Proper table etiquette depends on the country you’re in, but there are 2 popular ways to eat with a fork and knife: the European (or Continental) style and the American style. In this article, we’ll teach you how to hold your fork using both of these styles, plus provide tips on choosing the most efficient method. We also spoke with etiquette coach Tami Claytor for the most important rules when using cutlery.
Best Way to Hold a Fork
Hold the handle between your thumb and your middle, ring, and pinky fingers. Place your index finger at the end of the handle where it meets the base of the fork tines. Let the end of the handle rest in the crease of your palm.
Steps
Holding a Fork "European Style"
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Hold the fork in your left hand. Most Europeans hold their knife and fork throughout the entire meal. They keep the knife in their right hand for cutting, and the fork in their left hand for eating. [1] X Research source The European style is considered more efficient than the American style because you don’t have to switch your fork to your other hand or set it down until you are finished eating. [2] X Research source
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Use the fork with the tines facing down. Hold the handle between your thumb and your middle, ring, and pinky fingers. Place your index finger at the end of the handle where it meets the base of the fork tines, and let the end of the handle rest in the crease of your palm. Think of it like a surgeon’s scalpel, with the tines of the fork facing down toward the plate. [5] X Research source
- The lower you place your index finger on the fork handle, the more leverage you'll have picking up your food and eating it.
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Pick up the knife in your right hand. Hold your knife in the same closed-fist manner as your fork, and use it as a tool to push food onto the tines of your fork. If you’re cutting meat or a tougher food, pierce the food with the fork in your left hand and use a gentle sawing motion with the knife in your right hand. Always cut your food with the tines facing down. [6] X Research source
- You can actually push more food securely onto your fork with the European method than with the scooping American method.
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Rest the fork on your plate with the tines facing down. If you want to take a break in the middle of your meal, place your fork and knife perpendicular to each other, with the handles on opposite sides of the plate and the blade of the knife facing toward you. When you’re finished eating, rest your fork and knife parallel on the plate; if you view the plate as the face of a clock, the tines and blade should be at 10:00 and the handles at 4:00. [7] X Research source
- Whether you’re cutting food, placing it in your mouth, or resting your fork on your plate, keep the tines of your fork down. Do not turn the fork up or put it into your right hand.
Holding a Fork "American Style"
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Hold your fork like a pencil. Americans hold forks in their dominant hand, whether it’s on the right or left. According to Claytor, the correct way to hold a fork is to “hold it by your index finger and your thumb, and then rest it on your third finger.” [8] X Expert Source Tami Claytor
Etiquette Coach Expert Interview. 29 September 2020. The end of the fork should rest on the webbing of your hand (the space connecting your index finger and thumb). [9] X Research source -
Eat with the tines of the fork facing up or down. Traditionally, the tines of the fork should be facing upward, but most Americans do not pay attention to this when eating. [10] X Research source It may be easier for you to pick up food with the tines up, like a shovel, but feel free to hold the fork however it feels the most comfortable to you.
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Cut food with the knife in your right hand and the fork in your left. Use your left hand to hold the food in place with the tines of your fork, then use a sawing motion to slice the food with your knife. Claytor says you should “cut four to five small bites” of food and “never cut the whole [thing] at one time.” [11] X Expert Source Tami Claytor
Etiquette Coach Expert Interview. 29 September 2020.- This is the same technique as the European (or Continental) method.
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Switch your fork to your right hand to eat. After you've cut the food into pieces, place your knife on the edge of the plate with the blade facing inward. Then, switch your fork to your right hand and bring the food to your mouth. Switch the fork back over to your left hand when you’re ready to cut another piece of food, and continue switching hands every time you need to cut more pieces. [12] X Research source
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Rest the fork on your plate with the tines facing up. If you’re still eating your food, place your fork and knife perpendicular to each other with each handle on the same side of the plate. Position the knife on the edge of the plate with the blade facing toward you. When you’re finished eating, place your utensils parallel to each other on the plate; if the plate was a clock, the tines and blade should be at 10:00 and the handles at 4:00. [13] X Research source
- For both American and European styles of dining, your fork and knife are in the same position when you’re finished eating.
