
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They catch your eye often.

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    When you make eye contact with them, they’ll probably smile or even give you a little wave. [5] This is a huge indication that they’re flirting with you, not just being friendly. [6]
    • Someone who didn’t mean to catch your eye will probably glance away quickly or look down at the floor.
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They lean in toward you when you chat.

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    Leaning in while talking is a huge indicator of attraction . If you find that your coworker often stands closer to you than they do to other people, they’re probably trying to flirt with you. If you want to flirt back , you can lean in close to match their body language. [7]
    • Keep in mind that different people from different cultures have different ideas about personal space. If you aren’t sure, watch how close your coworker stands to other people when they chat.
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They text you outside of work hours.

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    They might even message you on Slack or Teams. This is an excuse to talk to you outside of work, and it usually means that they like you. [8]
    • The conversation might start out work-related, but it will probably evolve into a normal conversation eventually.
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They seem jealous of your romantic endeavors.

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    If you’re telling people at your workplace about your love life, your coworker might seem extra invested. This is probably because they have feelings for you, but they just don’t know how to say it. [9]
    • On the flip side, they might actually encourage you to go out on dates with other people. This probably means that they’re nervous or they have mixed feelings about their crush on you.
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They always give you attention in group settings.

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    They probably face their body toward yours, too. [10] If you’re standing with a group of coworkers, the one who’s trying to flirt with you will probably ask you questions or laugh a little too hard at your jokes. If you aren’t sure whether or not it’s happening, ask your other coworkers—they’ve probably picked up on it. [11]
    • They might also try to pull you aside to have a private conversation instead of participating in the group.
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They touch you on the arm or shoulder.

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    Breaking the touch barrier by patting someone on the arm or the back is a great way to tell that someone is interested in you. This is especially true if your coworker isn’t touchy-feely with anyone else at your workplace. [12]
    • Some people do tend to be more touchy-feely. If your coworker gives people hugs or touches them a lot, they might not be into you.
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They keep the conversation going.

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    If the conversation comes to a natural stopping point, your coworker will probably throw out a new topic really quickly. They might not want the conversation to end, so you could find yourself chatting with them for much longer than you were expecting to. [13]
    • Your coworker also might just be a chatty person, in which case they probably do that to everyone. However, if it’s only you, then they’re probably flirting.
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They ask if you’re going to work functions.

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    When they ask, it means they probably want to see you outside of normal work hours. If you say that you are going, they might get super excited and say they can’t wait to spend more time with you. [14]
    • For example, your coworker might check in to see if you’re going to the work holiday party or not. If you can’t make it, they’ll probably act sad or disappointed.
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They’ve created an inside joke with you.

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    If something funny happened at work and your coworker is constantly talking about it, they’re probably trying to form a connection with you. [15] They might bring it up pretty often, even when it doesn’t really seem relevant. [16]
    • If your coworker is a silly or goofy person, this might not mean that they’re into you.

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