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If you have a crush on a boy and he likes you back, you may want to take your relationship to the next level and kiss. Kissing a boy for the first time can be scary, but it doesn’t have to be. Even if you don’t know exactly what to do, learning can be fun! We’ve compiled tons of tips on how to kiss a boy for the first time, including advice on technique and how to prepare for the kiss from dating coaches Eddy Baller and Connell Barrett.
How to Kiss a Boy for the First Time
Make sure your breath is fresh. Dress nicely so you look and feel confident, and try to find the perfect time and place. Flirt to build tension by subtly touching his arm. Lean in, close your eyes, and try to mostly use your bottom lip. Open your eyes when you pull away.
Steps
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Community Q&A
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QuestionWhat's wrong with keeping our eyes open while kissing?Community AnswerIt's not "wrong" to keep your eyes open during a kiss; however, scientific studies have found that it's difficult to focus on physical sensations (e.g., kissing) when your eyes are focused on something else, so closing them helps you and your partner to focus on how the kiss feels. (There's also the fact that extended eye contact can feel awkward or frightening to some people, and when you kiss, your eyes are level with your partner's; if your eyes are open, you're forced to make eye contact.)
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QuestionWhat if he backs away when I kiss him?Community AnswerBacking away means he's not interested in kissing you - it's body language for "I'm uncomfortable with this" or "You're invading my personal space, please back away." Before you kiss someone, it's generally a good idea to lean in a bit and give the other person a moment before you actually go in for the kiss; if he takes the moment to back away, turn his head away or starts talking, that means he doesn't want to kiss and you should pull back.
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QuestionWhat age do I have to be to kiss a boy?Community AnswerIt would depend on who you ask, but there's no real right answer. Some people would recommend waiting until you're in middle school or high school, while others might say to just wait until you feel ready. Talk to your parents about whether they have rules on when you're allowed to start dating, and don't feel pressured to kiss anyone before you're ready.
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Tips
- Don't lick your lips before you kiss. You don't want a wet kiss.Thanks
- If you are not comfortable with a long kiss like suggested in this article, it is fine to lean up to your crush and plant a quick peck on their lips, with your eyes closed. Then pull back and see if he was comfortable with it.Thanks
- Make sure your heads are tilting in different directions, or else your noses will push together.Thanks
Warnings
- If you feel uncomfortable, you have the right to pull away at any time. Don't do anything that you don't want to do!Thanks
- Remember: not kissing them yet doesn't mean the end of the relationship— or the world.Thanks
- Wait until you’re 100% ready to kiss someone. You don’t have to kiss them just because you’ve started dating them.Thanks
- If you feel like he crossed a physical boundary and touched you without your consent, you have every right to tell him not to do it again and to end the relationship or friendship.Thanks
References
- ↑ https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/symptoms/17771-bad-breath-halitosis
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/maybe-its-just-me/201310/does-everyone-find-confidence-attractive
- ↑ Connell Barrett. Dating Coach. Expert Interview
- ↑ Eddy Baller. Dating Coach. Expert Interview
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-attraction-doctor/201202/how-flirt-and-seduce-touch-part-1
- ↑ https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/affairs-of-the-lips-why-we-kiss/
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-asymmetric-brain/202102/the-kissing-brain-investigating-the-neuroscience-romance
- ↑ Eddy Baller. Dating Coach. Expert Interview
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-science-of-love/201210/the-very-first-kiss-momentous-or-disastrous
- ↑ Eddy Baller. Dating Coach. Expert Interview
About This Article
To make your first kiss with a boy as fun and romantic as possible, take a little time to prepare ahead if you can. Brush your teeth or use a breath mint, and put on a little lip balm to soften your lips. Find a quiet, private place where you can get up close and personal without being distracted or interrupted. To set the mood, flirt with your guy a little bit before going in for the kiss. Look for romantic ways to break the touch barrier, like holding his hand, stroking his hair or face, or putting an arm around him. When the moment seems right, lock eyes with him and move your face close to his. If he’s feeling it, he’ll probably lean in, too. But if you’re not sure, you can always ask him. Say something like, “I really want to kiss you right now. Is that okay?” Once you get the green light, close your eyes, tilt your head slightly to one side, and gently press your lips to his. Keep your lips relaxed and slightly parted instead of puckering up. As you kiss him, you can also put your arms around his waist, caress his arms or shoulders, or stroke his hair and face with your hands. Let the kiss linger for about 5 seconds, and remember to breathe in and out through your nose. When you’re done, gently pull back a little bit. Open your eyes, make eye contact with him, and smile. If you enjoyed the kiss, give his confidence a boost by saying something like, “That was amazing,” or “You’re such a good kisser.” From there, you can either move on with your conversation or turn it into a longer make out session—just try to relax and do whatever feels natural. For more tips, including how to compliment a boy after kissing him for the first time, read on!
Reader Success Stories
- "Everything about this article helped me figure out what I need to know. Mainly helped when it said that when he leans into the kiss to close our eyes. Also learned that when you pull away, open your eyes and pull away slowly. I think the article was helpful." ..." more