Natural Techniques to Last Longer In Bed

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Try these tips and tricks in the bedroom to stay in the mood longer
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As many as 1 out of 3 men say they experience premature ejaculation, or finishing sooner than they (and their partners) would like. [1] In some cases, this can be a sign of erectile dysfunction, but in most cases it is embarrassing and leads to feelings of sexual inadequacy. While this condition can often be treated with medication, there are ways you can improve your sexual performance without requiring medical treatment. Changing up your sexual routine, practicing foreplay, and taking steps to relax beforehand are all examples of ways you can teach yourself to last longer in bed naturally.

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Home Remedies to Last Longer in Bed

  1. Exercise your pelvic floor muscles.
  2. Eat foods like bananas, garlic, spinach, and ginseng powder.
  3. Masturbate a few hours before you have sex.
  4. Wear a thicker condom or use lubricant to reduce stimulation.
  5. Stop and start while you're having sex.
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How to Prepare for Sex to Last Longer

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  1. To find your pelvic floor muscles, try stopping your flow while peeing. When you get it to stop, that is the muscle you are working. Give yourself some time to contract the muscles during the day, tightening them for 3 seconds at a time. Do 3 sets of 10 repetitions each day. [2]
    • Consider doing other, similar exercises that work your pelvic muscles, including yoga, kegels , and Pilates . These can allow you to strengthen these muscles and will give you better control over yourself.
  2. About 1-2 hours before sex, take some time to stimulate yourself and ejaculate. It takes men some time to recover after finishing, so doing so a little bit beforehand will help you slow down. [3]
  3. Another way to help yourself last longer is to train yourself while masturbating. When you're close to finishing, stop stimulation until you calm down. Build yourself back up, then calm down again. Do this three times before ejaculating. [4]
    • This technique will help you learn your limits, and how far you can push yourself before the point of no return. Once you know these limits, you will be better able to control yourself before getting to the point where you can’t stop.
  4. If your problems are related to performance anxiety, it may be helpful to take a little break. Talk to a doctor and your partner about avoiding sex for a set period of time. [5]
    • This doesn’t mean losing intimacy. Use this time without intercourse to focus on other types of sexual play. This will help you learn to create pleasure for both yourself and your partner, taking the pressure away when you get back to having sex.
  5. Many foods are said to be natural aphrodisiacs or have benefits that include lasting longer in bed. Some of these foods include:
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How to Last Longer During Sex

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  1. Especially if you’re used to not using a condom or use very thin condoms, this switch can make it easier to last a bit longer during sex. Some condoms also contain numbing ingredients, which can help even further to delay ejaculation. [9]
    • There are special “climax control” condoms you can purchase at the drugstore. If you’re embarrassed to buy these in person, consider ordering them online.
  2. As you’re getting ready for sex, use a lidocaine or prilocaine cream or spray. These sprays can help you last longer during sexual activities by helping numb your nerves a bit so you’re less sensitive to stimulation. [10]
    • There are some over-the-counter options you can pick up from the drugstore, or your doctor may be able to prescribe something for you.
  3. Intercourse is usually better for climaxing if you have a penis, but many people need other stimuli to get there. Some foreplay before penetration, such as rubbing, petting, kissing, and giving oral sex, can help enhance your partner’s pleasure while delaying your own gratification. [11]
  4. Having sex in the "missionary" position might be contributing to your premature ejaculation. Allow your partner to be on top so you can relax and see if that helps.
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    If you start to feel close to finishing, stop and switch around to another position.
  6. Make yourself last longer by giving yourself time between thrusts. You can also change the angle of your thrusts or make them shallower.
    • If you start to feel like you are close, stop thrusting and hold yourself inside your partner until you feel in control again.
    • Another way to slow yourself down is to focus on other activities. Caress and explore your partner’s body, using your hands and lips to explore.
  7. One way for you and your partner to help prevent you from finishing too soon is the pause-squeeze technique, which involves putting pressure on your penis. When you feel almost ready to ejaculate, have your partner squeeze your penis where the head meets the shaft. Hold for several seconds until your urge to ejaculate has passed. Once your partner lets go, wait 30 seconds, then go back to foreplay. [12]
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Working Through Long-Term Issues

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  1. Some doctors believe that finishing prematurely may be the result of personal problems or bad habits developed in past experiences, both in your current relationship and in previous ones. By identifying these possible trouble spots, you can better work through them with your partner or a therapist. [13]
    • Some problems from your past could include hurrying to climax in order to avoid being discovered or rushing through sexual encounters to avoid guilt.
  2. Talking to your partner may also demonstrate that you have nothing to worry about. Your partner may not find anything wrong with how long you last. At the same time, your partner may also have some ideas for new positions and foreplay that can increase intimacy and passion, as well as the length of time. [14]
  3. You can consider counseling to work through relationship or other issues. A counselor can be particularly helpful in terms of reducing stress and overcoming performance anxiety. If you think your problems are relationship-based, you may want to visit the therapist or counselor with your partner. [15]
    • Counseling sessions tend to be most helpful when combined with drug therapy, so they may not always be the most natural course. This, of course, depends on the kind of problems you are having.
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When to Seek Medical Care

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  1. If you’re ejaculating earlier than you want to during most or all sexual encounters, you may have a condition called premature ejaculation. If this is a concern for you, your doctor may be able to help. They can interview you about your health history, give you an exam, or even do lab tests to try to find a possible underlying medical reason for the problem. [16]
    • Common causes of premature ejaculation include psychological factors, such as depression, anxiety, or body image issues. It can also be related to physical problems, such as hormone imbalances or conditions that cause inflammation in the prostate or urethra.
  2. If your doctor thinks the problem might be caused by a medical or psychological issue, ask them about treatment options. Once you treat whatever is causing your premature ejaculation, you may be able to last longer in bed. [17]
    • For example, if you have premature ejaculation that’s related to an infection in your prostate or urinary tract, you may be able to treat it with a course of antibiotics.
  3. If you’ve been trying natural remedies to extend how long you last without success, talk to your doctor. Even if there’s no clear underlying cause for your condition, there are a variety of medications that can help you last longer during sex. Some possible options include: [18]
    • Topical anesthetics, which can numb the sensitive skin on your penis and make you less likely to ejaculate early.
    • Certain antidepressant medications, which can delay orgasm.
    • Pain medications such as tramadol (Ultram), which are also known to delay orgasm.
    • Medications for erectile dysfunction, such as sildenafil (Viagra) or tadalafil (Cialis). These may work best in combination with SSRI antidepressants.

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      To last longer in bed naturally, masturbate a few hours before having sex, since this will help you slow down later. Once you’re in bed together, spend some time on foreplay, such as rubbing, petting, or oral sex, which enhances pleasure and helps your love-making last longer. You could also try changing positions, since breaking up the rhythm can prevent premature ejaculation. Alternatively, give yourself extra time, such as 3 or 5 seconds, between thrusts, because keeping a slower pace can delay your climax. If you feel you’re about to ejaculate prematurely, squeeze the base of your penis for a few seconds, which may help you regain control. For tips on how to last longer by exercising your PC muscles, keep reading!

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