How to Convince Your Parents to Move

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Where you live can have a significant influence on your life. Your ability to make friends, access to career and educational opportunities, and quality of life is often dependent on factors such as your actual living space or the locality where you reside. You might feel like moving could make life better for you and parents. By discussing your concerns and wishes and considering different options for moving, you may be able to convince your parents to move.

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Discussing Wishes with Your Parents

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  1. Before you approach your parents with your wish to move, think about what your motivation is. Not only can this help you flesh out your feelings, but also help you more convincingly make your case to your parents.
    • Write down your reasons for wanting to move. For example, you can have things like “better educational opportunities for me and job chances for dad,” or it could be something like “the house is too big for mom to care for.” It also helps if you have relatives where you are planning to move, with something like "closer to grandma and grandpa."
    • Your argument will be more compelling if you share your reasons and explain how they connect to your values.
    • Consider keeping a list of pros and cons for moving. Think about factors such as expenses, losing friends, gaining new opportunities or helping shoulder burdens.
  2. Try and not spring on your parents immediately that you want to move. [1] Take time to plant the seed at the right moments once you’ve had a chance to write out your own motivations. [2]
    • Avoid being pushy. At times that are not rushed, mention that moving might make life a little better or easier. [3] For example, you could say “mom, maybe we both wouldn't be so frantic to leave every morning if we didn't live so far from school" or “dad, maybe you’d have more energy if you didn’t have such a large space to care for.”
    • Point out potential new places when you’re out. For example, say to your parents when you’re headed to the grocery store, “wow, look at everything in this neighborhood: schools, stores, restaurants, and it’s so much closer to your jobs.” You can also say “wow, this assisted living facility has so many amenities and is really close to our house.” [4]
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  3. Once you’ve planted the seed that you want to move, your parents will likely start to get the message. Researching potential options before your parents start asking questions about your motivation and where you want to move can help you make a more convincing case. [5]
    • Go online for places you might like to live or move. Use these as a part of the hints you subtly drop hints.
    • Keep in mind elements such as finances when you’re searching. You may not be aware of your parents’ financial situation and how your suggestions affect them emotionally and possibly financially. Research new places to live at a variety of price points. [6]
    • Keep notes on different places so that you can convincingly present them. For example, if you want to move to a different city, you could include things like the standard cost of housing and living, the overall health profile of the place, and the advantages it presents to you over the current place you live. [7]
  4. The next time a parent shows stress about the house, suggest moving. Let this stimulate an open discussion about your desire to move and the practicability of it. [8]
    • Have the discussion when you’re less likely to be interrupted.
    • Start the conversation with your observations and concerns about staying and the reasons you would like your parents to consider moving. Let them know you are serious, but try and keep the conversation as honest and positive as possible. For example, you can say “I’m really interested in pursuing my interest in science and the school in New York has much better opportunities for me to do this,” or “I’m being bullied at school and feel like an outcast.” [9] Likewise, you can say “mom, I think it’s a good idea to move so that you have a built-in community and help whenever you might need it.” [10]
    • Suggest that your parents talk to your friends, colleagues, or teachers about your wishes. [11] This may help them better understand that your position is serious.
  5. After you’ve had the discussion with your parents about moving, wait and let them think about moving. [12] Remember that moving doesn’t happen overnight and may require that your parents take time to consider the pros and cons for them and your entire family. [13]
    • Put yourself in your parents’ shoes and be sensitive. As they consider your wishes, keep in mind how it affects your parents. Although moving might be great for you, it can put financial and emotional stress on your parents. [14]
    • Stay away from pushing the idea on your parents once you’ve discussed your wishes. This may annoy or stress them and could end up in them dismissing the idea altogether.
  6. No matter what your parents decide about moving, respect the decision they reach. There may be factors about which you are unaware that influence your parents’ decision and nagging them may have negative consequences for you.
    • Offer to help your parents in any way you can if they decide to move. [15]
    • Keep your parents in the loop about your feelings if the motivation for wanting to move is issues at school. Talking about problems with them may help. [16]
    • Revisit the issue in the future if your parents said they weren’t sure or wanted some more time to think about it.
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Considering Different Options to Moving

