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Tips for catching his eye and making a connection
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Libra loves to love, but you can scare off the Libra man by getting too sentimental too soon. It’s much better to win his affection first by appealing to his desire for balance and appreciation of beauty. Plus, he’s an air sign, which makes him more than a little chatty. It’s important to hold his interest with witty, intelligent conversations. This article takes you through how to get a Libra man’s attention, become closer to him, and then make him yours. Plus, we spoke with Astrologer Angel Eyedealism to learn more about how to capture—and keep—a Libra man’s interest.
Tips to Seduce a Libra Man
Be friendly, social, and independent to attract a Libra man. Don’t be afraid to let him know how you feel about things like politics, art, music, and so on. Make plans without him occasionally, and don’t bombard him with phone calls and text messages.
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Section 1 of 5:
Catching His Eye
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Be social and join in on the fun. Libra is definitely an extrovert who loves to socialize and be around other people. [1] X Research source You'll often find him in groups, standing out as the life of the party. To attract him, your best bet is to cross paths with him as often as possible in his natural setting: a crowd.
- Libras tend to be compatible with other air signs (Gemini and Aquarius) because it’s the most social element. Air signs are known for being intelligent and talkative. They usually adore being the center of attention and can get along with anyone. But when an air sign meets another air sign, they tend to just get each other.
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Make an effort to stand out from his crowd of admirers. Libra males have a tendency to be friendly. Get his attention by doing more than just hanging around and hoping he notices you. Make a witty joke. Show off your secret talent. Above all, flirt outrageously…Libras can’t get enough of it. [2] X Research source
- Instead of lingering in the back of the room where no one can see you, make yourself the center of attention , even if only for a few moments.
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Be easy-going about his habit of flirting with other women. Libra is friendly—sometimes, a little too friendly. Your Libra man probably flirts with a lot of other women without meaning anything by it. For some women, this is a big turn-off. If you have any hope of winning your Libra man's affection, accept that his flirting is no big deal. He hates conflicts, so making a big fuss sends him running in the other direction. [3] X Research source
- Be the one still there when the rest of his admirers lose patience with his overly flirtatious ways.
- Keep in mind that Libras rarely have favorites. Even if you attract him quickly, he might also be attracted to several other women in his social circles. Yes, “circles.” He is a social butterfly, after all. However, he’s not disloyal or untrustworthy once he decides you’re the one.
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Be feminine and elegant, not frilly or flashy. Aesthetics is important for a Libra man, says Eyedealism. [4] X Expert Source Angel Eyedealism
Astrologer & Performance Artist Expert Interview. 8 December 2021. Visually speaking, women with a notably feminine appearance are the most likely to catch the Libra man's eye and attract him on a purely physical level. Develop a classic, elegant , and refined style. Avoid fashion choices that are excessively bold or those that are too cutesy.- Avoid jarring color choices, bold patterns, or temporary trends that are here today and gone tomorrow. Excessively girly fashions, like lace and bows, can also be a turn-off.
- Opt for classic, clean-cut styles in a traditional color palette. Choose elegance rather than trendiness.
- Choose refined make-up and accessories, too. Use your make-up to enhance your natural beauty . Avoid caking it on or trying out dramatic looks. Wear jewelry that accents your look without competing for attention.
- Don’t worry if you don’t think of your style as “elegant” or “refined.” Just keep things simple, neat, and tidy, and you’re already halfway there.
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Getting to Know Each Other
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Show him your pleasant, graceful, and balanced personality. There’s a good reason that the scales represent the sign of Libra. Your Libra hunk gravitates toward balanced situations and people. And if they’re always off-kilter, he’s constantly trying to balance them, says Eyedealism. [5] X Expert Source Angel Eyedealism
Astrologer & Performance Artist Expert Interview. 8 December 2021. When you start talking to him, be calm and pleasant. A mild-mannered attitude and peaceful, balanced vibe will make him feel right at home.- Libra men appreciate social grace in a partner…and everyone else. Be polite, calm, and well-spoken to impress him.
