How to RSVP

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RSVP comes from the French phrase "répondez s'il vous plaît," which in English translates to "please reply." When invited to a social event, it is proper etiquette to respond promptly, politely, and via the same way one has invited you. This makes planning much easier for your host and shows respect and consideration on your part. This wikiHow will show you a few different ways to RSVP!

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Fill out the RSVP card that was sent with your wedding invitation. Most wedding invitations include an RSVP card with a structured template.
- For example, an RSVP card might begin with: "A favor of reply is requested by July 20, 2014." This is the cut-off date for responses. Always RSVP by this date, if not sooner. It is considered rude to leave RSVPs to the last minute.
- Underneath the deadline there will be an item looking like this: " M__________. " Here, you will simply need to fill out your title according to your gender. For example: Mr. Arthur Mitchell or Mrs. Rita Morgan.
- There will be the option of accepting or declining. Sometimes it is simply an empty space next to "Will attend," where you may place a check mark. Other times, it may look like this: " __Accepts with pleasure __Declines with regrets. " In this instance, simply check the appropriate box. You may also leave a brief explanation or a note of congratulations.
- Once the card is properly filled out, mail it back to the sender. A separate envelope is often included with the RSVP card.
- If you receive a blank RSVP card, simply mimic the template used in standard RSVP cards. State your name in the third person, whether you will attend, and include the date of the wedding. Remember to use formal wording.
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Write an RSVP letter to a formal or semi-formal invitation. Invitations to significant events, such as graduations and baby showers, may not specify how to RSVP. In this situation, writing a letter is the proper etiquette. ^{[1]
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- If you are writing an RSVP letter to a formal invitation, such as a graduation or Bar Mitzvah, keep it simple yet elegant. Write, "Mr. and Mrs. Dexter Morgan accept with pleasure the kind invitation of Mr. and Mrs. Miguel Prado on Saturday, the first of April." ^{[2]
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- If you are declining an invitation, simply substitute "accept with pleasure" with "regret that we are unable to accept."
- For semi-formal invitations, such as birthdays and baby showers, follow the basic structure of normal letter writing. This letter will be longer than a formal letter but should still be short (only a few sentences).
- For example: "Dear Mr. Prado, I regret that I am unable to attend the baby shower you will be hosting for Oscar Prado on December 12, 2014. Unfortunately, I have a work conference scheduled for the same day and it is mandatory that I attend. Though I cannot be present, I have already bought Oscar a gift and will have it delivered to the party."
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E-mail an RSVP to an Evite. ^{[3]
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Expert Interview. 21 February 2020.} Invitations sent via e-mail are typically reserved for casual events, such as children's birthdays or dinner parties. ^{[4]
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- Simply open the e-mail containing the electronic invitation. Click "View Invitation." This will direct you to an electronic card where you will be able to RSVP. ^{[5]
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- Select "Yes," "Maybe," or "No." You may also include additional comments. Take the opportunity to ask valid questions such as, "Who's coming?" or "What should I wear?" to help better inform your decision.
- Sometimes formal events, such as weddings, will opt for electronic invitations. ^{[6]
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- If you have trouble RSVPing online for an e-vite, you can also call the person to let them know if you're going or not. ^{[7]
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- Reader Poll: We asked 172 wikiHow readers how they preferred to respond to an informal dinner invitation, and only 3% of them said an in-person conversation. [Take Poll] Prompty sending your RSVP to an e-vite can help you avoid any awkward conversations.
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Call to RSVP by telephone. Responding by telephone usually involves very casual and small celebrations. However, sometimes formal and semi-formal invitations will request that you RSVP by phone.
- If you are responding to a formal invitation, remember to maintain respectful etiquette. Though the RSVP may carry over into conversational territory, always use proper English. ^{[8]
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- For example, begin by saying "Hello, is this Mr. Batista?" Once he responds, you can reply with, "Hello Mr. Batista. This is Vince, I'm calling to RSVP to your 50th wedding anniversary party. I can't believe how long you've been married. I look forward to celebrating this momentous occasion with you."
- Be concise. Although the RSVP may include small talk and pleasantries, try not to carry on the conversation longer than it needs to be. Your host has other potential guests to hear from!
- For casual invitations, especially from friends, using relaxed language will most likely be acceptable. Conversation length will also vary depending on your relationship with that particular person.

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Regardless of how you respond, always thank the host for the invitation. Remember that you are being given the privilege of celebrating key events with people who are fond of you.
- Though it is not mandatory, try to provide a reasonable explanation for declining an invitation. This an empathetic way of informing your host that you, too, have significant matters to attend to.
- Make an effort to supply a gift for your host. Not only is this customary for big occasions, it is the ultimate sign of thankfulness. You do not have to splurge on an expensive item; as long as the sentiment is there, your host will appreciate your gift.
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Reply sooner rather than later. ^{[9]
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Expert Interview. 21 February 2020.} Be sensitive to the time constraints your host faces. Late RSVPs will require time and effort that could be focused on other planning aspects.
- Knowing the amount of guests ahead of time, especially for highly organized events like weddings, will ease much of the pressure and work to be done by your host.
- Punctuality not only saves your host trouble, it reflects your level of respect and thoughtfulness as a person.
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Specify how many guests you will bring. If your host offers you the option of bringing guests, be clear and precise about the number.
- Formal invitations sometimes offer the option of bringing a "plus-1." Only bring a date or companion if you have already confirmed that you will do so in the RSVP.
- Informal invitations may allow some room for multiple guests. Regardless, you should always respond in a timely manner. Avoid bringing unexpected guests or too many guests.
- Avoid ambiguous estimations, such as "a few" or "a couple."
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Know how to change or cancel an RSVP. Foregoing a commitment to appear is unfortunate, but sometimes there are extenuating circumstances for canceling an RSVP.
- If you have recently suffered an injury or illness, have had a death in the family, or have an unavoidable business conflict, canceling an RSVP is acceptable.
- Call your host immediately if there are last minute complications. The telephone is the quickest way to reach someone and will save your host unwanted surprises.
- Never miss an event to which you have already made a commitment without first notifying your host. This conveys both disrespect and indifference towards your host's efforts.
- Do not cancel because you have something better to do. This is extremely rude and inconsiderate.

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Do I RSVP to a formal wedding invitation that did not include an RSVP card?

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Yes, you should always be polite and RSVP for any formal event, whether or not the invitation includes an RSVP card.

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'If you are a major donor to a charity and they ask for an RSVP to a fancy sit-down banquet, do reply if you expect to attend, and don't show up unannounced if you didn't reply. You should be able to tell the difference between a legitimate invitation from a business or charity with whom you have a long-standing relationship, which warrants greater consideration, and the scattershot junk-mail approach that some businesses and charities use. You are not required to reply to requests for RSVPs from those seeking their own enrichment; they are abusing a social custom and you can ignore it without committing a social error.

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Some hosts prefer online systems such as www.myrsvplive.com so guests can reply from a telephone or computer. Initially used for casual events, online RSVPs have become more widely used for formal events such as weddings and anniversary parties. Guests can select meal choices, state the number of guests attending, and leave personal responses that can be saved on a CD. This option provides an easier way to reply if friends and family are lax about replying with standard RSVPs. Whether using formal or informal means, the important point is to make up your mind, reply promptly, and stick to it.

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If you have special dietary needs (not preferences!), tell your hosts in advance and offer to bring a dish that you can eat. The host may accept your offer, or they may volunteer to make something suitable themselves.

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People you would never think to care about these things often do, from dates and grandmas to friends and employers. Depending on your crowd, you will get a reputation as either "rude" or "flaky" if you habitually fail to respond to invitations.

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