How to Get Over Anger Caused by Video Games

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Sometimes playing video games can make you feel angry and frustrated. Your anger might be due to the content of the game, not being able to get past a difficult level, or other players. Anger issues take time to overcome, but there are some simple strategies that you can use to calm yourself down when you are feeling angry because of video games.

Method 1
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Calming Down in the Moment

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  1. You don’t want to break your video game controller in a fit of anger, so the best thing to do when you first notice you are feeling angry is to gently put your controller down. You may want to shut down your game system as well to remove the video game images and sounds from your environment. [1]
  2. You might show signs of anger in your body, even before you realize that you are feeling angry. Pay attention to how you are feeling physically. You might be headed toward an angry outburst if you are experiencing any of the following symptoms:
    • Tense muscles and clenched jaw
    • Headache or stomachache
    • Increased heart rate
    • Sudden sweating or shaking
    • A dizzy feeling
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  3. If you have become angry, you should take a break from playing the game. Distract yourself from the aspect(s) of the game that made you angry by doing something else for a little while. Taking time to cool down may allow you to return to the game with fresh eyes, and you may find yourself more successful upon returning to the game later. [2] The next time you need a distraction from your frustration you can:
    • Call up a friend (or meet with one in person!)
    • Make yourself a meal or snack
    • Clean your room, the kitchen, or the bathroom
  4. Getting a change of scenery by going outside is a great way to calm yourself down in a hurry. [3] To keep recurring anger under control, try to balance your video game time with some daily outdoor time. [4]
  5. Exercise is another great way to help improve your mood. Getting physical exercise can make you feel happier in as little as five minutes. [5] What you do for exercise does not matter. Just make sure that you raise your heart rate and your body should release some endorphins to make you feel better. [6]
  6. Becoming angry can elevate your heart rate, cause you to shake, and make all of your muscles tense. You can counteract these effects with deep breathing. [7] You can also use deep breathing along with meditation to help control your emotions. [8] But using deep breathing techniques alone can offer benefits that are similar to meditation as well. [9]
    • To practice deep breathing, count to three as you inhale. Then, hold the breath in your lungs for three more seconds. Then, count to three again as you exhale. Try to focus only on the numbers as you do this.
    • Be sure that each breath in fully fills your lungs, causing your chest and belly to expand. Exhale fully each time, and pause between the exhale and the next inhale.
    • Keep breathing until you feel that you have regained control.
    • Reader Poll: We asked 344 wikiHow readers about the best way to deal with anger, and only 9% of them said visualizing a happy place . [Take Poll] If you start to feel angry, try taking deep breaths to calm yourself, instead.
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Addressing the Cause of Anger

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  1. You probably play video games just because you enjoy playing. But if playing video games is causing you to have recurring anger, then you might not be enjoying yourself as much as you used to.
    • If you experience chronic anger as a result of the games you’re playing, think about taking on a new hobby to replace gaming for a while.
    • If you are not having fun, it’s not worth continuing your “relationship” with certain games.
  2. Playing (or even watching) violent video games may lead you to feel to increased feelings of anger and aggression, especially if you already have some anger issues. If you feel angry after playing or watching violent games, try switching to games that are not as violent.
  3. Not being able to get past a difficult level or obstacle in a game might also cause you to feel angry. [10] Think about why you tend to get angry when you play and whether or not failing a level or getting killed in the game is what sets off you anger.
    • To deal with this type of anger, try playing a game that you have already mastered for a while and enjoy your success. Or, if you have the option to choose the difficulty in a game, try selecting a lower difficulty level to help prevent yourself from getting angry.
  4. If someone is trolling or harassing you on a MMO (massively multiplayer online) game, block or report the other player. It’s not worth engaging with someone who is just trying to get a rise out of you. Be sure that you are aware of the game’s community or user guidelines before reporting a player so that you are sure that they are acting inappropriately based on the MMO’s expectations.
  5. Sometimes you might feel anger (towards people or inanimate objects) when you are dealing with difficult problems in your life. If you find yourself getting angry about a video game (particularly if it is unusual for you to become angry), try to determine if other aspects of your life may be bothering you. [11]
    • For example, if you have just lost your job or gotten in trouble at school, you may feel frustrated and out of control of your life. Failing to master a new level of a video game on top of the other experiences may lead you to blow up about the video game, even though it is not the primary cause of your feelings of powerlessness.
  6. This may not be what you want to hear, but if there is a particular game that causes you chronic anger—whether it is from violence in the game, an inability to master new levels, or even an annoying character—you may want to hide the game from yourself for a while or even consider trading it in a for a different game. It’s okay to put away a game for the sake of your emotional well-being.
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Identifying a More Serious Problem

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  1. Video game addiction (internet gaming disorder) is not a formal diagnosis, but it is starting to get more attention. If video games or your reactions to them are beginning to seep into your everyday life, you may be experiencing a video game addiction. Addressing an addiction is important to maintain a healthy emotional life. [12] You may have a video game addiction if you:
    • become angry, violent, or depressed when you do not spend time playing video games [13]
    • play in secret and lie to others about how much time you spend playing video games [14]
    • notice that video games have taken over your interest in other hobbies, schoolwork, or your job [15]
    • consider playing video games more important than spending time with other people in real life [16]
  2. You should be in control of your emotions; they should not control you. If you feel like your anger in response to video games has taken on a life of its own and you are no longer in control of it, then you should seek help with anger management. You may want to see a therapist or take an anger management course. It’s likely that your anger is not only in response to video games and is present (or will become present) in other areas of your life as well. [17]
  3. You should seek help for anger management if your feelings of anger are causing you to feel violent towards others. You may want to seek help in the following situations:
    • You think about harming yourself or others
    • You use physical violence (such as hitting) towards people or objects
    • The problem is chronic, happening over and over again
    • Anger towards the game seeps into other areas of your life
    • You have a record of violent or aggressive behaviors at work or towards a loved one
    • You feel unfulfilled in your life
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      2. ↑ https://www.mentalhelp.net/articles/putting-it-together-use-of-anger-management-techniques/
      3. ↑ http://www.apa.org/helpcenter/controlling-anger.aspx
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      7. ↑ Kelli Miller, LCSW, MSW. Psychotherapist. Expert Interview. 11 June 2020.
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      9. ↑ http://www.apa.org/helpcenter/controlling-anger.aspx
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      It’s easy to get angry when playing video games, especially if you’re losing a lot, but you can stay calm by putting the controller down and taking some deep breaths. Remember that it takes a long time to develop skill at any game and the more you play, the better you’ll get. If deep breathing doesn’t work, take a break from the game and go for a walk, make a snack, or do some exercise until you’ve forgotten about the game. If 1 game in particular is making you angry, stop playing it, at least for a while, and play something calmer. Think about whether there might be something else that you’re angry about that could be causing you to get upset. For example, you might be angry about something that's going on at home or school, which is coming out when you play video games. If you think something else is making your anger worse, talk to your parents or someone you trust about it. For more tips from our co-author, including how to spot the signs of a video game addiction, read on!

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