Q&A for How to Romantically Hug a Guy

The main difference between a friendly hug and a romantic one is the time spent hugging. Once he's hugging you, tighten your grip to signal you don't want it to end just yet. There are many flirting techniques you can use to see if he likes you back. Stop talking abruptly, look him in the eye and lean into him ever so slightly. Alternatively, you could just ask him how he feels, tell him how you feel, or ask for a hug in between the hello and goodbye hug.

There are lots of different ways, the way I started my first hug it was more of a "just friends" hug even though we totally liked each other. They get more intimate as you go. Just act naturally, you'll know what to do.

Realizing you are under the influence is a good start. Try to find out exactly what or who is being a negative influence, then avoid it.

Make sure you are alone and won't be disturbed. Make sure you know beforehand how far you want to go, you can only hope he wants to do that, too. You could use your words: "I would really like for you to kiss me." If that is too much, abruptly stop talking, look him in the eye, tilt your head a little, lean in a little, part your lips slightly, take his hands in yours, or any combination thereof. Make sure to keep seeing how he reacts. He may not get it, he may shy away, or may not want to kiss you. In the end, you can also just kiss him.

Yes, or he may be more interested in something else. Consider spending a little more time with him. Remember, if you're uncomfortable with the way he is hugging you, you have every right to tell him to stop.

There are many flirting techniques you can use to test if a guy likes you. Give him looks, touch his arm or act all girly around him. See how he responds and let him take some initiative. Alternatively, if you are friends, you might be able to talk about this more directly. Make sure you know what you want yourself. If you are not romantically interested, tell him you value your friendship more than a crush. He'll get over it and your friendship will be stronger.

Then try not to touch him until you know he is interested. Wait until he starts to smile at you, then you'll know he's at least a friend to you.

Then he breaks up with you but that is such an odd reason for a break up that it is likely to be something quite other than the hug. Try asking him why he decided to break up with you before assuming it was caused by a mere hug.

If you want your relationship to evolve to an exclusive one, it would be a good idea to straight up talk about that. If that is also what he wants, he will treat you as his one and only. Jealousy, however, is personal. People are social beings and we interact with other people of both sexes. As long as he respects you and doesn't cheat, there should be no reason for concern or jealousy.

Flirting is fine and harmless. At twelve or thirteen, you're entering a new phase where you will start to discover these things. Go slow, enjoy the feelings. Remember it is very much okay to tell him when he crosses any lines or does anything you don't like. Also, he's probably just beginning to learn this as well. You are under no obligation whatsoever to do anything you don't want to do. Finally, it is interesting to learn what happened as a result of your hug. Now, none of his actions are your fault, if that applies, but it's interesting for you to learn how people influence each other.

The way he acts around you or talks to you. But if you're not fully sure, you may find out from his friends.

If you feel comfortable doing so, tell him your feelings toward him, that's the best way to go. If he isn't interested or you're not confident enough, you can still be friends, and slowly find a way to make him like you in a romantic way.

Go for a side hug. This isn't too intimate, but still shows you care.

It depends on if you care that they're watching you or not, but the side hug is always an option.

Hand holding shouldn't be a height problem; parents hold hands with small children all the time. As for the hugging, maybe this will help: https://www.wikihow.com/Hug-a-Girl-Who%27s-Taller-Than-You

Try to flirt a bit, or give him a romantic gift to tip him off. If he still doesn't realize your feelings, you can always just confess them.

Don't worry, it will come naturally. Remember that you like him or you wouldn't hug him in the first place. Don't focus too much on what goes where, think of how happy you are to see him. Failing that, you could ask him to hug you and let him crack that nut, or just quickly hug him by putting your arms around his neck.

Get noticed! Hang around him somewhere and strike up a conversation. Talk to him about school, sports, the weather, whatever. Behave maturely and don't invade his space; just let him know you're an interesting and fun person.

It is literally impossible to hug someone passionately from the side.

If he smiles at you, makes reasons to talk to you and tries to be close to you and touch you, he probably likes you.

This is tricky. It always helps to talk. You could just straight up ask him why he's always hugging you. If you don't like it, you have every right not to allow his hugs. If you both like each other, he should really sort things out with his girlfriend first before there could be any talk of you two getting together.

You should be fine, a side-hug can be a friendly, casual thing, especially between friends who haven't seen each other for some time.

Well, what do YOU want? If you're uneasy about the idea or have decided you might not really be interested in him anymore, pay attention to that. There's no sense in having a boyfriend just to have a boyfriend. Evaluate your own intentions and make sure you're doing the right thing.

Same gender hugs are only slightly different. As the article says, much of the perceived sensuality is in the duration of the hug, not so much in the method. Hugs offer comfort, which is something friends give each other. Try to find a balance between what makes him uncomfortable and what you need. If necessary, just use your words to tell him it's just a hug.

Hug him with your arms around his neck. If you're worried about it being awkward, test if out with one of your close friends who is shorter or the same height as you are. Observe the position you're in, then repeat it when you hug the guy.

Taller people have more trouble hugging, simply because they are tall. Putting his head on your shoulder probably has less to do with him being tall than with him liking and trusting you.

If a handshake is zero and a kiss on the lips is ten, then a hug can be anything from one to nine. If you really want to know what he means, try other flirting techniques to see how he reacts, or just ask him. However, in general, squeezing your waist would indicate attraction, desire and arousal. It could, though, also be a playful gesture among friends, like men lightly punching each other on the shoulder.

Go up to him, say: "Hey, I want a real hug, come here", smile, then hug him. A short hug is for friends, a longer one is for lovers. If you want to see if he likes you too, hold the hug a little longer than usual. See how he reacts.

A romantic hug should be reserved for private moments in private places. If you hug him in class, that might make you both feel awkward. Try talking to him alone, or participate in some after school activity, or hold a small party, to increase the chances of the two of you being alone. Initiate the hug and see how he responds.

First of all, this competition is a bad idea. Hugs are a display of personal affection among friends, not a popularity contest. Second, you might give some recipients of your hugs the wrong idea. Third, those who see you guys going around hugging everyone might get the wrong idea. Fourth, if you really must have such a competition, you should make it fair by standing lots of people in a line and see who can hug the most in under a minute, having defined the necessary rules. Finally, failing all that, if you're that concerned about those three people, don't hug them, even if it means losing.