Happiness means different things to different people. Some people find joy in roller coasters and bungee jumping, while others find happiness in something as simple as a good book. What makes you happy is going to be unique to you, but there are several easy ways to improve your sense of happiness regardless of what you enjoy doing in your spare time. Whether you’re looking to improve your attitude or you’re simply seeking a quick fix when you’re feeling blue, here are some options to help you become a better, happier person.
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QuestionCan money bring you happiness?Dr. Adam Dorsay is a licensed psychologist in private practice in San Jose, CA, and the co-creator of Project Reciprocity, an international program at Facebook's Headquarters, and a consultant with Digital Ocean’s Safety Team. He specializes in assisting high-achieving adults with relationship issues, stress reduction, anxiety, and attaining more happiness in their lives. In 2016 he gave a well-watched TEDx talk about men and emotions. Dr. Dorsay has a M.A. in Counseling from Santa Clara University and received his doctorate in Clinical Psychology in 2008.It depends. Spend your money on experiences, not things. The memories you have of a family vacation will far outweigh the joy of a fancy new outfit. You'll feel happier engaging in the activities more than if you just bought something.
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- Some people are unhappy because they don’t feel purpose in life. Maybe they think their job doesn’t matter, or they feel like they aren’t making a difference in their off time. If this might be you, reach out to some charities near you to see how you can help.Thanks
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- Know that people who don't being you joy don't deserve to be in your life. Ever get that feeling in your stomach, a horrible feeling that you just cannot describe? Yeah, me too. Whoever's giving you that feeling, it's time to stop seeing them.
- If you're a kid, put a toy on your bedside table or somewhere next to your bed. Seeing it will inspire you when you wake up in the morning, and if you're feeling sad, it might make you think about the positives in life.
- Before you go to bed, try and think of something to look forward to in the morning. For example, maybe you get to have your favorite breakfast in the morning, or you'll get to spend time with your friends.
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About This Article
To be a happier person, try to adjust your attitude by appreciating the big and the little things in life. For example, say “Thank you” more often or keep a gratitude journal. Alternatively, pay attention to any sights, sounds, or smells around you, since this will refocus your mind on the present moment instead of on the past or the future. To cope with stress, create time to engage with your interests to figure out what brings you joy. Alternatively, try spending your money on new experiences like festivals or travelling, since you’ll create memories that will outweigh any material purchases. For more advice from our Counselor co-author, including how to relax your mind and body, keep reading!
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