How to Talk About Yourself

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Whether you want to learn to open up to people appropriately or prepare for interview questions, it's important to know how to talk about yourself. When talking to other people, be open and talk about things you love. Provide some personal information to build trust and friendship. When talking about yourself during an interview, focus largely on your professional experiences. Talk about your strengths and accomplishments and paint yourself in a positive light.

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Speaking Interpersonally

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  1. Don't come across as dull or boring when you speak about yourself. Show who you are by how you speak. Be excited about what you talk about and show interest in the topics you choose. If you find a topic boring, talk about something else. [1]
    • Talk about the things you find most interesting about yourself. Maybe you love being a parent, driving motorcycles, or playing music.
    • Approach a friend or loved one if you feel like you don't know what these are. Ask them what they consider most interesting about you. Often, people don't share because they don't think they have anything of interest to say.
  2. Bring up things that you're passionate about and care about. Perhaps it's volunteering , camping, or art. If you're passionate about something, you're more likely to be actively engaged in talking about it. [2]
    • Don't go on and on about one subject, however. Gauge the interest level and decide how long to talk about your passions.
    • Look for signs that a person is paying attention. They'll often show this in body language – things like mirroring your posture, turning the body towards you, not fidgeting – as well as asking you questions and offering feedback.
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  3. It's fairly normal to talk about your profession or career when talking about yourself. You don't have to say much, but say what you do and what you like about it. This can help people learn about what you do and what it's like for you. [3]
    • For example, say, “I work as a teacher and really enjoy it. Educating children is a passion of mine.”
    Dale Carnegie, World's Authority on Interpersonal Skills

    When asked to talk about yourself, tailor your response to the situation and audience, highlighting your most relevant qualities and accomplishments that allow your personality to shine. Share personal details and interests concisely while allowing others to reciprocate interest in your life and learn about them. Conversations should have balance — express confidence without self-absorption.

  4. Don't be afraid to share personal information about yourself. You don't have to pretend that everything is perfect or that you're happy all of the time. Opening up about yourself is one way to build connection and drop defenses.
    • Things that make people feel closer to you might include talking about your family, preferences, and hardships.
    • In being vulnerable, don't be an “over-sharer.” if you have major problems and need to talk about them, see a therapist.
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Talking During an Interview

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  1. Briefly, begin by talking about your relevant education and experience. Say your qualifications and how you're prepared for the job. While you may want to talk about your personal experiences, start your response by talking about your career experiences. [4]
    • To do this well, you'll need first to do some research about the job and its duties. Re-read the advertisement closely and then brainstorm about your previous work experiences. Try to think of how your job history and accomplishments fit the job for which you're applying – having concrete examples of this is always good, too.
    • You can also talk about how the prospective job will help you meet your goals. For example, say, “I'm qualified for this position and am excited about learning more from the people here.”
  2. Spend some time talking about your skills. Talk specifically about what makes you qualified and what you can add to the workplace. It might feel like boasting or bragging, but it's important to talk about your positive traits and abilities. [5]
    • Think back on job evaluations you've had in the past and any positive feedback you got from supervisors. Identify these as your strengths and, again, try to customize them to the position at hand.
    • For example, say, “My strength lies in my ability to communicate, and this is why I'm great at marketing.”
    • Reader Poll: We asked 135 wikiHow readers which job interview question is the most important to prepare for, and 58% of them said tell me about yourself. [Take Poll]
  3. If you've won awards, been published, or graduated with distinction, you might want to discuss this. Talk about your accomplishments and how they serve you. Showcase your accomplishments and talk about how your drive and past accomplishments can help you in the job. [6]
    • If you're feeling bashful, just remember that you've accomplished some goals and you should be proud of your accomplishments. You don't have to brag, just state what you've done.
    • Consider mentioning what you learned in pursuing these accomplishments – what the experience taught you. That way, you can appear to be humble.
  4. Highlight anything that makes you stand out against other people. Maybe you have a unique experience, have multiple language abilities, or have skills that set you apart. Make sure you say the things that make you special and unique and why your experience and skills are the best. [7]
    • For example, if you have a gap in your resume, be positive about explaining it. Say what experiences you gained from it.
  5. After you've talked about your professional experience and accomplishments, you may want to include some personal information. For example, you can talk about your love of volunteering or seeing live music. Don't talk too much about your personal life as it's not appropriate to discuss very personal details at an interview. However, giving some personal information can help you seem personable and open. [8]
    • Steer clear of controversial personal topics, though. You may want to avoid talking about your political or religious views, for example.
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    Create a connection with the person you're talking to. During a conversation, focus on being present and listening to the person you're having a conversation with. Even during an interview, try to take the opportunity to form a genuine human connection, rather than strategizing about how to make yourself look good. When you do that, you'll naturally understand what's important in the moment, and you can choose your answers accordingly.