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  1. If moving isn’t an option at the moment, or at all, consider getting support to help you cope with why you want to move. [17] This may help you realize that you can formulate alternatives to moving that may make you feel better. [18]
    • Speak with your family, friends, and/ or a trusted person. Be open and honest with them about your feelings and ask them for advice on how best to handle your situation. [19]
    • Seek the help of a professional such as your doctor, a psychiatrist, or a counselor. [20]
  2. If a permanent move isn’t in the cards, explore your options for moving away temporarily. From exchange years to staying with relatives, even some time away may make you feel better or even help convince your parents that a move would be good for the family.
    • Suggest going to live with family or friends in a different area. Although it might not be your first choice of places to live, it can give you a chance to move and experience something different. For example, you could say “would it be possible for me to stay with Uncle Chris for a couple of months and go to school there?” or “mom, would you like to come and stay with us for a few weeks? This will give you a chance to relax.”
    • Consider going on an exchange program if you are a student. Not only can going abroad let you “move,” but it may also provide you new perspectives and adventures. [21]
    • Capitalize on vacations. For example, if your family is having a great time on vacation, mention to your parents how much more there is to do where you’re vacationing or even how much better your family gets along.
  3. If your reasons for moving are related to education, such as bullying or learning opportunities, ask if you can attend a different school. This may help you handle issues when you are not able to move. [22]
    • Research schools in your area that have qualities that you want. For example, if you want to focus on science, find local schools that offer excellent programs in science.
    • Ask your parents about the possibility of switching schools. Remember that this may mean they need to drive you to a different town or area every day, which could make their lives more difficult. [23]
    • Be aware that switching schools can also come with disadvantages: you will be the “new kid” and may find you have the same problems at the new school as you did at the old one. [24]
  4. Visit your local chamber of commerce or ask friends or colleagues about different opportunities in your area. This may give you a chance to see the advantages of staying in your area.
    • See what activities, clubs, or events are happening. In many cases, people will carpool to local happenings and this may give you a chance to meet new people and “move” without leaving your home.
    • Ask friends and even people you meet while you’re out about activities or events in your area.
  5. The Internet has made the world much smaller. If moving physically isn’t an option, you can move spiritually by joining a new and/ or virtual community of people who share your interests and beliefs.
    • Research different communities online. For example, if you are interested in pursuing a degree in Roman history, you could join an online forum of archaeologists or other Roman history enthusiasts.
    • Consider seeing what other communities exist in your local area. For example, churches may be a place to find people with similar interests or locating a horse club online may help you connect with someone else in your area with similar interests in horses.
    • Let your parents know about the communities or activities in which you are interested. This can help them support you and may also make them revisit their decision about moving.
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      • Make a list of reasonable motivations for wanting to move, like better schools or job opportunities. Use facts and statistics to strengthen your argument when presenting to your parents. Emphasize how the change would benefit the whole family.
      • Research potential new locations thoroughly before formally approaching your parents, considering things like housing costs, school ratings, and distance from relatives. Come armed with options.
      • Before bringing up moving, plant seeds by casually pointing out appealing aspects of other neighborhoods you visit, like amenities and proximity. This starts getting them used to the idea.
      • See if a temporary move is possible, like attending a different school or staying with relatives out of town for a while. This compromise lets you experience a change of environment.
      • Make the best of staying put by finding new hobbies, clubs, and friend groups locally. New activities and communities can make you feel like you "moved" without going anywhere.
      • If your parents say no, for now, respect their decision but ask if you could revisit the conversation down the road. Offer to help with moving tasks if they agree to it.
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      If your parents are reluctant to move house, there are a few ways you can help convince them. Calmly tell your parents why you want to move and how it will make your lives better. Wait until your parents are relaxed and in a good mood to bring it up. You can also research new homes online and show them pictures to get them interested. If you want to move city, tell your parents about the cool things the city has to offer, like a good college, transport links, landmarks, and fun things to do on weekends. Instead of mentioning everything at once, try bringing these things up over the course of a few weeks to give your parents more time to think it over. If they still don’t want to move, try waiting a while before you bring it up again so you don't overwhelm them. For more tips, including how to move school, read on!

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