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Having a crush is a fun and exciting time, but finding out if your crush returns your feelings can be nerve-racking. Be yourself and help the person you like see your best qualities to find a mutual attraction. Don’t let the magical connection of a crush get away because your crush was unaware of how you felt. By showing your best and how much fun it is to be with you, you’re sure to get your feelings returned.
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Look your best. Dressing nice with your hair styled is a great way to get noticed in a crowd. Looking your best also provides a level of confidence that helps you get noticed. Before you next see your crush, pick a special outfit and take the extra time to style your hair. [1] X Research source -
Be around your crush. The more often you are with your crush, the more likely they are to like you. This is known as a psychological effect called the proximity effect. Try and find ways to frequently be in the same place as your crush: [2] X Research source- Casually show up to your crush’s workplace if it is somewhere the general public goes.
- Attend sporting events or club meetings that your crush is a part of.
- Hang out with mutual friends and attend social gatherings where you'll see the person you like.
- Reader Poll: We asked 210 wikiHow readers how they build a deeper connection with someone, and 58% of them agreed that the best way to strengthen their bond is by spending quality time together face-to-face. [Take Poll]
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Flirt with eye contact. Eye contact is a quick and easy way to flirt and communicate with your crush. [3] X Expert Source Alysha Jeney, MA, LMFT
Licensed Relationship Therapist Expert Interview. 11 August 2021. Casually glance at your crush for a few seconds to pique the person's interest. [4] X Research source- When the person you like catches you glancing, lock eyes for a moment and then look away to smile to yourself.
- Wait a few minutes and then repeat the glances towards the person.
- If you notice your crush looking at you while you are looking away, turn and lock eyes for a few seconds and smile.
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Build common interests with your crush. Find out what interests and hobbies the person you like is into. Make a point to start learning about or getting interested in a few of your crush’s favorite past times. Shared interests give you a common topic of conversation and the ability to bond over something. [5] X Research source- Ask for tips or advice on beginning a new hobby.
- Talk about current scores or events related to favorite teams.
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Display positive body language when you’re around your crush. Positive body language conveys a message of openness, friendliness, and approachability. Try these ways to show positive body language the next time you’re talking to your crush. [6] X Research source- Stand with your body at an angle rather than head-on.
- Leave your arms down or with one hand on your hip. Avoid crossing your arms because it sends a message of being closed off.
- Use your hand to play with your hair or run your fingers through your hair.
- Touch your crush's arm or shoulder gently while you're talking.
- Brush up against the person you like and then lock eyes as you politely apologize.
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Slow down your speech when talking to your crush. Sometimes when people get nervous, they start talking faster. Fast-talking can make others feel uneasy and get a negative vibe from you, so be sure to talk slowly and calmly. -
Flirt with the person you like. [7] X Expert Source Alysha Jeney, MA, LMFT
Licensed Relationship Therapist Expert Interview. 11 August 2021. Flirting is the universal sign that someone is attracted to you. Use different flirting techniques when you are around your crush to show you have an attraction and want to build some chemistry together. [8] X Research source- Compliment your crush when you're talking.
- Smile genuinely and laugh at the jokes your crush tells.
- Get the person to talk about life by asking questions, and then validate the person by saying things like “That’s awesome” and “Wow, that sounds hard, but I bet you’re great at it”.
- Talk about topics that are attractive or interesting to the person you like.
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Buy a gift. Show your crush that you care by buying a gift. Choose an inexpensive item like candy or an item that reminds you of a joke you share with your crush. -
Offer to do things for the person you like. Take on extra responsibility to do things for your crush. Go out of your way to make life easier by offering to help with homework, work assignments, or things around the house. -
Ask for a date. [9] X Expert Source Alysha Jeney, MA, LMFT
Licensed Relationship Therapist Expert Interview. 11 August 2021. Take your crush somewhere to show how much fun the two of you can have. Dinner, an active date, and a quiet wrap to the evening ensure that you’ll have a great date night.- Be brave and tell them how you feel, but do it in a way that could also be interpreted as a kind of playful flirtation. [10]
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- Be brave and tell them how you feel, but do it in a way that could also be interpreted as a kind of playful flirtation. [10]
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QuestionHow do I start a conversation with the guy I like?Alysha Jeney is a Licensed Relationship Therapist, the Owner of Modern Love Counseling, and the Co-Founder of The Modern Love Box. She specializes in relationship therapy, intimacy building, and existential exploration. Alysha holds a BA in Psychology from The Metropolitan State University of Denver and an MA in Marriage and Family Therapy/Counseling from Regis University. She has been featured in publications such as The Washington Post and The Huffington Post.Keep it simple! Start with eye contact, and then slowly work your way up to a conversation. Each time you see him, try to raise the bar a little bit more.
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- Don't stop doing what you like to do just because your crush doesn't like it. Boys like people who can be independent, and maybe he can learn something from you, and you can from him as well. They seem to be annoyed, boys do. They appear angry or they laugh at you, but inside they like you. It's a fact. The more they do it, the more they like you.Thanks
- Be yourself. If you want your crush to like you, you need to show your true self.Thanks
- Guys generally like girls to approach them directly, while girls appreciate a more careful and thoughtful process to attraction. Consider the person you are hoping will like you when you are trying to get affection.Thanks
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- Don't overwhelm them with questions and conversations. Talk to them occasionally throughout the day and just have a few laughs. Whatever you do, don't "fake" who you are or be dishonest when asking or answering questions.
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- There is no sure way to make someone fall in love with you. If your feelings are not returned, don’t push it.Thanks
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References
- ↑ http://www.lovepanky.com/flirting-flings/get-flirty/how-to-get-your-crush-to-notice-you-and-like-you-back
- ↑ http://www.readunwritten.com/2014/04/08/the-psychology-of-attraction-7-easy-ways-to-win-over-your-crush/
- ↑ Alysha Jeney, MA, LMFT. Licensed Relationship Therapist. Expert Interview. 11 August 2021.
- ↑ http://www.lovepanky.com/flirting-flings/get-flirty/subtle-eye-contact-flirting
- ↑ http://www.seventeen.com/love/dating-advice/advice/g1757/how-to-get-your-crush/?slide=6
- ↑ http://www.doctornerdlove.com/2014/02/5-secrets-to-make-people-like-you/
- ↑ Alysha Jeney, MA, LMFT. Licensed Relationship Therapist. Expert Interview. 11 August 2021.
- ↑ http://www.lovepanky.com/flirting-flings/get-flirty/how-to-get-your-crush-to-notice-you-and-like-you-back
- ↑ Alysha Jeney, MA, LMFT. Licensed Relationship Therapist. Expert Interview. 11 August 2021.
- ↑ Alysha Jeney, MA, LMFT. Licensed Relationship Therapist. Expert Interview. 11 August 2021.
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While you can't make someone like you back, being confident and spending time with them can help! Try hanging around in the same places as your crush and take every opportunity to talk to them. Ask them things about themselves, like what music and movies they like, what they do for fun, and how their classes are going, to find things you have in common. Flirt with them a bit by complimenting them, making eye contact, and lightly teasing them. It’s natural to be nervous, but try to relax, be yourself, and enjoy your crush’s company. Don’t take it personally if they don’t like you back, since there are plenty of other people for you. For more tips, including how to ask your crush to hang out alone, read on!
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