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    How do I know if I am someone's best friend?
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    They would start to get closer to you and hang out more and arrange fun days out, mention you often and would always want to make big plans with you. They don't need to tell you that they are your best friend for you to find out that you are their best friend.
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    I have a new girl in my school and I want to be her BFF. What can I do?
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    Say "hi" to her in the morning or whenever you see her, then ask her questions about herself. You can also ask her if she wants to sit with you at lunch, and take it from there.
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    Can I have more than one BFF?
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    Yes, you can have more than one BFF. Just do your best not to neglect any of them.
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    How do I not be so clingy or pushy to friends? How do I not look so desperate for one?
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    Think of to ways you can relate to them, then keeping that in mind, go up to them and introduce yourself. Then leave it at that for a day, so that you can decide whether they are interested in you or not at all. That is the beginning -- the next part is to be you and find a friend who likes you for being you.
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    I am very talkative and emotional, how I can find a best friend?
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    Everyone is different, and there is a best friend for everyone. Just be a nice, helpful person and people will probably want to be your friend. Keep in mind that you can't please everyone, and you shouldn't try. Always be yourself, but don't be so talkative and emotional that people are turned off from speaking to you. When interacting with others, ask yourself questions like, "Do I need to say this?" "Will this really add to the conversation?" "Am I getting emotional for no reason?" "Am I blowing this out of proportion?" Try to think before you react and you'll find it much easier to get along with people.
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    How can I know whether a guy whom I take as my BFF also takes me as his BFF?
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    You will know by his behavior. If you are the one who is constantly doing the talking, making the plans, calling or texting him -- he is probably not as interested in the relationship as you are.
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    How can I become friends with someone I rarely talk to?
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    Try to get to know them better. For example, if you need help on something, ask them for help. If you've got a joke, share it with them. If you're organizing a party, invite them.
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    What can I do if everyone in my school already has a best friend?
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    Have a positive attitude to all of your friends even if none of them are your current best friend. Show your positiveness to all of them, and soon you you will see that some of your classmates will want to spend more time with you! One of these new friends could become your best friend. You can have more than one best friend.
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    My BFF is now ignoring me for no reason after 3 years of friendship, what should I do to regain her friendship?
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    That does not sound like a very good friend. Try talking to her about this. Ask her if you did anything wrong, and tell her that you miss her and you're not sure why the two of you aren't friends anymore. If she refuses to talk to you about this, again, she's not a good friend. Go out and meet some new people, there are most likely tons of nice people in your school or community who would like to be your friend.
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    My best friend is hanging out with someone else and telling her secrets but not me, but I'm still her best friend. What should I do? And how should I react to this?
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    It is okay to feel let down when something like this happens. Try talking to your friend and figuring out why she is making such changes and whether that really is the case. Perhaps those "secrets" are actually a load of baloney and not something she thinks you'd much care for. Maybe this other friend is actually just a bit of amusement and you are still the real friend she actually cares about. Maybe it's the other friend who ought to be worried about how genuine your best friend is being with them.
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    What if the person I want to be best friends with is older? She isn't a cool, popular girl or anything like that.
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    There is nothing wrong with having an older friend. Just make sure she is kind and that you both trust each other.
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    How can I keep an enemy from separating my BFF and I?
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    Stop seeing your enemy as an enemy. Your BFF might see that you are jealous of your enemy or that you're trying to keep her as only your friend and your BFF might not want to be friends with you anymore! Try being friends with both your enemy and BFF or at least being kind to him/her.
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    My friend already has a BFF, and I want her to be my BFF. What should I do?
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    You can't make her prefer you over someone else. You can ask her to spend more time with you. You can be nice and do something really special for her that no one has ever done. She will appreciate your attentiveness, thoughtfulness, and considerate nature. The decision to be a close friend won't happen immediately — it is something that grows organically over time. If she's not so interested, you might need to consider finding a different BFF and just having her as a good friend. Don't show that you're jealous; try to also be friends with her BFF.
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    The girl I want to be my best friend has suddenly started ignoring me and hanging out with another girl. How can I find out what happened?
