Q&A for How to Give a Lap Dance

Tell your partner that, for this dance routine, you'll make all the decisions and they'll simply need to follow your lead. Let your natural instincts as the "leader" guide your dance movements and take initiative. Your partner will realize that you are guiding how the dance develops.

Think about songs that you're most passionate about. Remember—these songs don't have to be popular hits. Simply choose music that you and your partner can get carried away with. It's also a wonderful idea to choose songs that help you "feel the rhythm" and that you feel confident about dancing to.

If you are not comfortable with this, then tell him\her, and offer to go out and buy a sexy outfit for the dance. If you are comfortable doing it, then go ahead! Either way, your partner should respect your feelings.

Give the girl her lap dance! Just because she's disabled, doesn't mean she won't appreciate it - especially since she's asked for it. A lap dance isn't about actual sex, or movement; it's about your partner appreciating your body. However, if her disability causes her pain, be careful.

Yes, you can.

It depends on the song choice.

Yes, as long as you're comfortable with it!

No, and keep in mind not to hurt her feelings if it upsets you.

Dress in something that makes you feel good about yourself. Having self-confidence will make all the difference, so be sure you are feeling confident before you begin. From there, just let instinct take over and have fun with it.

He will definitely like it. He wouldn't be with you if he wasn't attracted to you, so that shouldn't be an issue. You shouldn't do it if it makes you uncomfortable, though!

Yes. That is the point of the lap dance. If your partner is giving you a lap dance at home, then afterwards you could consider turning things up full throttle and simply have sex. Don't try to stop your penis from getting erect; enjoy the experience, but do try your best not to ejaculate in your pants - that's just a big mess to clean up.

No. It's perfectly fine and normal to think about sex at your age, but you are not mentally or emotionally ready to do it. It's a very big deal with very big potential consequences. Condoms are not 100% effective against pregnancy, and if your boy/girlfriend breaks up with you shortly after you lose your virginity to them, you will really, really regret it, probably forever. You're not ready. Be patient.

That's up to you and your lap dancee. Consent is key and you shouldn't do anything that you aren't completely comfortable with. If you decide to go for it though, it definitely heats up the moment.

If you engage in sexual intercourse as part of the lap dance, you can get pregnant. The lap dance itself cannot not get you pregnant.

No. A lap dance is sexually suggestive, and you are way too young to give or receive one.

If you're not comfortable with the way he's touching you, tell him to stop. If he doesn't stop, end the lap dance and have a talk with him about boundaries and appropriate behavior.

It's a little weird, but probably harmless. If it made you uncomfortable, just speak up and ask him not to do anything like that again.

Popular, upbeat songs. Personally, I would give a lap dance to a slower song, but a Chris Brown song will do.

Don't do it or interfere in his relationship.

Yes, that would really steam things up. But do it cloth by cloth and do it slow. Maybe put on some music and add to the groove.

Probably, but it depends on the girl and the situation. It's always a good idea to ask permission, i.e., "Is it okay if I touch you here?" You could also set parameters before the dance begins so there isn't any confusion.

This is entirely your choice. If you are ready to remove your bra (and over the age of 18), then go for it. Your lap dance recipient, however, may not be ready, so gauge his/her reactions during the dance to see if they will appreciate it.

Technically, if the man were to ejaculate while you were on his lap and it came into contact with your vagina, then yes. However, this is extremely unlikely, especially if he has clothing on.

In my opinion, you should be older than 16 to do either, but you should not have sex until you're in love with someone and you're completely sure that you're prepared for the physical and emotional consequences that come with having sex. It's a big deal.

If your OK with this, let it happen; otherwise, tell him to stop or push him back.

You can usually get lap dances in strip clubs, but they will cost money.

If your partner seems to display interest in your booty, use that to your advantage. In the chair, try bucking up and down slightly on his private area, making the emphasis on the down beat if you are using faster paced music. Also, another way to incorporate booty popping is to face away from your partner, stand in between his legs and begin booty popping dramatically, or get up close and personal with it.

First seductively walk toward them, then sit on their lap slowly, face to face. Start lightly and slowly grinding on their stomach, add a lot of movement (maybe even put your hands on their thigh/shoulder). Stop doing that after a minute, then kneel in between their legs and slowly move up. Add a grinding motion once you get to the point where both your "areas" are almost touching. Bite your lip slightly, for a seductive effect, then walk behind them and rap your hands around their chest and lightly touch them as your hands work their way toward their area (don't touch their privates; they may dislike it). These are the basics.

Most likely not, but you could probably adapt some of the steps.

You can be a guy and give a guy a lap dance. It can even be your cousin and the lap dance is still legal. You can really do anything you want, but the whole "cousin thing" may be frowned upon by society.