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The best ways to get your partner’s engine revving when you’re in the mood
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Maybe you catch a glimpse of your partner and you just really want them. Maybe you just woke up and it’s on your mind. Sometimes, you just find yourself really, really in the mood. Whatever caused it isn’t important—all you want to know is how you can get your partner in the mood to have sex, too. The truth is, it doesn’t have to be a mysterious secret. With open communication and a little bit of daring, there are plenty of ways you can initiate sex with your partner.
Things You Should Know
- Ask your partner if they want to have sex for a direct way to communicate with them.
- Use compliments and light touches to turn your partner on throughout the day.
- Give your partner a sensual massage or wear a new, sexy outfit to rev their engine.
- If all else fails, talk to your partner and ask them how they want you to initiate in the future.
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QuestionHow long should you spend on foreplay?JT Tran is a Dating Coach and a Dating Advice Columnist for LA Weekly and Baller Magazine. JT also runs the ABCs of Attraction, a dating boot camp where he specializes in coaching Asian men and women on how to navigate the cultural and social sensitivities associated with Asian dating culture. With over ten years of dating coaching experience, JT has presented dating and relationship advice as it relates to cultural issues at Harvard University, Yale University, and the Wharton School of Business at the University of Pennsylvania. His work has been featured in AsianWeek, New York, NU Asian Magazine, the Huffington Post, Channel News Asia, and Voice of America News TV.This is going to totally depend on you and your partner, so remember, communication is key. But as a general guideline, taking it slow and spending 20 minutes or so on foreplay is a pretty good guideline.
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QuestionWhat if I'm kind of scared to talk about sex?JT Tran is a Dating Coach and a Dating Advice Columnist for LA Weekly and Baller Magazine. JT also runs the ABCs of Attraction, a dating boot camp where he specializes in coaching Asian men and women on how to navigate the cultural and social sensitivities associated with Asian dating culture. With over ten years of dating coaching experience, JT has presented dating and relationship advice as it relates to cultural issues at Harvard University, Yale University, and the Wharton School of Business at the University of Pennsylvania. His work has been featured in AsianWeek, New York, NU Asian Magazine, the Huffington Post, Channel News Asia, and Voice of America News TV.It's really a sign of a strong and healthy relationship if everyone is comfortable talking about sex. I know it might be scary at first, but it's one of those things that gets easier the more you do it. Don't be afraid to talk about sex! It's totally healthy and normal.
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QuestionHow can I make my partner more comfortable about sex?JT Tran is a Dating Coach and a Dating Advice Columnist for LA Weekly and Baller Magazine. JT also runs the ABCs of Attraction, a dating boot camp where he specializes in coaching Asian men and women on how to navigate the cultural and social sensitivities associated with Asian dating culture. With over ten years of dating coaching experience, JT has presented dating and relationship advice as it relates to cultural issues at Harvard University, Yale University, and the Wharton School of Business at the University of Pennsylvania. His work has been featured in AsianWeek, New York, NU Asian Magazine, the Huffington Post, Channel News Asia, and Voice of America News TV.Try to ask leading questions about what their preferences are. Try opening up a bit yourself to show them that they're comfortable with being vulnerable. Give them time. It's hard for some people to open up with this stuff.
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- Work on developing an open and honest communication system about sex. The more you know about what your partner likes, the more you can turn them on! [12] X Expert Source JT Tran
Dating Coach Expert Interview. 5 May 2020.Thanks - Remember to respect your partner’s feelings and to have their consent. The goal is to get your partner to want to have sex, not just to have sex regardless of how they feel.Thanks
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Warnings
- Don’t try to force your partner to do something they don’t feel comfortable doing. It could potentially damage your sex life and your relationship.Thanks
References
- ↑ https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/2020/01/9322075/how-to-initiate-sex
- ↑ https://www.gq-magazine.co.uk/lifestyle/article/initiating-sex-tips
- ↑ https://vantagepointdallascounseling.com/sex/nurturing-intimacy-how-to-initiate-sex-in-a-long-term-relationship/
- ↑ https://www.womansday.com/relationships/sex-tips/advice/a2658/9-ways-to-initiate-sex-124695/
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/humor-sapiens/201504/good-in-bed-funny-men-give-more-orgasms
- ↑ https://www.gq-magazine.co.uk/lifestyle/article/initiating-sex-tips
- ↑ https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/2020/01/9322075/how-to-initiate-sex
- ↑ https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/2020/01/9322075/how-to-initiate-sex
- ↑ JT Tran. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 5 May 2020.
- ↑ https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/2020/01/9322075/how-to-initiate-sex
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-erotic-brain/201906/there-may-be-better-way-initiate-sex-your-partner
- ↑ JT Tran. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 5 May 2020.
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