Q&A for How to Ask a Guy to a School Dance

Ask him a simple question, like "Do you have any good dance moves?" or "When's the last time you wore your dancing shoes?" If you'd rather be more direct, say something like "Hey! There's this really amazing dance coming up that's going to have some food, drinks, and really good music. Maybe you could join me and bring your dancing shoes?"

Yes, that is perfectly fine.

Introduce yourself during lunch or recess. The chances of you going with him are not very high if you can't muster the courage to talk to him a few times before the dance.

Just because he says no doesn’t mean your friendship will abruptly end. It might be awkward for a little while, but you'll both get over it. Just have a backup plan, another guy you can ask if your friend says no.

If he does it playfully, he might like you. But if he seems quite mean about it, he doesn’t deserve you. Remember, there are plenty of fish in the sea.

It's tough to ask someone out - most people are really nervous. Be confident and remember that it is worth a try.

Just go for it, and ask your crush. The worst that could happen is they say no, and they may just say yes.

Sure, that would be a great idea, but I would make sure he doesn't seem too tired or distracted first.

If it is a friendly laugh, don't take it personally. If you can sense it is mean, they aren't good friends!

If you already told someone that you would go with them, you should keep your word and go with them. If there's someone else you like, you can ask them if they'd like to dance with you during the dance (as long as it's okay with your date).

First, make sure your school allows you to invite people from other schools to the dance. Then, plan to ask him the next time you see him, or do it through email, text, or over the phone.

Yes, that's fine.

If you ask him if he's going to the dance, he should get the hint. But if he doesn't, you might want to specifically ask if he'd like to go with you. If he says he'll be there, maybe with his friends, ask him to save you a dance, or show up and ask him to dance then.

A card is great! Just don’t overdo it. Get a relatively neutral or even funny card, not one with big hearts all over it that says "I love you." Write something simple inside, like, "Wanna go to the dance together?" If you're feeling really shy about asking him in person, you could slip the card in his locker, desk, etc., just make sure to sign it so he knows who it's from.

No! You can always go to the dance just as friends, but I recommend making it clear to him when you ask that you don't consider it a date, just a friend thing.

You should ask someone else. If you have a crush on him, it's unlikely that you just "want to go as friends", and if he intends to go to the dance, he'll probably bring his girlfriend. Avoid causing problems in his relationship, follow the methods in Get Over a Crush , and find someone who's available to ask instead.

That's okay. Just say "Thanks anyway" and ask someone else. At least if they don't want to go at all you know it wasn't personal.

Just say, "Okay, thanks anyway," and walk away. Try not to take it personally, you never know what their reasons might be.

If you mean you want to go to the dance with two boys, you will have to choose between them. If you mean you want to go with one boy, but ask a different boy to dance, that's probably okay. Just ask your date if he would mind if you danced with someone else for one song.

If they said yes, it means they are at least a little interested. If you're still not sure, try to read their body language. If they smile a lot, or they suddenly seem to sit up a little straighter, that could mean they like you back. If they don't, there's plenty of fish in the sea!

You can’t force anyone to do anything. If it is clear that he doesn’t see you that way, then respect that. Either continue being his friend, or if you feel like you can't do that, tell him you need some space.

Say "thanks anyway" and move on. He might already have a date, or he might not want to go to the dance. Don’t take it personally, just ask somebody else. There's plenty of fish in the sea!

Bring up the dance and ask him if he's going with anyone. If he says yes, he never even has to know you were thinking of asking him.

Consider passing him a note or having a friend help you. This would be a great opportunity to step out of your comfort zone, though. Try practicing what you want to say to him at home in front of the mirror until you can say it perfectly. Keep it simple, like, "Hey, do you want to go to the dance with me?"

Try talking to him for a bit. Start a conversation with him. After a day or two of talking to him regularly, Ask him if he's going to the dance and if he's going with someone. If he doesn't have a date, ask him if he wants to go with you. If he already has one, ask him to save you a dance.

Try talking to them first for a bit. Maybe start a conversation and talk to each other every day or week. After a while, you could ask them out for a small hangout, and see what happens.

Of course! Just make sure to sign your name and tell the person the best way to get in touch with you when they're ready to answer.

Just say "thanks anyway" and move on. It's no big deal. Everybody has to deal with rejection, it's just a part of life.

Just ask them if they'd like to go as friends. If they say yes, you can go to the dance with them and subtly flirt or try to make things more romantic and see how they react.