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Remaining Friendly and Approachable

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  1. When someone is speaking, lean in. Favor your right ear and tilt your head slightly to listen. Make regular eye contact as a way to show you're listening and engaged. Smile and make encouraging comments. This can be as simple as saying, “I see” or, “Uh-huh.” [9]
    • Keep your body uncrossed by keeping your arms by your sides and feet flat on the floor.
  2. If you talk about yourself in excess, the other person may become bored or overwhelmed. People may begin to zone out or not pay attention to what you're saying if you tend to be long-winded. You may be able to say things in a concise manner without going on and on. [10]
    • If you notice yourself rambling, take a break. Say, “Okay, that's enough about me. Tell me about you.”
  3. It's okay to talk about your accomplishments but don't let them dominate the conversation. If you're proud of an accomplishment, bring it up so that others can celebrate with you. Share your good news once, then avoid bringing it up again in the conversation. Even humble brags can be annoying. [11]
    • If someone else describes an accomplishment, be happy for them without having to top it or bring attention to yourself. Celebrate their success without feeling threatened in your own.
    • Be sure to recognize the achievements of others in the conversation, as well, to avoid the appearance that you're making it all about you.
  4. If you're talking, don't go on and on about yourself. If you notice that you're talking too much, start to ask questions to the other person. Ask for their thoughts, opinions, feedbacks, and to know more about them. [12]
    • Some people tend to excessively talk when they feel nervous. If you feel nervous, don't overtalk. Deal with your anxiety instead by taking some deep breaths.
    • If there are several people in the discussion, try to be inclusive by rotating your questions or requests for input. Try to wait 3 seconds after others finish a sentence before starting to talk, too, to avoid interrupting or talking over them.
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      1. ↑ https://professional.dce.harvard.edu/blog/10-tips-for-improving-your-public-speaking-skills/
      2. ↑ https://www.yourdictionary.com/articles/about-me-speech
      3. ↑ https://www.indeed.com/career-advice/interviewing/interview-question-tell-me-about-yourself
      4. ↑ https://www.science.org/content/article/interviewing-skills-what-do-when-they-say-tell-me-about-yourself
      5. ↑ https://wmich.edu/career/personalcommercial
      6. ↑ https://www.science.org/content/article/interviewing-skills-what-do-when-they-say-tell-me-about-yourself
      7. ↑ https://www.indeed.com/career-advice/interviewing/interview-question-tell-me-about-yourself
      8. ↑ https://www.cnbc.com/2019/10/07/the-most-impressive-answer-i-ever-received-to-tell-me-about-yourself.html
      9. ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/relationships/communication/effective-communication#nonverbal
      1. ↑ https://www.indeed.com/career-advice/career-development/how-to-speak-more-concisely
      2. ↑ https://www.artofmanliness.com/career-wealth/career/the-helicopter-jumpers-guide-to-talking-about-yourself-10-ways-to-share-your-accomplishments-without-sounding-like-a-jerk/
      3. ↑ https://www.artofmanliness.com/career-wealth/career/the-helicopter-jumpers-guide-to-talking-about-yourself-10-ways-to-share-your-accomplishments-without-sounding-like-a-jerk/

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      To talk about yourself, try talking about the things you’re passionate about in life, like volunteering, hiking, or playing in a band, since this will probably be most interesting for other people. While you’re talking, look for signs that they’re still interested, such as nodding, facing you, and asking you questions, since you don't want to bore them. If you’re asked to talk about yourself in an interview, start by talking about your work experience, since this is what employers will be most interested in. However, you should also talk about what makes you different, like specific achievements and your accomplishments, to make you stand out from the crowd. For more tips from our co-author, including how to avoid bragging when talking about yourself, read on!

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