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How do I initiate my first kiss with my boyfriend?

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Eddy Baller is a Dating Coach and the Owner of a dating consulting and coaching service, Conquer and Win, based in Vancouver, Canada. Coaching since 2011, Eddy specializes in confidence building, advanced social skills, and relationships. Conquer and Win helps men worldwide have the love lives they deserve. His work has been featured in The Art of Manliness, LifeHack, and POF among others.

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If you have already built up some intimacy and comfort with your boyfriend, you could try cuddling to break the touch barrier and build up to that first kiss.

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I've never kissed a boy, and I'm scared I will be bad at it. What should I do?

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Having your first kiss can be scary and exciting, but don’t let that stop you. Instead, ask yourself if you are ready for that level of intimacy with someone. Do you feel comfortable, cared for, and safe with this person? If so, then you will also know that they will be accepting and nonjudgmental about a nervous, "first try" kiss. If you have a deep connection to this person and the first attempt is a dud, you will both likely laugh and try again.

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My girlfriend is too shy to kiss me. What should I do?

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If she is too shy to kiss you, then it is unlikely that she will make the first move. You can talk to her about how she feels about kissing, if she is comfortable with it, and if she’d like to kiss you. These questions will give you clear guidelines about how to proceed with her.

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Is it normal for your boyfriend to not kiss you during the first month of the relationship?

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When you begin kissing depends greatly on the personality of the people involved and the level of intimacy they share. A person who is more shy or reserved may take a lot longer to work up to kissing than someone more outgoing.

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What if they just back away, or say "What the heck?!"

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If your boyfriend or girlfriend has this response, maybe you really startled them. If that's not the case, then perhaps they think of you as just a friend.

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My boyfriend feels a bit intimidated by my friends and we don't go to the movies much. What should I do?

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Try to find another way to be alone with your boyfriend. Suggest going for a walk or visiting an art gallery. Once you are alone, try flirting or sending some signals.

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What if your boyfriend is 8 or 9?

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I guess that depends on how old you are. If you are 8 or 9 years old, you still have a lot of time to anticipate your first kiss.

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