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Being hot is more than just a look—it's a frame of mind. Whether you're just walking down the street or stopping to have a quick conversation, if you hold yourself in confidence then everyone in your orbit will be thinking you're hot in no time. But what if you're not sure if you can be the sexy, intriguing, and hot person that you want to be?
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Allow yourself to want to be hot. Maybe you want to look like a hot guy or girl, but you're afraid you’ll be judged or looked down on. For some, wanting to be hot has negative connotations of someone being too vain or shallow. Don’t let these stereotypes and misconceptions stop you from achieving hotness. Give yourself permission to become hot.
- Being hot should be something you want and not something you feel pressured to be. Today’s society puts a lot of importance in looking attractive in a certain way, but it’s not necessarily the only way to be attractive
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Exude self-confidence. In order to be hot, you have to believe you’re hot. Have confidence in your decisions, in the way you look, and in who you are or want to be. It will also help you bounce back from setbacks and accepting difficult challenges that come your way.
- Remind yourself of what you’ve already achieved and enjoy these successes. Don’t forget how much you’ve accomplished and the goals you’ve reached in the process of trying to reach a new one.
- Don’t put too much importance on how others perceive you. If looking hot makes you feel happy, then that’s more important than what others might think.
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Have realistic body image goals. You don’t have to look like a model. You should be the shape you're happy with. Half of that means changing your body through exercise and eating healthy, but the other half is accepting your body's own uniqueness.
- It's understandable to want to reach a healthy weight level, but it's not realistic to achieve a tiny waist if you're naturally top-heavy or try to make your butt bigger if it's naturally petite. Don't ignore your own assets in the process of trying to mimic someone else's.
- Avoid labelling a certain body type as the “perfect” body. There are many kinds of bodies that are beautiful in their own way.
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Figure out what body shape you have and dress to flatter it (for women). A great outfit should accentuate your best features and minimize unflattering parts of your body. Here are some ways to dress some common body types: [1] X Research source [2] X Research source
- Apple or circle shaped: Counter the roundness and softness of your body by adding structure to your outfit, especially on top. Wear a fitted blazer or wrap dresses that create asymmetrical lines across your body. Straight-legged pants help elongate your legs and draw attention to your body vertically. Large prints and patterns will flatter you better than small prints, especially if worn on top. Avoid covering yourself up with large or loose shirts – instead, wear more form fitted items or clothes drape down your body.
- Pear or triangle shaped: Balance out your great hips by creating layers on top. A cardigan or a jacket cropped at the waist helps even out your slender top half with your curves at the bottom. Show off those great shoulders by wearing one-shouldered shirts or shirts with embellished collars. Boot-cut or slightly flared pants paired with high heels will elongate your legs.
- Hourglass shaped: You’ve got the shape everyone is looking for! To better show off those sought-after curves, dress simple. Items in solid colours with cinched waists show off your small stomach. Avoid prints that take away the spotlight from your silhouette.
- Athletic or ruler shaped: Your slender body can sometimes look too boxy so avoid stripes or cropped shirts. Try fitted tank tops with smaller straps, or halter-tops that enhance the look of your bust. High-waist pants and skirts give the illusion of that hourglass shape. Stick with soft fabrics that flow off your body to counter the hard lines of your athletic build.
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Invest in clothes tailored for your body (for men). Learn what fit suits your body best or go to a tailor to have your clothes fitted for you. There’s nothing worse than wearing clothes that are too baggy or too tight in all the wrong places.
- Shoulders: The seam where the sleeve attaches to the body should rest on top of your shoulders. They should not hang down onto your arms.
- Arms: The fabric under your armpits should be tapered to your skin but still allow motion for your arms.
- Chest: Your chest should fill out the front of your shirt so that its shape can be seen through the fabric. You should also have a full range of motion in your arms. Try reaching up, back, and forward. If you can’t do those things, then your shirt is too tight. Buttons that looked pulled and cause wrinkles are another tell tale sign that your shirt is too tight.
- Sleeves: If you’re wearing long sleeves, the cuff of your shirt should stop just at the base of your thumb.
- Pants: If you’re opting for a slim-cut or skinny pant, make sure there is a straight cut from your knees to your ankles. The cuff of your pants should never create flaps or pool at your feet. They should stop just at the ankles or little past your shoes.
- Belts: They should really only be a way to accessorize and should not actually be holding up your pants. If a belt is the only thing keeping your pants on, then they’re probably too big. [3] X Research source
- Shoes: Many stylists claim shoes are the foundation of men’s looks. An outfit is dependent on the colour and type of shoe you're wearing. So dress from the shoes up.
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Polish your look by matching simple colours with bold statement pieces. Solid coloured clothing items make statement pieces pop. Choose statement pieces like large earrings, patterned shoes, a colourful bag, or a fancy hat.
- Black is always hot and matches with almost anything. An all black outfit gives you a clean look but also gives you a little edge and mystery.
