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Sending a Snap to a girl you like can be just as nerve-racking as talking to her in person. But don't worry—we can help you figure out what to say, and when to say it! This wikiHow article will teach you foolproof ways to start a conversation with a girl on Snapchat by sending interesting, creative, and attention-grabbing Snaps. And once you've got her attention, we'll help you keep the conversation flowing .
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Add her on Snapchat. Open Snapchat and tap the ghost icon at the screen’s top. In the resulting menu, select “Add Friends.” After that, you’ll be able to add her with her username, through your phone’s contacts (though you’ll need to already have her number), or with a special Snapchat code.
- If you don’t have her username, number, or Snapchat code, you can always add her by finding her in the friends' list of a mutual friend.
- Avoid following her on multiple platforms, like Snapchat, Twitter, and Instagram, on the same day. Doing so might come across as too strong. [1] X Research source
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Send her casual snaps a few days after adding her. Wait a few days before sending that first snap. Snapping her right away might seem a little desperate. After that, snap her once every other day with things like your dog eating snow, street performers, and the pile of homework you got in math class. On this stage, it’s better not to snap too often.
- When you send her casual snaps regularly, she’ll come to expect hearing from you. This will develop naturally into more snaps in the future. [2] X Trustworthy Source Science Direct Online archive of peer-reviewed research on scientific, technical and medical topics Go to source
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Increase the frequency of your snaps gradually. As you get to know her better through your casual snapping, you'll start exchanging snaps more frequently. Sending a bunch of snaps too soon could be a turn-off, though if she keeps responding, it's likely she wants the conversation to continue. [3] X Trustworthy Source Greater Good in Action An initiative by UC Berkeley's Greater Good Science Center promoting science-based practices for a meaningful life Go to source
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Tailor your responses to the situation for a natural conversation. If she responds to you, allow the conversation to develop as though you were chatting in person. Ask her questions about the things she says to show that you’re listening.
- Use your snaps to paint her a picture of what you like, what you do, and what's important to you.
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Avoid worn-out and over-the-top expressions. Phrases like “hey, what’s up,” “what you doing,” and “what’s going on” won’t catch her attention and may go unread. Weird and overly silly comments might also result in her ignoring your snaps. [4] X Trustworthy Source Greater Good Magazine Journal published by UC Berkeley's Greater Good Science Center, which uses scientific research to promote happier living Go to source
- Instead of "hey, what's up," try snapping her a pic in a cowboy hat with the message, "howdy."
- Aim for a friendly, interested, playful tone. For example, you could write, “they’ll never catch me” with a snap of police driving by.
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Bond over things you have in common. Things that you both enjoy will be easier to talk about , and people are typically more willing to open up to someone if they share common passions or viewpoints. Think about her hobbies, the clubs she’s involved in, and her goals. Any of these could be a springboard into a full Snapchat conversation. Some common areas you might explore include:
- Art
- Books
- Music
- School
- TV
- Sports
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Tell a story with your snaps. This is a way of engaging her in the messages you’re sending. For example, if there’s a lot of hustle and bustle behind you, you could pretend like you’re running from a crowd. Use snaps of your empty workplace with some witty text (“busy day in the office”) to increase her interest.
- Show how things change throughout the day. For instance, you could take snaps early in your shift, during lunch rush, and before you leave to indicate how busy you’ve been. [5] X Research source
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Comment on her Snapchat stories. When you first start snapping, only comment every once in a while. As you begin to snap more, increase your comments. You don’t have to be funny or wacky when commenting. In a story about her playing with a dog, for example, you might say, “That’s the cutest dog I’ve ever seen.”
- Comments are a great place for you to ask casual questions. If you notice she was at a concert, you might ask, “Who’d you go see?” She’ll likely respond, and you can start talking about music.
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Create opportunities for conversation. Send her a snap every time your favorite song comes on the radio. This way, when she hears the song, she’ll send you a snap and you’ll have a chance to snap more. Some other useful snaps for creating conversation opportunities include:
- Cute animals
- Shared favorites (like cars, books, and food)
- Familiar locations (like classrooms and buildings)
- Familiar people (like mutual friends) [6] X Research source
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Take ignored snaps in stride. Generally, people take snaps less seriously than text messages or phone calls. Because of this, many snaps go unseen. If your snaps get ignored, don’t take it personally. When you’re busy, don’t feel like you have to respond to snaps.
