Do you consider yourself an extremely empathetic person? Do you feel others’ suffering as intensely as if it was your own? If you answered yes, you might experience hyper-empathy. Empathy is an essential part of human relationships, but when you experience it too intensely, it can make you neglect your own needs to take care of others. If you struggle with hyper-empathy, you aren’t alone, and we've compiled a complete guide below, including its definition, signs, and ways to cope, so keep reading!
Things You Should Know
- If you struggle with hyper-empathy, you feel empathy too intensely and take on others’ emotions as your own.
- Hyper-empathy causes strong physical and emotional reactions to other people’s suffering, and it can make you neglect your own needs to care for others.
- To manage hyper-empathy, learn to set healthy boundaries and prioritize self-care. This will help make sure you don’t neglect your own needs and emotions.
Steps
Types of Empathy
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Cognitive Empathy Cognitive empathy is the ability to identify and understand other people’s emotions. When you experience cognitive empathy, you can understand another person's perspective and why they might feel a certain way. [5] X Trustworthy Source Greater Good Magazine Journal published by UC Berkeley's Greater Good Science Center, which uses scientific research to promote happier living Go to source
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Affective Empathy Affective empathy refers to the feelings you experience in response to other people’s emotions. Affective empathy can include mirroring other people’s feelings, or taking on their suffering. [6] X Trustworthy Source Greater Good Magazine Journal published by UC Berkeley's Greater Good Science Center, which uses scientific research to promote happier living Go to source
- If you’re struggling with hyper-empathy, you might be experiencing more affective empathy than cognitive empathy.
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Compassionate Empathy While empathy involves taking on another person’s suffering as your own, compassion involves feeling concerned for another person's suffering, which leads to a desire to help. [7] X Trustworthy Source Greater Good Magazine Journal published by UC Berkeley's Greater Good Science Center, which uses scientific research to promote happier living Go to source Compassionate empathy combines these two things together. When someone is suffering, you empathically feel their pain, but instead of wallowing in the suffering with them, you feel a desire to help alleviate their suffering.
- This helps you focus on problem-solving and support, rather than your own experience of the other person's pain.
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