Expert Q&A
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QuestionIs there a wrong way to hold a fork?Tami Claytor is an Etiquette Coach, Image Consultant, and the Owner of Always Appropriate Image and Etiquette Consulting in New York, New York. With over 20 years of experience, Tami specializes in teaching etiquette classes to individuals, students, companies, and community organizations. Tami has spent decades studying cultures through her extensive travels across five continents and has created cultural diversity workshops to promote social justice and cross-cultural awareness. She holds a BA in Economics with a concentration in International Relations from Clark University. Tami studied at the Ophelia DeVore School of Charm and the Fashion Institute of Technology, where she earned her Image Consultant Certification.Not necessarily. If you want to follow proper etiquette, hold the fork between your index finger and thumb, with the middle part of the fork resting on your third finger.
Tips
- According to Claytor, you should sit up straight while eating and “pick up your food and bring it to your mouth, instead of bending over.” [17] X Expert Source Tami Claytor
Etiquette Coach Expert Interview. 29 September 2020.Thanks - Claytor also recommends holding your fork “a little diagonal or parallel to the table, rather than vertical,” before piercing your food. [18] X Expert Source Tami Claytor
Etiquette Coach Expert Interview. 29 September 2020.Thanks
References
- ↑ https://ularlington.gmu.edu/wp-content/uploads/2018/01/Dining-Etiquette-Guide-Feb-2018.pdf
- ↑ https://www.missouriwestern.edu/student-services/wp-content/uploads/sites/130/2019/10/Etiquette-Essentials-Dining-Etiquette-Handout-Quiz.pdf
- ↑ https://dcmp.org/guides/TID7806.pdf
- ↑ https://www.missouriwestern.edu/student-services/wp-content/uploads/sites/130/2019/10/Etiquette-Essentials-Dining-Etiquette-Handout-Quiz.pdf
- ↑ https://www.missouriwestern.edu/student-services/wp-content/uploads/sites/130/2019/10/Etiquette-Essentials-Dining-Etiquette-Handout-Quiz.pdf
- ↑ https://www.missouriwestern.edu/student-services/wp-content/uploads/sites/130/2019/10/Etiquette-Essentials-Dining-Etiquette-Handout-Quiz.pdf
- ↑ https://www.missouriwestern.edu/student-services/wp-content/uploads/sites/130/2019/10/Etiquette-Essentials-Dining-Etiquette-Handout-Quiz.pdf
- ↑ Tami Claytor. Etiquette Coach. Expert Interview. 29 September 2020.
- ↑ https://www.missouriwestern.edu/student-services/wp-content/uploads/sites/130/2019/10/Etiquette-Essentials-Dining-Etiquette-Handout-Quiz.pdf
- ↑ https://www.missouriwestern.edu/student-services/wp-content/uploads/sites/130/2019/10/Etiquette-Essentials-Dining-Etiquette-Handout-Quiz.pdf
- ↑ Tami Claytor. Etiquette Coach. Expert Interview. 29 September 2020.
- ↑ https://www.missouriwestern.edu/student-services/wp-content/uploads/sites/130/2019/10/Etiquette-Essentials-Dining-Etiquette-Handout-Quiz.pdf
- ↑ https://www.missouriwestern.edu/student-services/wp-content/uploads/sites/130/2019/10/Etiquette-Essentials-Dining-Etiquette-Handout-Quiz.pdf
- ↑ https://www.missouriwestern.edu/student-services/wp-content/uploads/sites/130/2019/10/Etiquette-Essentials-Dining-Etiquette-Handout-Quiz.pdf
- ↑ https://www.missouriwestern.edu/student-services/wp-content/uploads/sites/130/2019/10/Etiquette-Essentials-Dining-Etiquette-Handout-Quiz.pdf
- ↑ https://www.insidehook.com/food/reason-americans-use-fork-way
- ↑ Tami Claytor. Etiquette Coach. Expert Interview. 29 September 2020.
- ↑ Tami Claytor. Etiquette Coach. Expert Interview. 29 September 2020.
About This Article
To hold a fork in the European style, keep it in your left hand and your knife in your right hand. You should hold the handle between your thumb and your middle, ring, and pinky fingers, with your index finger at the end of the handle. When you go to use the fork, push the food onto it with your knife, keeping the tines of your fork pointing downwards. Then, put the food into your mouth with the fork tines still facing downwards. Once you’ve finished eating, place the fork and knife parallel on the plate with the tines facing downwards. For tips on how to hold a fork using the American style, read on!
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