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Filter your snaps for comedic and artistic effect. There are many visual and audio filters you can use in Snapchat to modify snaps. For example, you could use the doe filter along with a snap of yourself and the message, “I’m hungry. U?” for extra cute factor.
- Filters can be accessed by going into camera mode, tapping and holding your face, and swiping left.
- Snapchat regularly releases new filters. Experiment with the various filters available to find your favorites. [7] X Trustworthy Source Harvard Business Review Online and print journal covering topics related to business management practices Go to source
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Use the streak to your advantage. By snapping daily, you’ll eventually build up a streak. [8] X Research source This is an automatic feature. Like most Snapchat users, she’ll probably want to keep the streak alive. This will create even more chances for you to talk with her.
- By building the frequency of your snaps gradually, you can get a streak started subtly.
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Respect her boundaries . Because Snapchat sends videos, boundaries can sometimes be overstepped. Some people might think it’s no big deal to walk around without a shirt on, but to others that may be disrespectful. Sending inappropriate messages on Snapchat could get your account revoked. [9] X Research source
- Although this may be different for some, generally its frowned upon to share private snaps to your Snapchat story. [10] X Research source
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Add links to your snaps. When you're making adjustments to your snap, you should see a paperclip icon on the right side of your screen. Tapping this will allow you to add links. Use links to add memes, websites, Rick Astley, and more. [11] X Research source
- The linking feature is perfect if you've just snapped her a pic of something she'll want to buy. For example, you might include a link where she could buy shoes you just snapped her. [12] X Research source
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Surprise her with a silly voice. Voice filters can make you sound high-pitched and cute, low-voiced and robust, like a robot, and more. Access these filters by tapping the speaker icon in the lower-left corner of the screen. [13] X Research source
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QuestionWhat should I use for the first snap if I'm Snapchatting a girl for the first time?Community AnswerIt depends on whether or not you know her in person. If you talk to her often, then you can jump right into a conversation. If you don't talk much or are trying to get to know her, then start with a simple greeting. Something like "Hi", or asking how her day was.
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QuestionHow do I start talking to a girl that's been in my class for a whole semester?Community AnswerJust be yourself. If you act different, she will notice since she has already seen you in class for a semester.
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QuestionIf we just started to talk on Snapchat, should I take it slow and only message every other day?Community AnswerThere's no set guideline for this, as it depends largely on the other things going on in both of your lives. Let the amount of time in between her responses be your guide. If she replies to you in a couple of hours, wait a couple of hours before you respond (unless it's urgent, of course). If she takes a couple of days to respond, do the same. If she's getting back with you right away, keep the conversation going. (Be sure to do your part in this by asking plenty of open-ended questions.)
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References
- ↑ https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/psychologists-struggle-to-explain-the-mind-of-the-stalker/
- ↑ https://www.sciencedirect.com/topics/psychology/snapchat
- ↑ https://ggia.berkeley.edu/practice/36_questions_for_increasing_closeness
- ↑ https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/six_tips_for_reading_emotions_in_text_messages
- ↑ https://www.scienceofpeople.com/conversation-starters-topics/
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/magnetic-partners/202010/the-importance-shared-interests-in-relationships
- ↑ https://hbr.org/2021/12/research-how-ar-filters-impact-peoples-self-image
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/lets-talk-tween/201703/caution-your-tween-may-be-stressing-over-snap-streaks
- ↑ https://positivepsychology.com/great-self-care-setting-healthy-boundaries/
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To snapchat with a new girl, try waiting a few days before you send your first snap, since snapping her right away may seem a little desperate. Then, initiate the conversation with a casual snap, like a street performer you saw on the way home, and give it a couple of days to see if she responds. If you’re nervous about making the first move, try commenting on one of her snap stories. For example, in a story where she’s playing with her dog, you could say something like, “That’s the cutest dog I’ve ever seen!” Keep in mind, however, that many snaps go ignored since they’re generally taken less seriously than texts or phone calls. If your snaps get ignored or she doesn’t respond, just take it in stride and focus on creating your own unique and interesting snap stories! For more advice, including how to make your snaps stand out with visual and audio filters, keep reading.
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