17 Reasons Why Your Ex May Have Blocked You (and What You Should Do About It)

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The logic behind your ex cutting you off and how to deal with it
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It can feel painful if your ex has recently blocked you, especially if you don’t know why. Whether it’s their ego, the result of a messy break-up, or a gesture of closure, that constant cycle of what-ifs can be exhausting mentally and emotionally. Luckily, we’ve compiled a list of reasons to explain why your ex might have blocked you. Keep reading to see the many explanations for this digital ghosting and how to handle it. Who knows? By the end, you may realize this blocking was for the best!

Things You Should Know

  • Sometimes, we act petty and immature after a break-up. Your ex may be blocking you to hide their shame, or just to rile you up.
  • Your ex may be blocking you to honor their therapist's advice or the needs of their new partner. Try to respect these boundaries, even if it hurts.
  • Blocking an ex after a break-up is healthy (and often temporary). Your brain and heart need the time and space to emotionally recover.
1

They need space.

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  1. After your brain has become accustomed to a romantic relationship, it needs time to detox and transition away from that level of emotional intimacy. This might be what your ex is doing, but try not to take it personally. Of course, that’s easier said than done, but you deserve to feel emotionally freed too. Your ex is likely detaching for their own well-being by giving themselves space to emotionally recover. [1]
    • It’s wise to follow your ex’s lead and take some space from them too. This can be difficult at first, so enlist the help of a friend you can confide in when you get those initial desires to reach out.
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2

They’re trying to move on.

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  1. Blocking you might give your ex a tangible gesture to prove to themselves that they’re serious about getting over you. This doesn’t mean you can’t be friends at some point, but right now your ex might be still wrestling through their feelings for you. Because of this, they need to keep you out of their mind (and their phone). [2]
    • If you’re struggling to move on from your ex in the same way, try and remember the bad times that caused your break-up in the first place. While these memories may be painful, they’ll help you dispel the “what could’ve been” fantasy and allow you to stop thinking about them . [3]
3

They think you’ve moved on.

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  1. It’s rare that a break-up is truly mutual. But if you’re the one who decided you and your ex should stop seeing each other, they may be trying to reciprocate and show that they’re on board with this new dynamic by adding a digital layer of distance.
    • If your ex thinks you’ve moved on, but you haven’t, communicate that. Obviously, communication can be difficult if they’ve blocked you so consider relaying this message to them through a trusted, mutual friend.
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4

They’re still healing.

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  1. Believe it or not, your brain actually creates neural pathways when you have a loving bond with someone. When that bond is severed, you neurologically process the emotional pain just as you would physical pain. Your ex may not be emotionally or physically healed yet and they’ve blocked you to protect their happiness. [4]
    • To help yourself heal, treat this break-up as you would an external injury. Drink lots of fluids, get lots of rest and avoid situations that may stress your heart, physically or emotionally. By taking care of you , you might find that your break-up feels easier to manage.
5

They feel guilty.

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  1. Losing a relationship is painful and, whether we like it or not, it’s normal for us to say or do things we regret when we’re in pain. If this sounds like your ex, they might feel guilt or shame for how they handled the break-up, so they’ve blocked you as a form of hiding. [5]
    • If you feel guilty about your behavior during your break-up, try writing out a letter of apology. Whether they receive it or not, the process is cathartic and seeing your actions written in front of you will stop you from exaggerating your shame.
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6

They need to stop themselves from reaching out.

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  1. If your ex knows they act before they think in moments of vulnerability, then they know it’s likely they’re probably going to send an “I miss you” text or, worse, leave you a drunk voicemail (possibly while crying over a pint of ice cream). That’d be humiliating and unfair to both of you so they might've blocked you as an extra measure of security. [6]
    • If you're worried about doing this yourself, distraction is another great way to stop yourself from regretfully reaching out to an ex. Immerse yourself in a new hobby, TV show, or fitness routine next time you feel like texting them. [7]
7

They want you out of their life.

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  1. Your ex may have blocked you as a final form of closure. They don’t want to hear from you and they don’t want you in their life. It’s valid to feel sad (or even outraged) about this, but know it’s what needs to happen for you both to stop holding each other back. As the saying goes: “the truth will set you free, but first it’ll make you mad!” [8]
    • It’s so frustrating when you feel like you can’t get closure, but try to look internally. Often, closure rarely comes in the form of other people, but from the work we put into our own recovery. You can't control how your ex feels, but you can control how you respond to their feelings. [9]
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8

They’re still heartbroken.

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  1. Maybe they felt the relationship was perfect and are really struggling with the loss. Maybe the time away from you has made them realize how truly wounded they are by your break-up. Either way, you likely serve as a reminder of their heartache, so they’ve decided to cut you off temporarily. [10]
    • Remember: it is not your responsibility to heal your ex’s pain. You are not their partner anymore and your happiness is always first priority. Let them have their space, and go enjoy you life, like you deserve to.
9

They want to hurt you.