- Use the power of contrast to your advantage. Darker coloured clothing can help you achieve a more slender look or mask unappealing features. While patterns or light coloured items can highlight areas of your body you’d like to show off.
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Follow fashion trends. Fashion is always changing so keep up with the latest trends to stay hot. Although, not every trend is worth following or is flattering on everyone so pick what will look good on you and what fits with your style.
- Avoid age-inappropriate fashion trends. Being hot doesn't mean looking younger or more mature.
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Show off a little skin or wear a form-hugging outfit. A bit of sexiness can go a long way when you want to look hot. However, make sure it’s an appropriate amount of skin. You’ll know when you’re being too revealing when:
- It gets in the way of forming meaningful relationships. We live in a sex-fuelled society, so it’s not surprising when people can’t help but look at bare skin. [4] X Research source It can make people perceive you differently or draw focus away from what you have to offer and more towards what you look like to them. If this type of attention is not what you want, then it’s not the right moment to show off too much skin.
- It prevents you from furthering your career or getting hired. In most work environments, showing off too much skin is discouraged.
- You receive negative or dangerous attention. It’s difficult for many people, especially women, to show off skin without attracting negative attention. And since you can’t control other people’s reactions and actions, your safety and comfort should always come first.
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Radiate confident body language. It's not always enough to just dress the part, but you have to appear hot. And a few tricks to improve your body language can help:
- Stand tall and with purpose. Stick your chest out and keep your hands from fidgeting. The power position is often described with the image of Superman with his hands at his hips, chin high, and legs apart.
- Move steadily with your actions. Talking too fast or doing things in a hurry shows that you're nervous or anxious.
- Have a variety of expressions on your face and body. Confident people are able to express themselves naturally but won't overdo it. This makes you more approachable and open.
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Get in shape. Whether you want to achieve a certain body weight goal, or just become more physically healthy, getting in shape is a great step towards becoming hot.
- Invest in a gym membership or a personal trainer. With a trainer’s guided advice and encouragement, you can start to work on areas of your body and achieve weight goals in a safe and effective way.
- Eat healthy. Cut down on junk foods and start eating a better balanced diet.
- Exercising and eating well will make you feel more comfortable in your own skin and improve your overall mental health as well.
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Have good posture . Improving your posture not only makes you look more confident, but also has many health benefits. Fixing your posture can reduce head and back pain, inflexibility, and prevent compromised muscles.
- Assess your posture so you can work on your body’s problem areas. [5] X Research source Generally, your shoulders should be balanced and one shouldn’t appear higher than the other. They should also be aligned with your ear so your neck and head aren’t jutting forward. Your back should not be rounded and your arms should relax at your sides.
- Do posture-improving exercises everyday. They can be simple exercises like straightening your back while sitting, walking more, or stretching out those kinks. Or they can be more complicated exercises that stretch and form your back to the correct posture.
- Be conscious of how you hold yourself. It’s easy to start slumping forward when you’re working at your desk or sitting down and relaxing. Make an effort to sit in the correct position with your back straight, arms back, and head and neck aligned with your shoulders.
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Choose a trendy haircut that compliments your look and face shape. Try dyeing your hair, cutting it extremely short or getting extensions to mix it up every once in a while and give off a dynamic appearance.
- Take care of your hair. The simplest thing you can do is wash your hair and condition it. Invest in hair products or natural remedies to fight problems such as frizzy, dry, or greasy hair.
- Get a haircut every month or two to avoid split ends and the unkempt look.
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Develop a skin care routine. Your skin is the foundation of your look. Keep it clean and clear of blemishes and other problem factors by treating and protecting it. Try out different products to make sure they’re right for your skin.
- Wear sunscreen. It’s the easiest thing to forget but a little sunscreen every day can prevent wrinkles and skin discoloration.
- Moisturize your skin. Use lotion, cream, or body butter for your hands, arms, legs, and face. Lip balm helps with chapped or cracking lips.
- For oily skin, use oil-free products to cleanse your face.
- For acne prone skin, avoid touching your face or popping your pimples. Instead, wash your face with an acne cleanser or warm water and hypoallergenic soap and keep your skin well moisturized. Acne develops when oils, either from your fingers or overactive hormones and glands, mix together with dirt to clog up your pores.
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Show your cool side. Ironically, being hot means being cool. It’s a likeable quality to have that attracts people to you because of your laid back demeanour. A few cool things to do:
- Don’t try so hard. Or at least look like you’re not trying so hard. It gives the impression that you’re so smooth, you can get want you want without even trying.
- If you fidget a lot, bite your lip, stumble in your speech or am just generally nervous, try feeling cool. It’s hard to monitor or stop the nervous little ticks our body does when we're nervous so the best way to go about it is from the inside out. Feel cool and your body language will follow. [6] X Research source
- Be a little rebellious. Sometimes a little rule breaking or risk-taking is very cool and makes you appear powerful. But don't do anything illegal!
