How to Know if a Virgo Man Is Pushing You Away

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Red flags to keep an eye out for in your relationship
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Every relationship has its ups and downs, regardless of you and your BF’s star signs. Still, what if you and your Virgo man have gone through a seemingly endless rough patch? Unfortunately, Virgos don’t usually take the initiative when they’re feeling unhappy, and often expect their partners to call it quits. [1] Don’t worry, though—we’ve put together plenty of clues, hints, and signs to help you figure out if he’s really pushing you away.

Virgo Men Red Flags

  1. He doesn't treat you nicely.
  2. He doesn't answer your texts.
  3. He doesn't act interested in you.
  4. He doesn't feel like getting intimate.
  5. He doesn't prioritize you in his life.
  6. He doesn't help you out very much.
  7. He tends to be critical.
1

He treats you poorly.

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    He won’t hug you, kiss you, or say “I love you”—instead, he’ll try to push you to your limit. If he isn’t treating you with love and respect, he’s probably trying to convince you to end things. To get the ball rolling, he might: [2]
    • Nitpick every little thing you do
    • Criticize the way you look
    • Refuse to spend quality time with you
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2

He doesn’t reply to your texts.

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    Maybe you ask him how his day was, or if he’d like to hang out later on. No matter what the message is, it never seems important enough to grab his attention. Unfortunately, leaving you on read is a classic sign that he’s trying to pull away .
    • Try to give him the benefit of the doubt first. Let him know how you feel when he doesn’t reply to your messages, and see if he tries to make an effort. You could say something like: “I understand that you’re busy, but I feel like I’m not a priority when you blow off my texts. Do you think we could come to some sort of compromise?”
    • Super-delayed replies to your texts aren’t a great sign, either.
3

He acts disinterested.

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    [3] If he’s pushing you away, he might avoid striking up conversations or asking about how your day went. As a true test, try chatting with him about some of his favorite topics, like a hobby. If he’s acting disinterested and closed off, he’s probably pulling back. [4]
    • Look for a pattern of distant, disinterested behavior, too. If he only acts this way once or twice, he could just be having a bad day.
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4

He’s not engaged in the bedroom.

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    Unfortunately, a disinterested Virgo may cool things down indefinitely just to make a point. Think about the last time you both took a roll in the hay. If weeks and months have passed since your last romp, there’s a good chance that he’s pushing you away. [5]
    • Try to keep context in mind before jumping to any conclusions. If he had a really long day at work, he could just be too tired to be intimate that night.


5

He doesn’t make you a priority.

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    Invite him to spend some time with you and see how he reacts—an engaged, interested Virgo guy will be more than happy to pencil you into his daily life. If he’s never able (or willing) to prioritize you, there’s a good chance that he’s pushing you away. [6]
    • Ask him to hang out on multiple occasions. You might say “Would you like to head over to my place and watch a movie together?” or “Wanna grab a bite to eat at the food court tonight?”
    • Even if he’s busy one day, an interested Virgo should still be willing to prioritize you later on.
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6

He isn’t eager to help you out.

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    From household chores to tough homework problems, Virgos want to be as supportive and helpful as possible. With this in mind, pay close attention to how he treats you each day. Is he looking for opportunities to make your life a little easier, or is he leaving you to your own devices? A distant, unhelpful Virgo may: [7]
    • Let the door close behind him instead of holding it open for you.
    • Skip over chores that he’s usually eager to help with.
    • Refuse to give you advice when you’re having a tough time.
7

He’s more critical than usual.

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    A kind, helpful Virgo guy will probably point out if your shirt is wrinkled or if you have something stuck in your teeth. However, his comments and critiques are meant to help you, not harm you. If he’s really trying to push you away, he might make pointlessly critical, borderline nasty remarks. He might say: [8]
    • “Your room is such a pigsty” instead of “You could really speed up your morning routine if you organized your room.”
    • “You look like you got dressed in the dark” instead of “Your shirt and pants don’t match very well.”
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8

He doesn’t care about what you think.

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    Take notes during your next conversation. Does he seem genuinely interested and invested in what you have to say, or is he just shrugging off your thoughts and opinions? A distant, uncaring Virgo may be trying to push you away. He might: [9]
    • Act like his opinion matters more than yours
    • Not pay attention when you tell him something important
    • Not remember things you mentioned in previous conversations
9

He acts passive-aggressively.

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    Pay attention to how he treats you on a day-to-day basis, and how he reacts to minor inconveniences. Does he seem to make a big deal out of nothing, or turn the slightest inconvenience into a huge issue? Non-stop passive-aggressive language could definitely be a sign that he’s pulling away. [10] He might say: [11]
    • “I’m not mad” when he’s clearly upset.
    • “Fine. It’s whatever” instead of sharing how he’s really feeling.
    • “I was just joking” when he says a clearly hurtful remark.
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He holds grudges on a regular basis.

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    He might rake you through the coals over an argument from eons ago, or randomly mention something hurtful that you did a long time ago. Long, pointless grudges are a big red flag that he’s pulling away from you. [12]
    • Pay close attention to the intent of his words. Is he digging up the past solely to drag your name through the mud, or is he genuinely hurt about something?
11

He loves to pick fights.

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    Virgo men usually love to keep things peaceful and harmonious, so it’s a very bad sign if he’s always butting heads with you. An unhappy Virgo won’t even try to keep the peace, and may act like a completely different person. He might: [13]
    • Bicker about something minor, like a household chore
    • Blame you about something
    • Treat you like the bad guy
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He has major doubts about your relationship.

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    If he’s constantly pointing out how little you have in common, he might be trying to send you a message. He might say:
    • “I can’t believe we’ve been together for 2 years. I don’t think we like any of the same things.”
    • “I have such a hard time hanging out with you sometimes. You really like going out, and I’d rather spend a night in.”

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