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  1. If you were in a relationship for a while, your ex likely knows what will push your buttons. If they’re hurt, they may have blocked you just to make you feel the same pain that they feel. While there are healthier ways to cope with emotional pain , sometimes people lash out instead of looking inward. Your ex might be one of those people. [11]
    • As difficult as it may sound, try not to engage if this sounds like your ex. The bigger your reaction, the more power they’ll feel like they have over you.
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They want to “win” the break-up.

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  1. In recent years, the concept of “winning” and “losing” a break-up has been floated around in sitcoms and lifestyle magazines. Break-up "winners" are seen as the first to move on after a relationship ends. Your ex may have blocked you because they’ve subscribed to this belief. However, considering how immature and childish it is, it might not be good to keep some distance from them anyway. [12]
    • Remember, everyone heals at their own pace. The goal is not to move on faster than your ex. It’s to emotionally recover at a speed that feels safe and comfortable for you.
11

They don’t want to see you without them.

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  1. Given how photo-heavy social media is, it’s inevitable that, if you two follow each other, you’ll eventually see pictures of the other thriving. Maybe it’ll be alone. Maybe it’ll be with a new boo. Your ex might not be able to stomach seeing that after your break-up, so they’ve denied their access to you altogether. [13]
    • Do not feel obligated to curate your social media around your ex’s well-being. It's awesome that you're trying to be respectful, but at the end of the day, you don’t owe them anything. Post what you want!
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12

It’s a scheme to get back together.

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  1. If your ex has a habit of manipulation, blocking may be another tactic they’re using to get a reaction from you, generate a conversation, and influence you to get back together. Good news: this means they still have feelings for you. Bad news: if your ex is this manipulative, they’re probably not a trustworthy partner. [14]
    • There’s nothing wrong with getting back with your ex. Lots of happy couples have broken up and made up. Just make sure your decision to do so is rooted in honesty and mutual respect for each other (and not feelings of jealousy or guilt).
13

Their therapist told them to block you.

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  1. Having an old partner in your life can prevent you from entertaining new possibilities, stifle your healing process, and feed a constant loop of past mistakes. Your ex may have done the healthy thing and gotten professional help to deal with your break-up. They’re listening to experts’ advice on what’s best for them. [15]
    • Though blocking an ex can be helpful, if you don’t feel a need to, don’t do so out of obligation. While several experts believe it’s healthy, the healthiest strategy is simply honoring your own wants and needs.
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Their new partner told them to block you.

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  1. Even if your ex is totally cool with you being in their life, their new partner might be jealous and ask them to cut you off. While it’s unfortunate that a third party may be causing this chasm between you two, it’s important to respect this boundary. [16]
    • Try not to judge your ex's new partner. While a snide comment to your friends privately is totally valid, comparing yourself to their new partner in any way is unlikely to serve your happiness in the long run.
15

They’re hiding something.

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  1. It may be a subtweet. It may be a post that confirms they’re not doing too well. Either way, your ex definitely doesn’t want to talk to you about it so they’ve limited your access to it altogether. It sucks, but you both have a right to your privacy. [17]
    • Try not to immediately assume the worst! If your ex was trustworthy in your relationship, then it’s likely they’re hiding something that’s personal to them, rather than hostile to you.
    • When in doubt, ask a friend about your ex’s profile. They’ll be able to tell you if your limited access to their profile is any cause for concern.
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16

It was an accident.

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  1. Maybe they were forlornly looking at your profile, and accidentally pressed the “block” button. Maybe they wanted to simply “mute” you and their thumb over-corrected. There’s a chance this blocking could be totally unintentional and it’ll be remedied soon.
    • Even if it was an accident, don’t assume and ask them to correct their error from an unblocked account. It’s super frustrating, but you'll both be more likely to heal if you do so at your own pace.
17

You were too toxic.

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  1. Were you jealous? Controlling? Manipulative? Overly-confrontational? If those sound like you, this break-up might be what your ex needed to finally cut that negativity out of their life. They might've blocked you for their own well-being. [18]
    • We all have toxic traits we’re trying to improve . Instead of beating yourself up, focus on ways to do better in future relationships.
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    What can you do to get over someone blocking you on social media?
    Supatra Tovar, PsyD, RD
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    Dr. Supatra Tovar is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist (PSY #31949), Registered Dietitian, Fitness Expert, and the Owner of Dr. Supatra Tovar and Associates. Dr. Tovar has worked in the fields of health education, clinical dietetics, and psychology. With over 25 years of holistic wellness experience, she practices Holistic Health Psychotherapy. She combines her psychology, diet, and fitness knowledge to help those struggling with depression, weight gain, eating disorders, life transitions, and relationships. Dr. Tovar holds a BA in Environmental Biology from The University of Colorado Boulder, an MS in Nutrition Science from California State University, Los Angeles, and a PsyD in Clinical Health Psychology from Alliant International University, Los Angeles.
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    Even though it hurts, you can't make someone unblock you. It's best to accept that you can't change their decision. Try to wish them well and focus on moving on without them.
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