Q&A for How to Stop Liking Your Crush

The idea of a one and only soulmate is a myth. There is more than one person out there for you. While you won't find another person who is exactly like your crush, you'll find someone who is amazing in their own way.

Believe it or not, this is normal. Heartbreak actually causes responses in your body that can make you feel sick, tired, or otherwise not like yourself. Give yourself time to cry and be sad about it, and then find something else to do that won't remind you of your crush. It hurts a lot, but this feeling will pass with time, and if you need them, there are people around to support you through it.

You shouldn't suddenly cut your crush off without explanation, because if you two are friends, they'll likely be confused and hurt, especially if they don't know about your feelings for them. Tell your friend that you need to take some space to handle a personal issue (or just outright tell them it's because of your feelings, if you're feeling bold) and then give yourself time to do other things and talk to other people. Reading through How to Get Over a Crush on Your Best Friend may be of use, too.

Be gentle, but firm, about your boundaries. Say, "Hey, I'm really sorry, but I need a bit of space. You haven't done anything wrong - I just need some time to sort things out." If you've previously spent time together, it's important to lay out this groundwork before you start distancing yourself, especially if you two are friends or are part of the same friendship circles - anyone would be confused (and potentially rather hurt) if their friend suddenly stopped talking to them with no explanation.

You could try following the advice of How to Get a Girl to Like You (LGBT) , but if she's not attracted to girls, you unfortunately can't "flip a switch" and make her like girls. As painful as it is to have incompatible orientations , there's nothing you can do to change someone's sexuality, and even if she does like girls, there's no way to guarantee that she'll like you if you do this or that. Plus, not everyone who's same-gender attracted is able or willing to date, for reasons such as being closeted or having homophobic family. If she's not willing to date you, it's better to just move on, even though it's easier said than done.

Talk to your teacher and ask that you not be put in the same group as him for awhile. You don't need to tell your teacher that you have a crush on your classmate - just try saying something like, "I need to put some space between [classmate] and I. Could you please put me in groups with other people so I don't need to work with him as much? I'd really appreciate that."

Hugs and kisses are never something you're obliged to accept, regardless of who they're from, so if you want to get over your crush, you can just flat-out ask him to stop doing this. You can just say to him, "I'm not comfortable with you hugging and kissing me all the time. Could you please stop?"

If you really want to make yourself stop like someone, try distancing yourself by deleting their contact information from your phone as well as unfriending and unfollowing them on social media so you can stop talking to them and seeing their posts and statuses. Then, focus on yourself and your interests so you don't have time to think about them. Try new activities or pick up old ones that you haven't had time for.

If your crush doesn't like you, unfortunately, there may not be anything you can do about it. And trying to convince them to like you can backfire and make them like you even less. Instead, try to distract yourself by hanging out with people who want to spend time with you and picking up a new hobby that will keep you from thinking about it.

That's okay. You don't have to have a crush on someone all the time. There may be periods of time where you are not crushing on anyone. To get over a crush, you don't have to force yourself to have another crush. It is likely that your current crush won't be your last crush, even if they are all you can think about at the moment.