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Kissing can be a romantic moment that you'll never forget. But if you're a guy and you've never kissed a girl before, the moments leading up to the kiss can be quite daunting. Read on for a few tried and tested tips on a few things you can do to have a memorable first kiss with a girl — even if you've never been kissed. Good luck kissing!
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1Use the back of your hand. Practice with the back of your hand in the privacy of your own room or when you are alone so you don't look strange because you are essentially kissing yourself.
- To do this, you should open your mouth as wide as your index finger when you have it laying sideways over your mouth.
- Put your lips gently over the back of your hand. You can move your lips in a circular motion, or pretend like you are lightly sucking the juice out of a fruit, like a plum.
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Stand in front of the mirror and pretend like she is front of you. Practice parting your lips in a circular motion.- You can also use your tongue, like you're gently pushing into the flesh of a soft fruit.
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Use your eyes. Gesture by looking into her eyes, looking at her lips, and then back at her eyes to show your readiness. -
Sit really close to her to show affection and establish intimacy. If she is nervous and you feel like the time is right to kiss her, catching her off-guard by kissing her might take the edge off and pleasantly surprise her — and you! -
Work up to the kiss by flirting. Touch her hand gently when you're talking to her; compliment her eyes or hair; or stare longingly into her eyes. Never underestimate what a simple touch can do to set the mood for the perfect first kiss. Touching your girlfriend breaks the barrier that separates the two of you and paves the way to a more intimate connection, which is the kiss [1] X Research source . -
Maintain eye contact until you kiss. Fix the other person's gaze with your eyes and don't close your eyes until you've gone into the kiss. Locking onto her eyes is the best way to pull her in to grab that kiss.
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Go ahead and ask. Since you've never been kissed, you may find it difficult to read your girl's non-verbal cues. -
Be creative and ask in a way that puts her at ease. A few prompts would be:- I really want to kiss you right now...
- I want to show you just how much you mean to me...
- Can I kiss you goodnight?
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QuestionHow do you kiss someone at the appropriate time?Michele Fields is a Matchmaker, Dating Coach, and the Owner of Bon Jour Matchmaking based in Denver, Colorado. With over thirty years of experience, she specializes in helping others meet people and navigate dating and relationships. Michele has created over 300 marriages and has been featured on Denver ABC News, The Rocky Mountain News, Colorado 2 News, Denver Westworld, and The Denver Post.The truth is, you don't always know. At least half the time you'll get signals verbally or physically—or, you'll pick up on the energy between the two of you. If you aren't sure, you can always ask!
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QuestionWhat if she's too shy to kiss?Brett GilbertTop AnswererYou will need to make her as comfortable as possible. Watch her body language, then take the initiative by setting the scene and leaning in. Just don't force it if she doesn't seem willing.
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QuestionWhat if she's a type of girl that likes to brag?Brett GilbertTop AnswererAsk yourself if it's worth everyone knowing your business. Do you like her enough? Do you trust her to keep a secret if you don't want others to know? She might not be the right person for you.
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Tips
- Practice good oral hygiene: Brush your teeth, gargle, and chew gum. Don't eat stinky food before your kiss. If you do keep a mint on hand to take away the smell. Blow against your hand to test your breath — you won't regret it!Thanks
- Take care of your lips by keeping them soft with lip balm. Make sure that they aren't dry or flaky.Thanks
- Use proper body language. Don't keep your arms crossed or your hands in your pockets when you want to be kissed or you will look aloof. Put your hand on her neck or cheek and initiate eye contact.Thanks
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Warnings
- Make sure the girl is really into you. There’s nothing more embarrassing than making a move to kiss someone, only to have her pull away. There’s a big difference between a girl who’s shy and a girl who sees you as just a friend.Thanks
- There's no need to reveal that you've never been kissed unless the moment calls for it, or unless the girl asks. This is something that can be shared after the moment has passed — not before.Thanks
- Be realistic in your "first kiss" expectations. It may not be the most dreamy kiss, but with time, kissing your girlfriend will feel more natural. As you have more kisses logged with your girlfriend, you will only get better at kissing her.Thanks
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To kiss a girl for the first time, start by flirting with her by touching her arm briefly when you talk, complimenting her, and smiling when you look into her eyes. If she looks at your lips and leans close to you, take this as a sign that she wants to be kissed. When you think she’s open to being kissed, slowly lean in while maintaining eye contact and press your lips against hers. If you’re nervous about kissing her, you can practice kissing the back of your hand when you’re alone to perfect your technique. For more tips, including how to ask a girl if she wants to be kissed, read on!
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