How to Kiss Your Boyfriend for the First Time (Middle School Girls)

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Last Updated: July 5, 2024

You found the guy you really like, and now you two are dating. Is it time to kiss? If you answered yes to that question, keep reading.

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First off, make sure you are kissing for yourself, not because your friends dared you to, or you have been dating so long that you are far past the make-out point. Do this for yourself, so make sure you are ready to kiss him, both physically and emotionally.
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Have a fresh breath, and soft lips, look nice and make sure that the "touch barrier" has been broken with hugs and flirtatious gestures.
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This task is harder than people think, if it's hard to get into a place that is private, then the school might be the best place there is, for now, just make sure that you aren't being watched by a teacher or any other unwanted viewer.
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If it's the end of the day, and you both are about to go your separate ways, then now is your chance, give him a hug and hold it for about 5 seconds, then pull back a bit, but don't move your arms.

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Ease into your first kiss. Start with a casual touch, like holding hands. As comfort grows, progress to a gentle arm around the shoulder. Read his body language–sustained eye contact and corresponding touch are positive signs. If all feels right, lean in slowly and wait for his response.
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Look into his eyes. Forget about being nervous. Think about this going great, because if you do this step properly, kissing will be the easiest thing in the world. Look into his eyes, tilt your head just a bit to avoid colliding, lean in and gently close your eyes, and kiss him.
- Try to look for a good window of opportunity! If he's in the mood to kiss, he'll be making eye contact and mirroring your body language.
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Hold the kiss for about 10 seconds, keeping your eyes closed, after about 10 seconds, pull away, smile at him, and be happy for the rest of the day.

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I learned the average age for a first kiss is 15...

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WikiRiverDancer770 posted on 06/28/24 8:28pm

I'm 25 and haven't had my first kiss yet. I can't help but feel like I'm behind :( I feel hopless about my love life. Am I just doomed to be alon... Read More

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For your first kiss, take it easy and build up to the moment. Start with a little bit of light physical contact. You might start by massaging her... Read More

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hi what if im not ready for my first kiss yet i'm 15... Read More

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My boyfriend is uncomfortable with kissing but I want us to kiss. What should I do?

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Always respect the person who you want to kiss, and don't force anything on them. If your boyfriend is uncomfortable with kissing, you should wait until he's ready.

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So my friends dared me to kiss my bf. Does that count as our first kiss?

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If you and your boyfriend have kissed and you want to count it as your first one, then yes, it counts! But if you did it because of a dare and you want a re-do, you 2 can always kiss again at a more appropriate time and count that one as your first kiss instead. It's up to you and your boyfriend to decide what your first kiss is.

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A guy will be happy with you kissing him, no matter how you do it.

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Focus on the kiss, not what he is thinking, or else you won't want to kiss again thinking that you failed miserably, or that he didn't like kissing you.

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Make sure he wants a kiss, if he doesn't none of these steps will work, creating a very awkward situation

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