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    The best thing you can do is to be up front and ask her if she is mad at you, or whatever the reason is. Fix it if you can. If she refuses to give a reason, then she probably didn't deserve the "Best Friend" position anyway.
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    My friends ignore me and I am shy. What can I do?
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    Don't be shy. Ask them why they are ignoring you. If they ignore you again, make new friends. You don't deserve to be mistreated like that for no reason.
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    What if my best friends are constantly changing?
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    Sometimes you have to be patient and the right best friend will change in a way that brings you along with the change. And sometimes it's okay to go solo for a little bit, if needed.
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    How can I overcome the fear of rejection from someone whom I want to be my best friend?
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    Get to know them more first. Then open up about your fear of rejection in friendships. They may ask you how this all started, why you're scared and they may also give you advice on how to face your fear. If there is a good connection and they know you're good friend material, they'll give you a chance.
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    What do I do if someone doesn't like me, but I want to become their friend?
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    You could start by trying to interact with her on social media. For example, leaving nice comments on her photos might open the door for simple conversations and, eventually, private chats. However, be willing to accept the possibility that she just won't ever come to like you. If she doesn't, move on.
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    My friend now has a new bestie and she's ignoring me. What can I do?
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    Do the only thing you can do: move on. If she continues to ignore you, then she really wasn't a true friend in the first place.
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    What do we need in a friend?
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    This is always subjective but someone who loves you for who you are, supports you and is there with you in times of need is something you should look for in a friend. Also, you have to enjoy the other person's company for the friendship to be sustained.
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    How do I get someone very popular to notice and befriend me?
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    Make small talk with them. Try to find out what they like and find some common ground with them.
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    What if the person you want to make your best friend already has a best friend?
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    There is a strange notion that one can only have one "best" friend, probably because some people are innately driven to choose favorites. The reality is that there is no monopoly on best friends and it is perfectly possible to have more than one "best friend" and be a group of "best friends". Go and be friends with both of them and have a lovely life.
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    What if I previously liked a girl and I am basically just the joker guy who tells her jokes? How can I ask her to hang out with me without being creepy or having my friends think I like her?
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    Just ask her and tell her what you feel. Don't care about what your friends think.
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    Can I ask someone to be my friend?
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    You can ask if they'd like to be friends, sure.
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    My best friend and I have been friends all our lives. Now we're drifting apart and she's not being as nice to me. Should I try to find a new best friend?
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    The key to friendship is forgiveness. Try to see if you can fix your friendship. Since you've been friends all your lives, it's worth fixing. If you can't put your problems behind you, you might need to move on.
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    How do you find best friends if you already know everyone at your school?
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    That's good if you know everyone at your school. Now you'll be familiar with the people over there. Now it's time to decide which people are going to make a good best friend and concentrate on developing such a closer friendship with them.
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    Does it take time to make friends?
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    Making friends can take time, but it can also take you by surprise. You never know until you get to know someone how long it may take for the two of you to click. That's part of the fun!
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    What do I do when my friend who I thought was my best friend talks behind my back?
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    Distance yourself from her for a while. Let her know that she stepped out your friendship boundaries, and that you know that she's been talking behind your back. If she's your true friend she will realize what she did and apologize.
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    How can I be bestfriends with a boy I was close to when we were kids but not now?
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    Just be yourself! If your friends tease you about it and think you like him, tell them to cut it out. Make sure your friend doesn't like you in a romantic way, and you don't like him like that. (Or if you're interested in having a relationship with this person, you can still ask him.) Hang around him and his friends until you feel comfortable around them. Try to unite both of your friend groups together, you never know what might come out of it! If your friends still tease you, you have to decide what's more important to you. A friendship or your friends' opinions.
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    I'm starting a new school year and at my old school I didn't have any friends. How can I make some now?
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    Put the past behind you. Look around for someone who is alone, or just a couple of kids hanging out together and say, "Hi, I'm new, can you show me around?" You could also ask them what teachers are best, what clubs are cool to join, etc. Use the fact that you're new to your advantage to break the ice.
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