How do you get your crush to like you back? Just thinking about talking to them might make your heart pound and give you butterflies, but getting your crush to fall for you can actually be really fun and exciting. Read on for some advice on winning that special person's heart and getting your crush to fall for you.
Steps
Expert Q&A
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QuestionHow do I win my crush over another girl?Stefanie Safran is a Dating Coach, Matchmaker, and the Owner of Stef in the City, a Matchmaking and Dating Coaching business focused on an honest and hands on approach. Stefanie labels herself as “Chicago's Introductionista®” as she has over 15 years of experience in the matchmaking industry. Her work has been featured on various media such as: ABC7, NBC5, CBS2, WGN, FOX, The Chicago Tribune, The Chicago Sun Times, The HuffPost, and Refinery29. She holds a MBA in marketing and branding from Loyola University in addition to her BA from the University of Wisconsin-Madison.It's not necessarily super productive to think about it as a competition. You can't control the way other people feel. Just make sure you look good, be kind, and try to cultivate a meaningful relationship with them.
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QuestionI'm in the same class with my crush and he makes me smile and laugh because he is very funny and cool. So how do I tell him I like him?This answer was written by one of our trained team of researchers who validated it for accuracy and comprehensiveness.wikiHow Staff EditorStaff AnswerYou could say something like, "I think I have a crush on you. No pressure, but I just wanted to let you know because I think you're really cool." If you're feeling shy about it, you could lead into it by texting him and saying, "I heard someone has a crush on you. Guess who?" and then see if he guesses right. If he doesn't guess you, tell him!
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QuestionWhat if the boy I like is kind of annoying and inappropriate but really nice to me?This answer was written by one of our trained team of researchers who validated it for accuracy and comprehensiveness.wikiHow Staff EditorStaff AnswerIt's okay to like someone even if they don't act perfectly all the time. However, it's not okay if he makes you or other people feel uncomfortable with inappropriate behavior. In that case, tell an adult or a teacher. You can also tell him, "Hey, it's not nice when you do that. It makes me uncomfortable. Please stop."
Tips
- Just be yourself. If you win over your crush while you're pretending to be someone else, it won't be a genuine relationship and you won't be happy. Wait for someone who will like you for exactly who you are.Thanks
Tips from our Readers
- If you feel too shy to talk to him at first, try to think of something that you both have in common. When you have a change to talk to him, bring up that topic in a casual way.
- Be confident and avoid being jealous or clingy. Make sure you give him his space and keep doing your own thing, otherwise he might get weirded out.
- Don't try to manipulate him by flirting with another boy. Just be honest about your feelings.
References
- ↑ https://faculty.wcas.northwestern.edu/eli-finkel/documents/InPress-a_ReisManiaciCaprarielloEastwickFinkel_JPSP.pdf
- ↑ Stefanie Safran. Dating Coach & Matchmaker. Expert Interview. 8 May 2020.
- ↑ https://www.npr.org/2021/07/11/1014019821/flirting-how-to-dating-romance-advice
- ↑ Imad Jbara. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 5 November 2019.
- ↑ https://tfcs.baruch.cuny.edu/giving-and-accepting-compliments-2/
- ↑ https://www.npr.org/2021/07/11/1014019821/flirting-how-to-dating-romance-advice
- ↑ https://milnepublishing.geneseo.edu/interpersonalcommunication/chapter/5/
- ↑ https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0749597818310173
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/flirting
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/flirting
- ↑ https://practicalpie.com/good-morning-texts-for-him/
- ↑ https://www.marriage.com/advice/relationship/flirt-with-girl-over-text/
- ↑ https://faculty.wcas.northwestern.edu/eli-finkel/documents/38_EastwickFinkel2009_EncyclopediaOfHumanRelations_Reciprocity.pdf
- ↑ Stefanie Safran. Dating Coach & Matchmaker. Expert Interview. 8 May 2020.
- ↑ Imad Jbara. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 5 November 2019.
About This Article
If you’re a girl who’s eager to win over your crush, focus on getting to know them and being the best version of yourself. Take every opportunity to talk to your crush and ask them about the things they’re interested in, like TV shows, sports, and music. Besides talking about their interests, show up to some of their events to show you care. For example, if they play football, go to one of their home games and cheer them on! It’s also important to have your own passions, which make you an interesting and attractive person. You should also show your crush that you’re a nice person by being kind, checking how they’re doing regularly, and supporting them through emotional times. If they share secrets with you, make sure you keep them to yourself to build their trust. For more tips, including how to flirt with your crush, read on!
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