How to Make a Guy Chase You over Text

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Texting a guy you like can feel like solving a puzzle, especially when you’re trying to get him to chase you. Striking the balance between showing too much interest and not showing enough isn’t as hard as it seems—and if you do it right, you’ll have him thinking about you all the time. Read through these tips and tricks to catch a guy’s interest and keep it as long as you want.

This article is based on an interview with our professional relationship coach, Imad Jbara. Check out the full interview here.

1

Talk about what you’re doing that day.

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    If he asks what you’re doing, feel free to let him know that you’re out with friends or you’re going to grab drinks with a buddy. If he doesn’t ask, feel free to tell him that you’ll text him later because you have plans. [1]
    • You might say something like, “It’s been fun chatting, but I gotta go! Heading out with a friend. Catch ya later!”
    • Or, “I’m heading to the beach this weekend! What are you up to?”
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Keep some details about your life to yourself.

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    Instead of divulging everything about yourself, let him in a little, but don’t tell him everything. That way, he knows there’s much more to you than might appear. You might try saying things like: [2]
    • “Just had the weirdest day! So many strange coincidences…”
    • “I moved here a few years ago, but I’ve lived all around the country. My childhood was kind of an adventure!”
3

Ask him thoughtful questions about himself.

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    Think of a few fun questions that you might ask him to get to know him a little better, like what he does for fun or where his family is from. Then, try to ask one or two questions every time you two text. He’ll remember you as the nice person who wants to know more about him, and that will get him thinking about you a lot. Try to ask open-ended ones that he can’t just answer with yes or no. You could ask questions like: [3]
    • What’s your favorite way to spend the weekend?
    • Where do you go to relax?
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4

Send a fun picture of your location.

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    Texting messages back and forth all day can get a little boring, so try to spice it up with a fun picture. Plus, you can show off your photography skills, and it may just lead to him asking you questions about the cool shot you snapped. [4]
    • For instance, if you sent him a photo of you on a hike, you could say, “Just hiked that new mountain trail! It was a doozy!”
    • Or, if you sent him a pic of a nice flower you found, you might say, “Was out walking around and spotted this!”
5

Text him the song you’re listening to.

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    A little romantic music might get him thinking about you in a different way, and sending a song is a good way to spice up a conversation. Plus, he may feel compelled to look for a song to text you back with! [5]
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6

Send him a funny meme.

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    If he’s a goofy guy, screenshot a meme you think he’d like and send it to him via text. Not only will this break up the monotony of a normal text convo, but he’ll probably think about you the next time he sees a meme you might like. [6]
    • If you aren’t sure what to send, try searching “meme” on Instagram to find one that you like.
7

Give him some sincere compliments.

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    In general, guys are looking for people who lift them up and inflate their egos. Think of some things you like about him: his personality, his humor, or even his sense of style. Then, send him a few compliments via text to make him think about you, even when you’re not there. You could try something like: [7]
    • “You’re so funny! I’ve never laughed so hard at someone else’s jokes before.”
    • “You’re such a kind person. I’m so lucky to know you.”
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8

Try a few flirty texts to kick things up a notch.

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    You don’t have to be overly flirtatious if you don’t want to, but a little teasing or some fun banter is a great way to keep him coming back for more. Try to insert a few flirty texts throughout your convo, like:
    • “Hey handsome. What are you up to?”
    • “Doing homework again?? Didn’t know I was texting a genius 😉”
    • “Can’t wait to see your cute face tomorrow!”
9

Send him something a little saucy.

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    Don’t feel pressured to send anything X-rated, but get his engine revving a little bit with a sultry text. You can talk about what you’re wearing, what you’re doing, or the fact that you wish he was here right now. Try something like:
    • “Wish I was there with you right now. The things we could do…”
    • “I can’t sleep! I keep thinking about you.”
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10

Keep your messages positive.

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    We all have bad days sometimes, but if you want this guy to chase you, you’ll want to keep a positive attitude. Tell him about the good things that happened to you that day, and try to look on the bright side of things—that way, he’ll want to text you even more. [8]
    • For instance, you might text him something like, “Just had such a good day! The weather was so nice, I spent the whole time outside. What have you been up to?”
    • Don’t forget to add in a few emojis! A smiley face or a heart can really make your message more upbeat.
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Send one text at a time.

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    You don’t want to overwhelm him with texts—that could push him away. Instead, if he’s not texting you back right now, move on with your day, and see what he’s doing later on. Hopefully, he’ll revisit the convo later and realize that he forgot to reply. [9]
    • If the guy you’re texting tends to leave you on read a lot, it might not be worth your effort. You deserve someone who will text you back, not someone who’s going to ignore you.
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Take a little while to respond.

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    For instance, if he takes 1 hour to text back, wait at least 45 minutes to respond to him. It might seem like you’re playing games, but it’s important to match his energy. Otherwise, you might seem too eager, and it could push him away. [10]
    • On the flip side, if he’s replying pretty quickly, feel free to respond fast, too. It probably means he’s not super busy, and he has a lot of time to dedicate to your conversation.
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Post fun stuff on social media.

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    If you two have added each other on Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram, keep your status updated regularly, and update your followers about what you’re doing that day. When the guy you’re texting sees what you’ve posted, he might just text you about it! [11]
    • For instance, if you’re out with your friends, post a selfie on your Instagram story to show how much fun you’re having.
    • If you’re having a chill day at home, post about the new show you’re watching or book that you’re reading.
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      1. ↑ John Keegan. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 28 September 2021.
      2. ↑ Julianne Cantarella. Dating & Relationship Coach. Expert Interview. 6 August 2021.
      3. ↑ Judith Gottesman, MSW. Matchmaker & Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 19 October 2021.
      4. ↑ John Keegan. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 25 May 2021.
      5. ↑ John Keegan. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 25 May 2021.
      6. ↑ Suzanna Mathews. Dating & Relationship Coach. Expert Interview. 18 August 2021.
      7. ↑ Imad Jbara. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 22 September 2021.
      8. ↑ Mark Rosenfeld. Dating & Relationship Coach. Expert Interview. 11 June 2021.
      9. ↑ Imad Jbara. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 22 September 2021.
      1. ↑ Imad Jbara. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 22 September 2021.
      2. ↑ Julia McCurley. Certified Professional Matchmaker. Expert Interview. 30 September 2021.

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