How to Pick a New Name as a Trans Person

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Learn to navigate an FTM, MTF, or nonbinary name change
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Many transgender people choose a new name when they transition, and for many different reasons. Some want to distance themselves from an old identity, while others want to find a new identity that’s more in line with their true self. No matter the reason, we’re here to help. We’ll show you how to find and brainstorm names, test them out, and make the new you official.

Quick Guide for Name Changes

There’s no “right” or “best” way to choose a name! Browse baby name sites, take a name from a beloved mentor, celebrity, or fictional character, or draw on your cultural, religious, or familial roots. As long as it feels good to say, it’s okay!

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Brainstorming Names

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  1. These websites are great for browsing a huge number of names, and finding one you might not have thought of otherwise. Sort the names by letter if you have a certain sound in mind, or by gender, if you want a name that presents more masculine, feminine, or even nonbinary. You can even sort by year and popularity. [1]
    • Some sites include Baby Names , Think Baby Names , and Behind the Name .
    • Consider what sort of emotional effect the name has for you. Names might feel gentle, sophisticated, quirky, or high-powered. Find one that fits your personality.
    • Look up the meaning of the name to make sure it feels right for you.
  2. This can be easier to remember and get used to for both your loved ones and yourself. For example, Samantha can turn into Samuel or Samson, Jesse can turn into Jessica, and Elliot can turn into Ellen or Ella. [2]
    • Only do this if it feels right for you. Some people want to distance themselves completely from their given name (often called a deadname), and so they choose a name that's totally different.
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  3. Janet Mock, a famous transgender rights activist, took her name from pop icon Janet Jackson. [3] Consider taking the first name of a person who inspires you, whether that's a musician, an activist, a movie star, an author, or a relative. [4]
    • The person doesn't have to be real! You might name yourself after a character from your favorite book or movie, like “Trinity” from The Matrix, “Nala” from the Lion King, or “Orlando,” like Virginia Woolf’s iconic trans-coded character.
    • If you love Greek mythology, you could call yourself “Athena” or “Artemis,” or if you love theater, you could choose a name from Shakespeare like “Romeo.”
  4. You don't have to pick a common name if you don't want to. Many people choose a non-traditional, more creative name. You might choose a name based on a place that you love, like “Brooklyn,” or if you love nature, you could take a nature name, like “Wren,” or “Canyon.” You can also repurpose a last name as a first name, or spell your name in a creative way. Some trans folks even go by just a single letter, like “Z” or “Q.” [5]
    • Take the name of a word that you find inspiring, like “Hope,” “Justice,” or “Destiny.”
  5. Some names tend to be more common among the transgender community, and there are lots of reasons for this. Some are iconic figures or characters, while others catch on like trends. If you’d rather have a more “proven” or community tested name, here are a few: [6]
    • Masculine: Jayden, Aidan, Colt, Flynn, Elliot, Axel, Ezra, Beckett, Harley, Miles
    • Feminine: Jade, Lilly, Holly, Amber, Ruby, Luna, Zoey, Chloe, Emma
    • Gender-neutral: Alex, Dakota, OIlie, Skyler, Emerson, Charlie, Finn, Casper, Rain
  6. If you're nonbinary, or for another reason would prefer a gender-neutral name, there's lots to choose from. Lots of cultures have gender-neutral names. Some examples include: Cameron, Kai, Quinn, Asa, Noor, Angel, Sage, Riley, Valentine, Jamie, Casey, Amor, and Jesse. There's lots more out there!
    • Filter for gender-neutral names on baby naming sites, to see what sort of gender neutral names are common in your culture.
    • If you want a fully feminine or masculine name, avoid names that sound ambiguous, such as Gene/Jean.
    • What is considered a male or female name depends upon what culture you're in and where you live. For example, in the US, Ashley is mostly a women's name, but in the UK, it's mostly a men's name.
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Involving Your Loved Ones and Heritage

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  1. If you're comfortable talking with your parents, you might ask them what they would have called you if you had been born your gender identity. [7] Or, ask your siblings and friends what names they can imagine fitting for you. The people who know your personality best may be able to suggest a name that feels right to you. [8]
    • Involving your closest loved ones with the process of choosing a new name can bring your family closer together. But, if they suggest names that don't feel right, don't feel pressured to take them.
  2. Think about favorite names from your culture or ethnic group. Or, think about the names of people from your favorite religious or cultural stories, like Biblical figures or folk heroes. Also think about common names in the country your family comes from, or in the language they speak. [9]
    • If your religion has a book, like the Bible or the Quran, try flipping through for names, or filter on baby naming sites for particular religions or ethnicities.
    • Or, name yourself after someone in your family tree, like your great-aunt Meredith who you've heard wonderful stories about.
  3. Some people choose to change their last names to help mark their transitions and distance themselves from the name on their public record. On the other hand, some keep their last name to honor their family, or because they’re already professionally established. The choice is yours, and like your first name, you have total freedom here. [10]
    • Try taking on a family last name, like the maiden name of a beloved family member.
    • If you're in a serious relationship or marriage, consider taking the last name of your partner.
    • Or, take the last name of someone who inspires you, or just a last name that feels natural.
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Testing Potential Names