- Similarly, when you invite a Libra into your own personal space—your office, your car, your apartment—make sure you keep your space chic, comfortable, and uncluttered to appeal to your Libra guy.
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Let him talk about himself. Everyone likes to talk about themselves, and your Libra guy is no different. [6] X Research source It's not that Libra is narcissistic. It’s just that someone with such an outgoing personality naturally likes to ramble on about himself and the things that interest him. To really impress him, let him talk to his heart's content and follow along with the conversation sincerely.
- Asking open-ended questions is a great way to get your Libra guy talking. For example, “What’s your favorite memory from childhood?” or “What was the highlight of your day today?” Use questions like, “And then what happened?” or “What did you do then?” to keep him talking.
- Libra is a chatty social butterfly, so they’re perfectly willing to talk about something else, too. Share some juicy gossip or a silly joke, and he won’t mind if you change the subject. [7] X Research source
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Engage in light intellectual debate. Most Libra men run from direct conflict or confrontation, but they’re also an air sign. And if there’s one thing an air person loves, it’s intelligent conversation. Your Libra man is no different. Plus, he can’t help being fascinated by another person’s perspective. [8] X Research source
- Bring up a topic that’s open for debate and discuss both sides with him. Just remember to keep the conversation intellectual rather than emotional.
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Pay him a sincere compliment. Libra men are usually rather confident and have positive opinions about themselves, but they love to get compliments as much as anyone. A genuine, well-timed compliment or word of praise can go a long way toward capturing his attention. [9] X Research source When choosing something to compliment, focus on a typical Libra area of interest, like his taste in art, sense of style, or interest in creating a just society.
- No one trusts an obvious flatterer, not even a Libra man. While he might pardon a blatant appeal to his vanity more than some of the other zodiac signs, a compliment that’s clearly untrue or forced is a turn-off. Stick to compliments that are as meaningful and truthful as possible.
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Be prepared to talk about a wide range of topics. Bring up an eclectic mix of conversational topics to keep your Libra man interested. Be intelligent , and impress your Libra crush by talking to him about a variety of subjects, recommends Eyedealism. [10] X Expert Source Angel Eyedealism
Astrologer & Performance Artist Expert Interview. 8 December 2021. Libras like to talk, and they like to express ideas and exchange opinions on as many topics as possible. If you can keep him intellectually stimulated, he’ll find your personality more attractive and enjoyable. Eyedealism says, the Libra man is an intellectual, so he wants a woman who is refined and intellectual. [11] X Expert Source Angel Eyedealism
Astrologer & Performance Artist Expert Interview. 8 December 2021.- Libras naturally have somewhat of an airy personality, so they feel most inspired by moving about from subject to subject. Fixating on any one topic for too long quickly bores a Libra man.
- They may get distracted if you only have one hobby or interest you always talk about. Let him see all of the things that interest you so he thinks of you as a balanced, well-rounded person.
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Be honest and fair in your words and actions. Libras crave balance, and that balance extends beyond your Libra's personal life. Generally, Libras have a strong sense of justice and fairness. Be more attractive in his eyes by making sure he sees you as someone who is honest and has a similar dedication to justice. [12] X Research source
- When out together, treat everyone you meet equally by showing them respect and kindness.
- Keep an open mind and be willing to consider other people’s viewpoints…even when you disagree with them.
- Always admit your mistakes and take responsibility for your actions.
- Follow the rules without twisting them for personal gain, even when you think it’s not a big deal.
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Keep your cool and avoid showing too much emotion. Libras love to be around people, but most Libra men are often emotionally detached. When he starts getting to know you, stay cool and calm. Avoid showing too much emotion, either positive or negative. When Libra falls in love, things get emotional very quickly. This makes him a little hesitant to make a bad decision when feelings are involved. [13] X Research source
- Try to understand why he feels uncomfortable with emotion. Feelings are messy, especially once those feelings get deep and complicated. The Libra avoids emotions mostly to maintain the sense of harmony and balance he loves so much.
- Of course, if you want to be with your Libra man for the long haul, you’ll eventually face your emotions together. When the time comes, stay calm and rational.
