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You may be sending her all the right signals, but sometimes it’s still difficult to know if a girl likes you back. Although every girl is different, there are often some fairly telling clues as to whether she’s into you or not. By knowing what to look for, you can help to ease the anxiety of “does she or doesn’t she?” We'll walk you through the top signs that she's crushing on you, too!

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Watch for more touching.

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  1. If she’s suddenly touching your shoulder or brushing her hand against yours, chances are she’s into you.
    • Asking for a hug before you part ways is another good indication of her feelings.
    • Some women are more subtle in their approach. They may ask you to help them out or want to show you something on their phone. This is their way of closing the physical gap between the two of you.
    • Be aware that not all physical contact is a sign that she likes you. A girl may tap you on the shoulder or ask for a friendly hug without having other intentions. It's important to look for other signs in addition to physical contact.
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wikiHow Quiz: Does My Crush Like Me?

Having a crush is the best thing in the world—except when it’s the worst! All those lovey-dovey butterflies can quickly turn into nervousness. Suddenly, you're stuck analyzing their every move, wondering whether or not they like you back. Luckily, we’ve got the perfect quiz for you! Answer these questions, and you'll learn to identify the secret signs that your crush is into you, so you can stop worrying and start loving. Take this quiz to finally get your answer!
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Does your crush follow you on social media?

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See if she’s interested in your social media.

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Notice an uptick in activity from her.

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  1. Whether it’s a status “like” or a message that just says "hey!", if you see a sudden increase in activity from the girl you like, she’s definitely sending you a sign that she has a crush on you.
    • For the shy girls, this may be one of the best ways to determine if they like you. Social media provides people with the opportunity to open up in a less intimidating environment.
    • Look for an increase in private messages. Similar to texting, if someone is replying to you quickly, they’re giving you a clue as to how much you matter.
    • You may notice that she posts and tags a lot of pictures of the two of you together. This may be her way of telling other girls to back off because she wants to be your girlfriend.
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Wait for a message back.

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  1. Let her know how you feel about her and wait for a response.
    • Though we're in the habit of sharing our thoughts and feelings via social media, that doesn't mean you should broadcast your feelings publicly. [4]
    • Send her a private message instead of putting your feelings out there for all of the world to know.
    • If the girl is shy, this may be a good way of reaching out to her on a platform that she's comfortable with.
    • This also gives the girl a chance to thoughtfully consider her response to your feelings, should she not share your affections.
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Watch for signs of anger if you talk about other girls.

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Look for a suggestion to hang out alone.

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  1. In the past, you were more likely to hang out in a group setting. Now that she keeps asking to spend time alone with you, this may be a sign that she likes you.
    • If you're being consistently invited to places that her past boyfriends accompanied her to, such as weddings or dances, you should probably have a discussion about whether you’re more than friends.
    • Reader Poll: We asked 845 wikiHow readers who've asked someone, and 54% of them agreed that the best way to do so is by asking to hang out and spend time together. [Take Poll] So even if she doesn’t call it a date, if she’s constantly asking to hang out alone, it’s probably a good sign she’s into you.
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Observe her reaction when you admit you like her.

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  1. Though it may be awkward at first, you'll ultimately feel relieved once you've been honest.
    • Tell her how you feel. While it could be awkward and you may feel extremely nervous about revealing your feelings to her, you'll be glad you did it. It's much better to say something than to not say anything at all. [6]
    • You may notice a look of relief on her face when you share your feelings with her.
    • If she lights up when you tell her about your feelings, it is probable that she feels the same way.
    • Begin the conversation by telling her how much you respect your friendship with her and that you've recently been having feelings that are beyond that of a friend. Let her know that it's ok if she doesn't feel the same way, but that you felt it was important to be honest with her and to share how you really feel.
    • Don't worry if she doesn't return your sentiments. If she's a good friend, she'll stay friends with you and will be able to joke about it later. Most importantly, If she doesn't feel the same way as you, don't act as if the whole thing was a joke and that you don't really care that much either.

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    If a girl flirts with me does that mean she likes me?
    Eddy Baller
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    Eddy Baller is a Dating Coach and the Owner of a dating consulting and coaching service, Conquer and Win, based in Vancouver, Canada. Coaching since 2011, Eddy specializes in confidence building, advanced social skills, and relationships. Conquer and Win helps men worldwide have the love lives they deserve. His work has been featured in The Art of Manliness, LifeHack, and POF among others.
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    Flirting can be misleading. Everybody loves flirting, right? Because it makes you feel good. But it doesn't necessarily mean a girl is romantically interested in you. Sometimes girls flirt for fun, not because they're actually interested in dating. So while it can be a sign that she likes you, it's not a definite thing.
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    How will a girl act around me if she likes me?
    Eddy Baller
    Dating Coach
    Eddy Baller is a Dating Coach and the Owner of a dating consulting and coaching service, Conquer and Win, based in Vancouver, Canada. Coaching since 2011, Eddy specializes in confidence building, advanced social skills, and relationships. Conquer and Win helps men worldwide have the love lives they deserve. His work has been featured in The Art of Manliness, LifeHack, and POF among others.
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    One thing I actually look for that I think is a more powerful sign than flirting is when a girl is quiet and attentive when you're talking to her. So she's not necessarily giggling and hitting you on the shoulder and preening her hair, but she's really paying attention. She might not be smiling at all, but she's paying attention. She's making eye contact, she's not trying to walk away, and she's listening intently. Not just listening to try to get an opportunity to leave, but she's actually listening intently. And you can just really tell that she's interested in talking to you.
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      • Don't assume that she's giving you special attention. Take note of how she treats other guys, too. If she acts different and positively around you, that's a good sign.
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      • Every girl is different. Sometimes she'll give you plenty of positive signs, but it may just mean she likes you as a friend
      • Make sure you're willing to lose a friend if the relationship doesn't end well. One of the risks of dating a friend is understanding you may lose them, should you break up.
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      To know if a girl likes you back, read her body language for signs that she’s into you, especially long eye contact and extra physical contact. If she’s suddenly touching your shoulder or brushing her hand against yours, chances are she’s into you. Notice if she can’t stop smiling when you’re around or laughs at all of your jokes, even when they’re not funny. She’ll probably tease you playfully to get a reaction from you, which is another telltale sign that she likes you. For more ways to find out if the feelings are mutual, like how to read signs on social media, keep reading!

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