There are a lot of reasons you might not text a guy back, but what is he thinking when this happens? No two guys are the same, and there’s a wide variety of thoughts he might have after you stop lighting up his phone screen. If a guy is interested in you, chances are he’ll be inspired to try even harder to get your attention. However, some might move on or give up after too much silence. To help you predict how he’ll react, we’ve put together a thorough list of what guys think when you don't text back. If you’re ready to jump inside the male mind, keep scrolling!
Things You Should Know
- He might not worry too much about not hearing from you—he might just think you are busy and will get back to him when you can.
- If you have a newer connection, or this behavior is new, he might think you are playing hard to get, texting another guy, or even ghosting him.
- He might also feel frustrated, worried, or confused by your lack of response.
Steps
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- Not all guys react the same way when someone stops texting them. Use your judgment and knowledge of the person to decide whether this is a good strategy.Thanks
- If he seems genuinely worried about your safety (like if you say you’ll text him when you get home and you never do), it might be a good idea to break your silence so he isn’t too worried.Thanks
- If he’s a nice guy but you’re just not interested, consider sending a message like “Hey, it was really nice texting with you but I just don’t think we’re a match” rather than ghosting.Thanks
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References
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/liking-the-child-you-love/202002/is-the-person-youre-dating-playing-head-games-are-you
- ↑ https://positivepsychology.com/communication-in-relationships/
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-attraction-doctor/201606/how-and-why-to-play-hard-to-get
- ↑ https://www.scienceofpeople.com/someone-likes-you/
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/in-the-name-love/202208/the-problem-playing-hard-get
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/liking-the-child-you-love/202002/is-the-person-youre-dating-playing-head-games-are-you
- ↑ https://positivepsychology.com/anger-management-therapy/
- ↑ https://www.spring.org.uk/2023/02/playing-hard-to-get.php
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/in-the-name-love/202208/the-problem-playing-hard-get