- While you are only in the introductory stages, it's better to avoid heavy emotions as much as possible.
- Even though he likes intellectual debate, Libras hate conflict. He wants peace, love, and harmony in his relationship. So, stay calm , when dealing with your Libra. [14] X Research source
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Be a little mysterious to keep his interest. Being open and talkative attracts your Libra, but don’t tell him everything about you at once. Libras are naturally curious about everything. [15] X Research source Be a little mysterious to really piques this inquisitive sign's curiosity. And keep him interested.
- Make him think of you as a “mysterious beauty.” Of course, the longer you're with your Libra, the more that mystery will fade. To pack a strong punch at the start, though, try to be an elusive, nearly inaccessible goal to strive for.
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Do some volunteer work with your Libra man. Most Libras are idealistic and empathetic. They want to make the world a better place, so volunteering together might make him like you even more. [16] X Research source Even if your guy doesn’t have a charity he actively takes part in, he’ll likely find someone who gives her time to a noble cause exceptionally attractive.
- If you already volunteer your time, consider asking your Libra crush along, especially if you are supporting a cause he also happens to believe in. In doing so, you'll become someone who helps him satisfy his own desires to do good deeds.
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Closing the Deal
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Appeal to his love of beauty, art, or music. Most Libra men really appreciate beauty and culture. Make his heart skip a beat by inviting him to an art museum or giving him a book with photographs of beautiful scenery. Showing him that you understand what he loves can be a huge plus in your favor.
- When you extend an invitation, pick a place that your Libra man will probably enjoy, like an art gallery, arts and crafts fair, or museum. [17] X Research source
- Appeal to him even more by inviting him out during an active time. For instance, ask him to a special one-day-only exhibit instead of inviting him to the museum during a quiet "off" time.
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Treat him to a taste of luxury. Along with art and culture, Libra men usually have a strong appreciation for the finer things in life. When you invite him to spend time with you, choose impressive locations like trendy cafes or four-star restaurants. When you give him a gift, consider picking out something tasteful from an iconic designer. [18] X Research source
- If you don’t have the finances to back Libra's love of luxury, fear not! These men are interested in refinement, not costing you an arm and a leg. Try inviting him to a fancy restaurant for dessert only to save you the cost of a meal, or go somewhere with an elegant atmosphere but a moderate cost.
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Give him space. As social creatures, Libra men love freedom and need to feel unconfined in order to be happy. Dote on him as much as you want when the two of you are together, but avoid smothering him or forcing your way into other areas of his life without an invitation. [19] X Research source
- Keep in mind that Libra is a pretty single-minded guy when he falls for someone. Once he takes a liking to you, you'll know it. In the meantime, work on him steadily, and avoid pushing your feelings onto him before he’s ready.
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Show him how much you appreciate him. Libra men love to love, and they love being loved. Little tokens of appreciation underscore your feelings for him while making you appear more attractive in his eyes. Try giving him a small gift or note for no reason, or offer a massage at the end of a long day or week. [20] X Research source
- Refined, tasteful gifts tend to work better than gifts packed with too much sentimentality. You don’t have to give him a designer watch or pricey cufflinks. Give him a gourmet treat or any beautiful item, whether it has a designer label or not.
- For a free alternative, write him a beautiful note. Again, heavy emotions aren’t quite Libra's cup of tea, but a letter with a few scribbled verses can make a big impact as long as those verses focus on the beauty of things rather than the intensity of your feelings.
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Keep the romance simple and traditional. Libra men love the idea of romance but can be emotionally detached when you first get to know them. They tend to avoid women who seem manipulative or who live for drama. When you make your move, avoid getting too serious too quickly. Keep things light, and win him over with gestures of traditional romance: candlelight dinners , moonlit walks, and so on.
- Once he starts to return your attraction and affection, be prepared for him to show you what he likes in the romance department.
- Libra is a natural-born charmer, so when he wants to charm you, he’ll use a range of romantic tactics to do so. Take note and increase his attraction to you by responding with similarly romantic gestures.
