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Fear is your brain's pre-programmed response to something scary. [1] X Research source It is completely natural for a spooky thought or image to be imprinted in your head, and make it hard for you to sleep. Small amounts of fear are positive for your health, but when it takes over it can interfere with your peace and happiness. Whether you're afraid because of a movie , a natural disaster, or even spiders, there are ways of coping.
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Listen to music or a podcast . You can listen to anything that you enjoy. Classic rock or the latest pop song should get you going. For even better results, try dancing for fun to the music.
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Watch a comedy movie. The human brain will remember recent images best. Having a good laugh can help by "overwriting" the memory of your scary thoughts. [2] X Research source
- You could also watch a light-hearted television show.
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Do something you enjoy. Paint your nails, give yourself a spa day, or just go and hang out with your friends. A large process of unwinding from feelings of fear is by relaxing your mind. Try taking a relaxing bath . This will soak your mind into a state of meditation. Try setting the mood with candles and bath soaps for better relaxation. [3] X Research source
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Read a light-hearted book. Focusing on the lighter subject material in the book, even for a little while, will help distract your thoughts from those that have been scaring you. You could even read a book that is meant for younger audiences.
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Do something artistic. If you like art then you should draw! Make something you enjoy. Doing art can even help channel your scary thoughts into something expressive. The creative process is known to cause happiness. [4] X Research source
- You could even write a poem if you enjoy writing.
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Treat yourself. Go out and get some take-out food or have a pizza delivered to your house. Satisfying your palate releases serotonin into your brain. This is a chemical process that happens in your brain which causes happy feelings.
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Think about something mundane. Think about what happened that was funny today. Think about how small you are in this world. Try zoom outside yourself up into space where you are simply a small dot on a series of larger dots. Your fear might feel irrelevant afterwards.
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Picture a place you feel safe. Clear your mind of unwanted images by filling it with images you do want. Think about the last time you went to Disneyland. If you have access to photographs of one of these times, then look at them and put yourself back into that environment. Remember the sights, sounds, smells, and the warm feeling of being safe.
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Spend time with someone. Sleep with a parent, brother or sister to help you feel not alone. It helps if there is someone you love and feel comfortable with around.
- Discuss your scary thoughts and concerns with someone you trust. They can provide an outside perspective on your thoughts. Also, sharing is a healthy way to express your thoughts, which helps you stop dwelling on them. [5] X Research source
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Be with a pet. Animals can help you forget the scary thoughts. Dogs especially have a therapeutic effect on the human brain. [6] X Research source Try playing with them. Their happiness will rub off on you.
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Practice a light exercise . A good way of cleansing your emotional state is by exerting yourself physically. You don't need to go to the gym. Simply do a quick weightless exercise:
- 10 reps of push-ups
- 30 reps of crunches
- 20 jumping jacks
- Rest for five minutes and repeat
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Go for a run. One of the most therapeutic activities you can do to yourself is to go out on a run. Getting your cardiovascular system going will help clear some of your scary thoughts. [7] X Research source
- Run outside! Spending time in nature lowers your anxiety, as well as your tendency to dwell on your thoughts. [8] X Research source
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Play a sport with friends. This activity should help you twice as much. You are surrounding yourself with people and exerting yourself physically. Try whatever sport you like to play with your friends, whether it's football, soccer, basketball, or whatever.
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Practice Yoga . Yoga requires you to control your breathing and send it to different parts of the body. Doing this as a way of coping with scary things, can be very therapeutic. Going to a yoga class will improve your technique and help center yourself into a peaceful environment.
- If you're unable to go to a yoga class, try doing some simple yoga moves at home.
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Limit your intake of negative news. The news often features negative or scary stories because those are the ones that stand out. They're more remembered than positive events. Avoiding the news can help you shake off these fears.
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Examine what's scaring you. Take some time to determine what it is that is scaring you. A lot of time people know exactly what is scaring them, but others are unclear what the root of their fear is. Try writing out a list of thoughts that are troubling you.
- Try to connect to the part of you that's constantly thinking about scary things. Then, see what it's trying to tell you—maybe it wants to protect you from being surprised or caught off guard if something upsetting or scary does happen. [9]
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Samantha Fox, MS, LMFT
Marriage & Family Therapist Expert Interview. 19 January 2021.
- Try to connect to the part of you that's constantly thinking about scary things. Then, see what it's trying to tell you—maybe it wants to protect you from being surprised or caught off guard if something upsetting or scary does happen. [9]
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Take deep breaths. Relaxing your mood is an important step into reaching a more peaceful state. Hysterical moods are not healthy and can even further your state of fear. A good way to calm yourself is to take deep breaths . You'll want to be calm in order to better face what is scaring you.
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Ask yourself questions. Write out a few questions, reflect on them, and try to fill in a response. Try these questions:
- What am I afraid of?
- Is this realistic?
- What is the worst that could happen?