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  1. Saying the name out loud will help you hear if you like how it sounds, and if it feels like it expresses your personality. Start in the mirror, and see if and how you think the name fits your appearance. Then, ask a close friend or family member to use your tentative name to see how it feels coming from someone else. [11]
    • Or, give your new name in a low-stakes situation, like when a barista asks for a name on a coffee order, or use it on a new social media profile.
    • Consider how easy the name is to pronounce. Will other people be able to get it right? If you're soft-spoken, are people likely to misinterpret you?
    • Also consider how your full name sounds altogether, with your first and last name, and even your middle name.
  2. Keep a journal , where you write about your day, using your potential name to refer to yourself in third person, and see how it feels. Or, practice your signature, and as you're signing, think if any of the signatures feels particularly right and natural, and like yourself, including initials. If you're going to keep your last name, practice signing all your potential first names with the last name. [12]
    • Consider how easy it is to spell the names you're considering as it can get tiring having to spell out your name for others. Choose a simpler name if you don’t want to bother with that.
    • Also make sure the initials don’t spell something unfortunate, like Patricia Imogene Gerken becoming P.I.G. It’s silly, but a real concern!
  3. Some names (like Elizabeth, Alexandra, Robert, Nicholas, and William) have set nicknames that often go along with them. Shorter names like Paulina or Emma typically don't have set nicknames, but sometimes can have nicknames, (Paulie, Em). If you don't like the nicknames that go along with your potential name, you might want to choose a different one.
    • Some feminine names can be given a boyish nickname (e.g. Alexandra shortening to Alex, Christina to Chris). If you don't like this, choose a name that can't be shortened this way.
  4. Choosing a name is a process, and it takes longer for some people than for others. You don't have a deadline, and there is no right or wrong way to choose a name. [13] Give yourself time to play around with different names. If you choose one, and, after a while, decide you don't like it, you can always choose another.
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Making It Official

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  1. When you’re ready, start using your name! When you meet someone new, give them your new name—no need to mention the old one. And with people you already know and trust, tell them that you’d like them to start using your new name, instead. Say, “I’ve decided I’d like to go by [Name] from now on.” [14]
    • Don’t feel pressured to use your new name, or to come out as transgender , if you feel it’d put you in danger, or at a disadvantage.
  2. When you feel sure about your new name, you might choose to change it legally. Gather your driver's license, birth certificate, and proof of state residency. Procedure varies by country and state, but it usually involves filling out a petition for a name change and filing it with the civil clerk in your county's courthouse. [15]
    • Visit TransEquality’s name change tool and enter your location to find a complete guide for the process in your region, or visit TransLifeline for more info.
    • Some states require you to attend a court hearing before they give you a certified copy of your name change. After, use the certified copy of your name change to officially change your birth certificate and driver's license.
    • Note that your new name will be used on mail to your home address, and some states require the name change to be advertised in the newspaper. Consider your privacy and safety.
    • If you're under 18 years old, and not an emancipated minor, a parent or guardian will have to apply for your name change for you, or you may have to wait until you're 18.
  3. Once you’ve legally changed your name, it’s time to start using it for things like banking information, healthcare accounts, and on any contracts. It can feel a little overwhelming, but remember you don’t have to get all of this done at once. Most people, transgender or not, forget to update things like their addresses regularly—it’s a process! [16]
    • Keep in mind that you don’t have to change your name legally, if you’d rather not bother.
    • If it’s easier to keep going by your deadname on official documents, that’s perfectly fine! Some people decide it’s not worth the effort.
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    There's no one right or wrong way to select a new name. Some people prefer a new name that's a family name or the name their parents would have chosen for them if they'd been assigned a different gender at birth. Others are drawn to names that are variations of their original name or that start with the same letter. Still others prefer a name with none of these associations, and they pick a new name based on the sound or other associations with the name. No matter how you choose your name, make sure it's something that you'll still like the sound of 30 years from now.
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      If you are transgender and want to choose a new name, you are probably feeling excited but unsure about where to begin. To generate ideas, start by checking out baby naming websites for thorough lists of possibilities. If a completely new name doesn't appeal to you, you could try a feminine, masculine, or gender neutral version of your given name. For example, if your birth name is Samantha, you could change it to Sam, Samuel, or Samson. You can also consider taking the name of someone who inspires you or using the name of a favorite character from a book or movie. For instance, if you love Greek mythology, you could call yourself “Athena” or “Artemis,” or if you love theater, you might choose a name from Shakespeare like “Romeo.” Once you settle on a name that feels right to you, gather the required documentation, fill out a petition for a name change, and file it with the civil clerk in your county’s courthouse. For tips on testing out name possibilities, read on!

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