Being touchy and affectionate with your partner is just one way to show them how much you love and adore them. However, there’s a difference between hugging and kissing your partner in the privacy of your own home and doing so out in a public place. We’re here to explain what exactly public displays of affection (PDA) are, how they’re perceived, and the dos and don’ts when it comes to being a bit more intimate in public. We’ll also look at what PDA looks like in other cultures, so keep reading!
Things You Should Know
- Public displays of affection (PDA) include things like hugging, kissing, and hand-holding in public spaces.
- Small, affectionate gestures like hugging and holding hands are generally acceptable in public, especially if you’re greeting someone.
- More intimate forms of PDA (making out, groping, etc.) are often seen as especially inappropriate in formal or crowded settings or when you’re with family.
Steps
Expert Q&A
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QuestionHow can you tell if your partner is comfortable with public displays of affection?Lauren Sanders is a Professional Matchmaker, Dating Coach, and the Founder of Dating for the Soul. With over four years of experience, she specializes in helping singles find love. Lauren is also the author of Lipstick Faith: A Collection of Inspirational Writings and Life Lessons, You Deserve the World, Rainbows and Strawberries: 100 Devotions for the Brighter Side of Life, and Let's Go Outside Mommy. Lauren holds BS from Dillard University and a Masters from The University of North Georgia.You can tell that your partner is okay with PDA if they feel at ease when you touch them. For instance, they'll never push you away or act as if you're bothering them when you lean in for affection (like a hug, kiss, etc.). They may also initiate public affection without you having to always initiate it (or they may even initiate it more than you). They will also appear happy about it. A person who like PDA enjoys doing it, and it's never a hassle or burden for them to show that they like you in front of other people.
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QuestionCan my boyfriend and I hold hands in church when we are both 15?Community AnswerThat depends on various people's opinions: parents and church officials in particular. Some people would have no problem with that. Others might find it inappropriate. Ask the people you care about.
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QuestionIs it okay to do PDA with a co-worker in front of your CEO?Max WolfCommunity AnswerIt might be better to save your affection for outside of work, as your boss might not be too fond of your display of affection. Giving a quick hug or a kiss on the cheek may be acceptable but keep your PDA to a minimum, and keep it professional so as not to let your partner distract you from work.
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Tips
- If you’re not sure how people will react, refrain from engaging in PDA altogether just to be on the safe side.Thanks
Warnings
- Establish clear boundaries with your partner about what types of PDA you’re comfortable with. [17] X Trustworthy Source New York State Government Official website for the State of New York Go to sourceThanks
Expert Interview
Thanks for reading our article! If you’d like to learn more about public displays of affection, check out our in-depth interview with Michelle Jacoby .
References
- ↑ https://www.thoughtco.com/addressing-pda-public-display-of-affection-at-school-3194654
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/close-encounters/201408/what-we-really-think-public-displays-affection
- ↑ https://www.ny.gov/teen-dating-violence-awareness-and-prevention/what-does-healthy-relationship-look
- ↑ https://www.joinonelove.org/learn/unhealthy-relationship-behaviors-series-jealousy/
- ↑ https://www.nytimes.com/1984/12/17/style/relationships-displaying-affection-in-public.html
- ↑ https://via.library.depaul.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?referer=&httpsredir=1&article=1222&context=csh_etd
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- ↑ https://www.nytimes.com/1984/12/17/style/relationships-displaying-affection-in-public.html
- ↑ https://www.nytimes.com/1984/12/17/style/relationships-displaying-affection-in-public.html
- ↑ https://www.nytimes.com/1984/12/17/style/relationships-displaying-affection-in-public.html
- ↑ https://www.nytimes.com/1984/12/17/style/relationships-displaying-affection-in-public.html
- ↑ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC9386764/
- ↑ http://www.koreatimes.co.kr/www/news/culture/2013/12/399_113
- ↑ https://www.expatica.com/living/love/public-displays-of-affection-108636/
- ↑ https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2019.01110/full
- ↑ https://www.globalcitizen.org/en/content/9-places-where-you-dont-want-to-be-caught-kissing/
- ↑ https://www.ny.gov/teen-dating-violence-awareness-and-prevention/what-does-healthy-relationship-look