How to Kiss Your Crush out of the Blue

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Everyone wants to kiss their crush, but no one wants to be kissed by a stranger. If you want to kiss your crush out of the blue, you’ll have to spend time together, read their body language and create the right moment for a perfect out-of-the-blue kiss.

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Spending Time Together

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  1. Use events or meetings you’ll both already be attending as an opportunity to bond with your crush. This will create an opportunity to flirt. [1]
    • For example, if you’re both going to be taking Chemistry together, try sitting close to them so you can ask questions.
  2. After you’ve been getting along in settings where you both have to be somewhere, you should invite your crush to do something fun in a group.
    • Group activities, such as having lunch out or playing softball, are great because your crush can get to know you without the pressure of a date. Try to pick an activity that fosters conversation. Pick a game night instead of a movie, for example, so you can talk to each other more.
    • For example, you could say, “My friends and I are trying a new BBQ place downtown this weekend for lunch. Do you want to come?” Be sure to mention that you are going in a group.
    • After one successful group hang out, your goal should be to schedule more. Try to integrate your crush into a social aspect of your life. This way when kiss them out of the blue it feels more like the exciting culmination of building anticipation rather than a rude surprise. Be patient. This process can take time.
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  3. After a few successful group hang outs, ask your crush to hang out one-on-one. It’s not necessary to define this as a date. The goal is for your crush to enjoy spending time with just you, so they can begin to consider you in a romantic way, setting up your surprise kiss. [2]
    • For example, to ask your crush out, you could say, “It’s supposed to be a nice day Saturday. Want to go play putt putt golf with me?” or “I’ve been meaning to try that new Café on Green street. Want to grab a bite on Thursday?”
    • Try to avoid something overtly date-oriented like dinner and a movie, which will create expectations around your kiss. A competitive activity can be fun and will keep your crush guessing.
    • If your crush rejects your offer to hang out one-on-one or seems unreceptive, understand that not all crushes are requited. You probably should not try to kiss them if they feel uncomfortable hanging out just you two together.
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Using Touch and Body Language to Gauge Interest

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  1. Your crush’s body language can tell you a lot about how they are feeling when you are together. More open postures like legs set wider and hands on hips indicate comfort. More closed postures, knees crossed or arms crossed over their chest indicate unease. [3] [4]
    • Try to read your crush’s body language to gauge their physical comfort with you. This can help you read if a moment for an unexpected kiss is right.
  2. If your crush’s body language tells you they are feeling comfortable with you, try some physical contact, like brushing their arm or even holding hands. This can help you feel out if a kiss they aren’t anticipating will go over well or not.
    • Men like it when a girl makes the first move. [5]
    • They appreciate a touch, a smile, and flirting in general. [6]
  3. If you’re afraid your kiss out of the blue may be rejected by your crush, try kissing them on the cheek. If they are comfortable with that, they could be receptive to more intimate kissing from you.
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Creating a Natural Kiss Unexpectedly

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  1. At the end of a one-on-one outing, linger with your crush just a little longer than normal. Attempt to draw out natural pauses in your speech. Even if you’re nervous, try not to fill every moment with words. This allows a natural moment of anticipation to build. [7]
    • Creating more anticipation for the kiss will make it seem more exciting and out of the blue.
  2. If you want to make yourself as kissable as possible, be sure your breath is fresh and that you don’t have any body odor. It’s also helpful to apply an unflavored lip balm for soft lips.
    • Brush your teeth twice a day (especially your tongue) and floss regularly to keep your mouth ready for kissing.
    • Always wear deodorant. It’s especially important if you find you get nervous and sweat a lot around your crush.
  3. This will signal that you’re hoping for a more intimate moment without being too obvious, enhancing the element of surprise.
    • If you’re walking your crush to their door, for example, don’t trail far behind. Walk with them. If there are steps, you can even level a height difference between you by stopping a stair above or below where they do.
  4. Now that you’ve created a moment of physical closeness, it’s time to bridge any emotional distance. Say something sweet and surprising to make them feel close to you. It’s important that you believe the thing you say here, as the emotion behind your sentiment will be obvious. [8]
    • For example, making eye contact, you could say, “I felt really attracted to you today.”
  5. Don’t say anything after your sincere surprise comment. Simply draw out the moment. Shoot a brief glance at their lips, not longer than two seconds, and then make eye contact with them. [9]
    • Try to keep your mouth gently parted, receptive to a kiss, during this look.
    • If they look at your lips too, that is a great sign.
  6. If your crush feels the same way, they will meet your kiss. If they turn away, don’t force them to kiss. Respect them and understand that they may not share your feelings. [10]
    • If you’re feeling unsure about whether your crush will be receptive, lean in for the kiss very slowly. This gives your crush time to stop the kiss if they do not want it or realize that, however unexpected, you want to kiss them.
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    You may feel shy as you develop a relationship with your crush. That's okay. Try to build your confidence by thinking about what you like about yourself and why someone might want to be with you. If you feel good about yourself, other people will be more attracted to you.
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    It feels great to kiss your crush. If your crush likes you, you can even begin to develop a relationship.
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    If your crush keeps wanting to hang out and is engaged when you are talking, they could very well like you too. Follow the steps above and try to kiss them. It may be that they've just been waiting for you to make the right move.
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      1. ↑ http://www.seventeen.com/love/dating-advice/a30591/foolproof-ways-to-turn-your-crush-into-your-bae/
      2. ↑ http://www.seventeen.com/love/dating-advice/advice/g2303/how-to-ask-a-guy-out/
      3. ↑ https://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/ss/slideshow-body-language
      4. ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/fulfillment-any-age/201206/the-ultimate-guide-body-language
      5. ↑ https://hellogiggles.com/women-making-the-first-move/
      6. ↑ https://www.today.com/health/18-ways-flirt-without-being-slutty-I525298
      7. ↑ http://www.howtogettheguy.com/blog/how-to-get-a-guy-to-kiss-you/
      8. ↑ http://www.vixendaily.com/love/kiss/
      9. ↑ https://www.glamour.com/story/7-signs-youre-a-good-kisser
      1. ↑ http://www.seventeen.com/love/dating-advice/advice/a7617/best-kissing-tips/

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      Finding a way to kiss your crush out of the blue may seem tough, but you can increase your chances by following a few simple steps. Spend time bonding or flirting with your crush while you're together, like during after school clubs or break, so you can get to know them. If your crush seems comfortable around you, like if they keep their arms open and smile a lot, try holding hands or gently touching their arm, which may make them feel more intimate. You could also try making eye contact and giving them a compliment when you’re alone, then saying nothing for a few seconds. This will create a natural pause that can be perfect for a kiss. If you’re worried about going straight in for a kiss on the lips, try kissing your crush on the cheek first. For tips on how to get your crush to hang out one-on-one with you, keep reading!

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