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Give him time to realize how much he cares about you. Libras are notorious for looking at every angle before making a decision, and they hate to be rushed. Let him work through his feelings without pushing for a commitment. Remember, Venus, the planet of love, rules Libra. Libra men want to fall in love and settle down. But they also want to make sure they do it with the right person because when they’re in a relationship, they are in it for the long haul. [21] X Research source
- Try not to get frustrated with your Libra guy or make fun of him for being indecisive. They work really hard to make the right decision. If you pressure or rush them, they might decide committing to you is a bad move.
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Plan surprises for him to appeal to his romantic side. It’s no secret that Libra guys are romantic at heart. The occasional sweet surprise really knocks him off his feet. And even though he’d never admit it, he likes letting someone else make a decision once in a while. Just for the little things like dinner or an evening out, though. Libra is a cardinal sign, which means he usually likes to be in charge. [22] X Research source
- Try dropping by unannounced with some hot chicken noodle soup when he’s feeling under the weather. Surprise him by cooking his favorite meal, and this Libra man will be yours forever.
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Gradually be more vulnerable with him. Building trust takes time. Share more and more of your feelings with your Libra man as you spend time together. Tell him when he upsets you and explain why…but do it calmly and fairly to activate his analytical mind instead of his fear of conflict. Show him more physical affection by cuddling, holding hands, and hugging. [23] X Research source
- Remember to take things slow so your Libra doesn’t get overwhelmed. This can cause him to back away.
- By slowly and steadily getting closer, he’ll be ready to settle down before he realizes what happened.
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QuestionHow do you make a Libra man fall in love with you?Jessica Lanyadoo is an astrologer with over 20 years of consulting experience. She is the author of Astrology for Real Relationships: Understanding You, Me, and How We All Get Along and is the host of the popular astrology and advice show, Ghost of a Podcast. Lanyadoo co-hosted TLC’s digital astrology show Stargazing and writes weekly and monthly horoscopes that help you heal.Libra's love flattery. Tell a Libra that they're attractive and compliment their clothes. If you compliment them, you'll have a Libra flirting and blushing in your face. They not only like to be complimented on their looks, but also how they approach life. They are very diplomatic. It's important to validate this quality as well when relating to them.
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QuestionDo Libra men get jealous?This answer was written by one of our trained team of researchers who validated it for accuracy and comprehensiveness.wikiHow Staff EditorStaff AnswerThe Libra man can be a jealous type and with this trait, comes possessiveness. The jealous side of this usually easygoing and mild natured man is due to the proximity of the sign to Scorpio, a renowned jealous and possessive sign. A Libran man experiencing jealousy may display this by being highly emotional and he may try to check up on you and demand to know what you’ve been doing every minute of the day. He may even turn up unannounced, just to reassure himself that all is well. To deal with this, remind him he’s the only one and appeal to his romantic side to show him he’s treasured. If you feel he’s getting too possessive though, tell him and perhaps reconsider whether it’s worth the effort if he cannot trust you.
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QuestionWhat are Libra men like?This answer was written by one of our trained team of researchers who validated it for accuracy and comprehensiveness.wikiHow Staff EditorStaff AnswerLibra men like romance, art and fashion. He’s a gentle and easygoing guy, so he’ll love evening strolls under the moonlight, cuddling a handful of puppies and checking out a sensuous food experience at a traditional restaurant in a quiet corner of town. He’s deeply loyal and if he falls in love, he’s likely to see you as marriage material too. The Libra man needs validation of his appearance, so be sure to let him know he looks great. On the downside, a Libra man thwarted can throw a childish tantrum and sulk until things come back to his way of thinking; be careful of his jealous and possessive side too.
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To attract a Libra man, hang out in groups or at parties because Libra males typically like socializing. Since Libra usually has a lot of friends, you'll also need to stand out from the crowd and work on having a feminine, elegant appearance. When you're getting to know him, present a balanced personality and engage in light debate, because Libras like looking at things from different perspectives. To keep his attention, compliment him and discuss a wide range of topics as Libras love to talk. For tips on how to let a Libra get to know you, including why you should ease up on emotions, read on!
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