What Does the "Sex Positivity" Interest Mean on Bumble?

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Learn to interpret this common dating profile description
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If you’ve spent time “on the apps,” you’ve probably seen the term “sex positivity” at some point. Usually, it means that the user is open and frank about sex and sexuality, or that they’re open-minded about sexual topics. We’ll tell you more about what it means on dating apps and in general, help you decide if it’s a red flag, start a conversation about it, and fill you in on related dating app terms.

Quick Definition of “Sex Positivity”

“Sex positivity” is a movement that aims to have open conversations about sex, and to keep open minds about topics like gender and sexuality. On dating apps, the label often means that the user is sexually open-minded, or frank about sexual topics.

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What does “sex positivity” mean on Bumble?

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  1. If someone uses the “sex positivity” tag, or has “sex positive” in their bio on apps like Bumble, Tinder, or Hinge, it usually means they strive to approach the topic of sex with curiosity and an open mind. [1] They’re probably not ashamed to talk about sex and all its different facets, and are often looking for like-minded users.
    • Someone with this descriptor may (or may not) be willing to try new things and explore their sexuality and what it means for them.
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What is sex positivity?

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  1. For the most part, “sex positivity” is a response to society’s tendency to be hush-hush about all things sex. Sex positivity is a mindset that aims to approach sexual topics with openness, to discuss sexual experiences without shame, and to explore what sex means to an individual. [2]
    • It doesn’t mean that someone sees sex as a constant good thing. Rather, sex positivity frames sex as neutral, like say, owning a dog or enjoying sports—it’s not right or wrong, it just means different things to different people, and that’s okay.
    • Someone can be sex positive and prefer not to engage in sex! It’s just about acknowledging that sex isn’t some taboo thing to be swept under the rug.
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Is sex positivity a red flag?

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  1. If someone has “sex positivity” in their profile, there’s no need to back away, at least not until you know a little more about them. Generally, sex positivity is a belief and movement like any other. You may agree or disagree with the idea, but at its core, it’s a movement that aims to have open and honest talks about sex, and that’s not a particularly bad thing to strive for.
  2. While sex positivity itself isn’t a red flag, users around the internet have expressed some hesitation when they see it on a profile. They say that some dating app users, particularly men, use the label “sex positivity” just to jump straight to the topic of sex, in the hopes of landing a hookup, or to try to manipulate other users into sex. [3]
    • If you don’t want others to think the same of you, it might be best not to put the tag on your own profile. Instead, you might say that you’re “accepting and open-minded” while writing your bio.
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Starting a Conversation about Sex Positivity

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  1. If you’re unsure of what “sex positivity” means to a certain user, or want to get a better idea of what they’re like, just ask them! They’ve likely advertised themself as sex positive in order to have that talk. If nothing else, it’ll get the conversation going.
    • For example, say: “I notice you say you’re sex positive. What does that mean to you?” or, “Can I ask what your views on sex positivity are?”
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Related Terms

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  1. “In a spectrum” often means that the user identifies as on the autism spectrum, and wants to let other users know, or to find other users on the spectrum. Sometimes, it may mean that the user considers their sexuality to be on a spectrum, rather than just identifying as gay or straight.
  2. A situationship is a romantic relationship that doesn’t really have definite terms or labels. It’s relationship limbo, essentially. If someone on a dating app says they’re “in a situationship,” they may be in a noncommittal relationship and looking for something else.
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      References

      1. ↑ https://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/a30317658/sex-positive-meaning/
      2. ↑ http://www.ejhs.org/volume3/sexpositive.htm
      3. ↑ https://www.mcsweeneys.net/articles/what-it-means-when-a-woman-says-she-is-sex-positive-according-to-brian-from-hinge

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