Tickling can be a cute way to flirt with your girlfriend. If you keep it light, gentle, and playful, it will be a fun experience that brings you closer together.
Steps
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Make sure you are in the right setting. If you tickle her in front of a bunch of people, it can be embarrassing--both for her and for the people around you. It is best to tickle her somewhere private where you both feel comfortable.
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Make sure she is in a good mood. Tickling is not always appropriate. If she is very angry, sad, or she is trying to focus on something important, it's probably not a good time to tickle her. It might make you seem insensitive and upset her further.
- If she is sad, try giving her a hug instead. You can maybe give her a little tickle around the ribs if she starts feeling better.
- Try and remember if she has ever told you that she hates to be tickled. You should take her at her word and know that tickling is not a welcome touch. [1] X Research source
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Know which areas are off-limits. Your girlfriend might not be comfortable being touched in all of her ticklish spots. After all, our most ticklish areas are also the most vulnerable. [2] X Research source You may want to do a couple quick tests before trying to tickle her. If she makes any indication that she's uncomfortable, know that spot is off-limits for tickling.
- When you are laying down, try running your toes lightly along the bottoms of her feet and see how she reacts. [3] X Research source
- When her arms are raised or you are hugging her, put your hand near her armpit. Some girls might be worried about sweat and won't want you to touch them there.
- Place your hand on her hip or stomach. Notice if she removes your hand or seems to welcome your touch.
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Sneak up from behind and surprise her by tickling her sides. Gently poking or wiggling your fingers (move them like you are typing really fast) up and down her sides will probably make her giggle, especially if you catch her off-guard. [4] X Research source Do this for no more than 10 seconds.
- When you stop tickling her, you can pull her against you for a sweet hug and kiss.
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Tickle under her arms and around her tummy when you are sitting together on the couch. This works well if you have just been kissing, since the physical contact won't come out of nowhere. It may also lead to more kissing!
- Make sure you aren't tickling her too hard. Tickling can be pleasurable, but only when you use a light touch. Too much pressure and it can become painful. [5] X Research source
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Use your lips to tickle her neck or ear. Gently brushing the slope of her neck with your lips or breathing into her ear is a very intimate way to tickle her. It may even cause her to squeal!
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Stop if she starts yelling, is having trouble breathing, or if she asks you multiple times. Tickling can be tricky, because she will be laughing when she asks you to stop, and you may think she doesn't really mean it. But the laughter is involuntary, and she might be in pain, getting mad, or feel very uncomfortable and want you to stop. [6] X Research source
- Only tickling her for a few seconds at a time is a good way to avoid an awkward situation. If she really doesn't like it, you will have only tickled her briefly.
- If she tells you she really didn't like being tickled, then you know not to do it again.
Community Q&A
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QuestionWhat if she likes being tickled?Community AnswerIf she likes being tickled and you like tickling her, then you are lucky. That said, try not to tickle her every time you see her or it will become less fun for both of you.
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QuestionHow do I tickle my girlfriend's navel?Community AnswerRun your finger around it gently in circles. If it makes her uncomfortable, stop.
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QuestionHow can I tickle her armpits without her becoming suspicious?Community AnswerYou can try giving her a hug and then quickly moving your hands up to her armpits and tickling her.
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Tips
Tips from our Readers
- When you're tickling your girlfriend, make sure she's comfortable with it. If she says "no" or expresses discomfort, you need to stop! Try to revisit the topic later to discuss boundaries.
- Don't always tickle her out of nowhere. Try to do it a little if you're cuddling or kissing, but ideally when she's being playful with you.
References
- ↑ https://slate.com/human-interest/2009/10/my-boyfriend-won-t-stop-tickling-me.html
- ↑ http://science.howstuffworks.com/life/inside-the-mind/emotions/laugh-tickling2.htm
- ↑ http://charris.ucsd.edu/articles/Harris_AS1999.pdf
- ↑ http://charris.ucsd.edu/articles/Harris_AS1999.pdf
- ↑ http://science.howstuffworks.com/life/inside-the-mind/emotions/laugh-tickling1.htm
- ↑ https://live.washingtonpost.com/carolyn-hax-live-20150220.html
About This Article
Before you try tickling your girlfriend, talk to her first to make sure she likes being tickled. Some people find it unpleasant to be tickled, or might not like it in certain settings, like in front of other people. If your girlfriend is OK with being tickled, try surprising her by creeping up from behind and running your fingers up and down her sides, which will likely make her giggle. If you’re sitting on the couch and are intimate, tickle her around her belly or under her arms. You can also tickle her intimately with your mouth by brushing your lips against her neck or ear. Always remember to stop if she has problems breathing or asks you to do so several times. For tips on what to do after you've tickled her, keep reading!