Q&A for How to Find Out What You Want in a Relationship

Ask her the same question and tell her you value her opinion. Add that you hope your relationship is stronger by then, and that you'd like to work on your issues together with open and honest communication. Tell her anything else you deem important related to the specifics of your situation.

You should be able to come up with a reason, or you wouldn't be together. Are you afraid of getting hurt or hurting them? If you really can't think of an answer, you could say "there are so many reasons I can't name them all". If you want to stay in the relationship, I'm sure if you think about it and you'll come up with one. Ask yourself what you like about the person and the reasons you enjoy spending time with them.

That’s normal. It’s normal to know what you want. However, you should give people a chance. You never know who will make a perfect partner.

That's normal. There's nothing wrong with you. But if you feel like you ALWAYS need to be in a relationship, you might need to work on yourself a little bit. Take some time to be on your own. Cultivate your skills, hobbies, etc. Learn to be happy alone. Spend time with friends and don't worry about having a boy/girlfriend for a while.

Remember, it's your list! Clear your head and remember what you will be getting out this experience. Don't judge yourself, just be honest with yourself. Maybe you have only 3 things on your list. You don't have to write everything that goes with them unless you choose to.

It's not usually socially acceptable to just blurt out your feelings toward someone with whom you're not close, but you don't have to just keep quiet and swallow your feelings, either. Try the methods in the article Flirt to see if you get a favorable response from her.

The two of you cannot continue if you’re not going in the same direction. It will cause a lot of disagreements and fights. Unless one of you is willing to compromise all the time, which is also not healthy for the relationship, you will likely ending up fighting or drifting apart. Sit down with your partner and make an honest analysis of your relationship and whether or not you really want to try to make it work.

It's always best to end things with someone you've lost interest in, rather than wasting their time. Go easy on them, especially if you know they still have feelings for you. If you are in an unsafe relationship, one way to end it is by pulling away slowly. This isn't a good thing to do in a healthy relationship, but if you are afraid of breaking up with someone because of how they may react, pull away, or do it over the phone instead of in person.

Try to see what's making it unbalanced and start there. Keep talking to him and try to reach a deal that you're both good with. You can suggest changes if you want as well, if he's a good partner he should listen to you and respect your wishes. If not, there is always the option of marital therapy.