- Where do I feel fear in my body? [10] X Research source
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Draw what's scaring you. If you have a tangible fear like a character from a horror movie, a spider, or whatnot, try drawing it. You can print out an image from the internet and try to draw it. Spending a prolonged period of time with your phobia will help you get past feeling afraid of it.
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Expose yourself. Avoiding what is scaring you can take on a worse outcome than your initial feelings of fear. Before seeking outside help, stand up to your fear and welcome it. It will be challenging, but doing this could help you place things into perspective. [11] X Trustworthy Source National Health Service (UK) Public healthcare system of the UK Go to source
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Seek professional help. If you find these thoughts to persist you may need extra help from a professional. Some fears aren't caused by a scary movie, but rather caused from an unknown source about something irrational. This type of fear is better treated with medicine or support from a therapist.
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QuestionWhat if I can't expose myself to my fears, or see anyone (therapist, friends, family, etc.)?Paul Chernyak is a Licensed Professional Counselor in Chicago. He graduated from the American School of Professional Psychology in 2011.Try challenging your fears by yourself first. Get a self help book from your library or online. You could also try doing therapy online anonymously through a site like Talkspace or Betterhelp.
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QuestionWhat do I do when I am scared of a real event?Paul Chernyak is a Licensed Professional Counselor in Chicago. He graduated from the American School of Professional Psychology in 2011.Try to figure out what specifically scares you about the event and address it directly. Sometimes we make mountains out of molehills. It's possible that you're blowing the consequences of the event out of proportion. Rarely does a single event have major consequences. When you think of the worst-case scenario, ask yourself "So what?"
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QuestionWhy do I have scary thoughts?Samantha Fox is a Marriage & Family Therapist in private practice in New York, New York. With over a decade of experience, Samantha specializes in relationship, sexuality, identity, and family conflicts. She also advises on life transitions for individuals, couples, and families. She holds both a Master’s degree and a Marriage and Family Therapy License. Samantha is trained in Internal Family Systems (IFS), Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), Emotion Focused Couples Therapy (EFT), and Narrative Therapy.Connect to the part of you that's constantly thinking about scary things. Find it in or around your body. Then, see what this part of you wants to tell you. It's likely that a part of you feels you need these thoughts to protect you from being surprised or caught off guard when something scary happens, so it's keeping you in a hyper-vigilant and aware state to keep you ready.
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- Watch TV. It will take your mind off it.Thanks
- If you are afraid that something is in the hall or a dark spot, look straight at it and smile. It will help you feel confident and safe.Thanks
- If none of these things work, talk to someone about something happy or sad to get your mind kind off the scary things.Thanks
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- Watch some Doctor Who, for two reasons: 1. It's really funny and makes you forget about what was scaring you. 2. You'll be so concerned about the characters that you won't even think about the scary thing anymore.
- I used to not be able to even look at a poster for a horror movie out of fear. Then I watched the show Supernatural. It scared me at first, but then I got used to horror. It sort of builds your immunity to fear!
- Try to think about the happiest moments of your life, and then think about something boring like counting sheep. It'll help you get your mind off of the scary thing you're afraid of.
- If you're really scared, try talking about something else with an adult or older sibling. Or, have someone make you laugh! Usually laughing will help take your mind off things.
- If you're scared by a horror movie, watch the behind-the-scenes afterward. It makes everything seem more fake and less scary!
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- If you experience this problem repeatedly after watching scary movies, horror films may not be the right kind of genre for you.Thanks
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References
- ↑ http://www.scientificamerican.com/article/factoring-fear-what-scares/
- ↑ http://happy.guide/2008/09/01/scary-movie/
- ↑ http://solutionsforseniors.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=50:gayle-horton&catid=4&Itemid=5
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/arts-and-health/201109/art-and-happiness
- ↑ https://www.everydayhealth.com/depression/depression-and-ruminative-thinking.aspx
- ↑ http://news.nationalgeographic.com/news/2012/12/121221-comfort-dogs-newtown-tragedy-animal-therapy
- ↑ http://happy.guide/2008/09/01/scary-movie/
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/your-personal-renaissance/201508/research-reveals-new-way-stop-ruminating
- ↑ Samantha Fox, MS, LMFT. Marriage & Family Therapist. Expert Interview. 19 January 2021.
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-mindful-self-express/201212/ten-skills-manage-fear-and-anxiety-in-unsafe-world
- ↑ http://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/Pages/overcoming-fears.aspx
- ↑ http://www.ahna.org/Resources/Publications/eNewsletter/Managing-Your-Fears-Anxieties-and-Stresses
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To stop thinking about scary things, try distracting yourself with something fun or lighthearted. For example, you can watch a funny movie or TV show to help keep your mind off of scary thoughts. Another way to distract yourself is to do something relaxing, like painting your nails, hanging out with friends, or taking a long bubble bath. You can also stop thinking about scary things by getting some exercise. Try going for a run, practicing some yoga, or playing basketball with a friend. Exercise releases endorphins, which put you in a better mood and help you feel more relaxed. To learn how to address the thoughts that are scaring you, keep reading.
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