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What are some of the top traits in couples who have long-term compatibility?

Michelle Joy, MA, MFT
Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist
Michelle Joy is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and serves on the Board of Directors for the Couples Institute Counseling Services in the San Francisco Bay Area. With almost 20 years of therapy training and experience, Michelle offers couples therapy intensives, communication workshops, and Marriage Prep101 Workshops. Michelle is also a certified Enneagram teacher, has presented at the 25th annual International Enneagram Conference, and is a graduate of The Developmental Model of Couples Therapy – Advanced Level. She received an MS in Counseling Psychology from Santa Clara University.

Michelle Joy, MA, MFT

Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist

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A great friendship in relationships is important and helps with compatibility! This means laughing together, and doing activities together that both of you enjoy. It also means having fun together - sometimes this means setting up “date nights” or “date days” where you can just enjoy each other’s company. Making time to cultivate your friendship helps with connection and bonding, thereby contributing to great long-term compatibility. Additionally, couples with less rigidity and more flexibility also have a tendency to work out better. These couples tend to be more willing to compromise, which creates a good-feeling atmosphere in the relationship. Rather than getting stuck in power struggles, these couples manage the differences between them in a more seamless way, rather than getting stuck in power struggles. Finally, couples who demonstrate that they care how each other feels contributes to great long-term compatibility. Expressing care, compassion, comfort, and support when your partner is suffering are all strong relationship builders!

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My love for each and every girl disappears after two weeks or so. Why?

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Maybe it is because you rush things too much. Take more time to know them. Ask them about how they feel.

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How should I approach a girl for the first time?

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Perhaps you could ask her if she needs help with anything. Then she'll see how nice you are.

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I'm 13, and at my school I am almost the only conservative. Almost everyone else, including the girl I'm planning on picking up, is liberal. Can I still have a successful relationship with her?

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Yes, it's possible, but it would probably be a good idea to avoid talking about politics with her altogether.

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Can a girl regain her virginity in any way?

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No. Once she's lost her virginity, she'll never have it again.

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