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Play up your sex appeal. There are many ways to be sexy and look sexy. Try:
- Wearing red. There have been numerous studies that the colour red is the sexiest colour. Something in our human brains are highly attracted to the colour.
- Smiling. Looking happy and approachable is very sexy. So flash those pearly whites!
- Making strong eye contact. This is a highly confident move that draws people in. Pair it up with a smile or flirtatious look to amp up the sexiness.
- Flirting. It’s a sexy and fun way to communicate with someone you’re interested in. Subtly draw attention to your body or tease your target with flirtatious looks or bold compliments.
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Be humble. The worst thing you can do is brag about how hot you are. Modesty and being gracious to others are attractive qualities. The most confident people are those who are able to build others up.
- Give compliments. If you want to attract someone’s attention, pay them a genuine compliment.
- Don’t brag and look down on others. The attention that comes with being hot can easily develop into a large ego. Your friends, family and other people will be turned off by someone who constantly needs to prove they’re hot or thinks too highly of themselves.
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QuestionHow can I achieve a sexy yet classy look?Reina LeGrand is a Photographer based in Scottsdale, Arizona. She is the owner and Lead Photographer of Bougie Boudoir Studio, a luxury boutique boudoir studio with locations in Castle Rock, CO, and Scottsdale, AZ. Reina primarily shoots in the AZ studio but works out of both studios. At Bougie Boudoir, Reina and her team celebrate the beauty and spirit of women through photography and believe that a Boudoir or Glamour Portrait Shoot is one of the most fun and life-affirming things a woman can do for herself. Their goal is for every one of their clients to feel comfortable and safe.It all comes down to the overall balance of your outfit. You could start pairing a short skirt with a top that has longer sleeves or a higher neckline to offset the sexiness. On the other hand, if you show a lot of skin in a more revealing top, balance that with longer jeans, shorts, or even just a skirt. It's all about showing enough skin to make you feel sexy and not showing so much skin that you still look classy while being sexy.
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QuestionHow can I be popular in school?Community AnswerPopularity is based on many different factors, it's important to focus on maintaining a group of close friends who share your interests instead of being in the popular clique. That being said, if you want to make more friends and gain popularity, it's important to be outgoing and social, join clubs and teams and be an active member of your school community. Attend dances, football games etc. You should also maintain good personal hygiene and dress in clean and appropriate clothing.
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QuestionVery self conscious non-binary. I want to look good but I look to feminine, and it is hard for me, since I was afab. Any tips?Jade GashCommunity AnswerMix and match your outfits with masculine and feminine items. Choose blouses and shirts considered boyish and pair up with girly items like skirts, dresses (layer a sleeveless top with a shirt, this works best). You could also try bringing in accessories that look either male or female - chunky normally works best with necklaces and bracelets. Whatever you want to pick, just carry whatever you choose for your own style!
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Tips
- In the end, find your own definition of hotness. There is common misconception that "hot" means "sexy" and being “sexy” means wearing revealing clothes or showing off a lot of skin. However, being hot can mean a variety of things. To some, looking hot boosts self-esteem and confidence. To others, being hot means being sexually attractive. There is no wrong or right way to be hot.Thanks
- Wear clothes you’re comfortable in. You might be tempted to wear something that you think is hot but isn’t comfortable on you. Don’t ignore your discomfort but rather, compromise or work up to it.Thanks
- Don't ditch your friends because you think you’re too hot for them. Being hot doesn’t mean you’re better than everyone else.Thanks
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Warnings
- You may receive unwanted or dangerous sexual advances. But remember it’s not your fault! Being hot does not give permission to others to verbally or sexually abuse you. You shouldn’t be blamed for being abused just because of the way you look.Thanks
- When developing a sexy attitude, don't get out of control. You don't want to be too cheeky or overconfident.Thanks
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References
- ↑ http://www.youbeauty.com/body-fitness-galleries/dressing-for-your-body-type/5/
- ↑ http://www.realsimple.com/beauty-fashion/dress-to-flatter-figure
- ↑ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tYN7sZfcv80
- ↑ http://www.businessinsider.com/revealing-skin-in-the-workplace-2011-11
- ↑ http://www.bodybuilding.com/fun/posture-power-how-to-correct-your-body-alignment.html
- ↑ http://time.com/82905/how-to-be-cool-5-research-backed-tips/
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While good looks play a part being hot, it's even more important to have the right frame of mind. To become hot, stick out your chest and stand tall to appear naturally confident. As you go about your day, move steadily and don’t talk too fast or be in a hurry, because that will make it seem like you’re nervous or anxious. Consider doing simple exercises to improve your posture during the day, like straightening your back while sitting, walking more, or stretching out any tight muscles. By correcting your posture and keeping your back straight, arms back, and head and neck aligned with your shoulder, you’ll naturally exude confidence. Because of social pressures, you might feel like you need to look like a model to be hot, but being happy with your body shape is an important part of being confident and hot. For more advice, like how to choose clothes that help you look hot, scroll down.
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