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Life is a mixture of happy moments, mundane normality and difficult situations. While we all seek plenty of happy moments and it's easy to fall into routine, it is the difficult situations that really test your mettle. Difficulties will occur throughout your life, at different stages and ages. In each case, you'll need to draw on a reserve from within to help you tackle the difficult situation and come through the other side stronger and wiser.
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Realize that your character is formed or revealed most during the tough times. If you weren't tested, you'd never know the full strength of your abilities and coping skills and you'd never be aware if just how much inner strength you contain. Every person has the potential to unleash this strength provided he or she doesn't allow fear or worry take absolute control. Use this knowledge to keep you focused on what matters––getting through on your own terms.
- Realize that part of what you're going through is about reshaping yourself; you will need to change what isn't working for you, which can ultimately lead to a stronger and more resilient self.
- Did you choose this path? Sometimes the difficult situation comes about as a result of your "calling", be it faith, career, parenthood, research, or whatever. In such a case, remember why you chose this path and take strength from remembering why it matters to you.
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Do not give away your agency. It can be easy to give in or give up and let someone or something else make the decisions. Falling into deep depression is a form of losing your agency, as is letting someone else make all the decisions and allowing yourself to simply fall into line, even where it doesn't suit who you are or what you wish to do. Not making a decision is also a form of reneging your agency (and it is still making a decision––to do nothing) and can harm your ability to care for yourself during the difficult situation.Advertisement
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Control what you can but accept that there is much which cannot be controlled. You have control over how you react and how you choose to act. You have a lot less control over what others around you choose to do and even less control over the circumstances surrounding you. It can be easy to feel helpless if you feel you cannot control what others do or say that affects you. But you do have control over the way in which you respond. As hard as this may seem––you do have choices. The real question is whether you're willing to make choices that benefit you and increase your strength to cope with the difficulties you're facing.
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Seek equanimity. It is easy to give into the negative emotions of anger, frustration, anxiety and jealousy. In turn, it is often common to experience referred body pain and feel your toxic emotions through bodily pains that won't go away. It is important to acknowledge that you are experiencing these emotions, then find ways to remain composed and mentally calm while coping with difficult situations. [1] X Research source
- Practicing meditation can help you to remain calm in the face of many pressures in your life.
- Take time out from the difficult situation. Whether it's a workout, a quick duck-out for a breather or a chat with a trusted pal, find ways to distract yourself temporarily and rejuvenate.
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Use humor to help you cope. Finding humor in a difficult situation relieves tension and actually helps you to clarify the issues in creative ways. Using humor does not dismiss the seriousness of the situation; rather, it gives you the ability to cope in a positive way.
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Look for silver linings. Bad situations often contain glimpses of solutions, beneficial changes and new pathways forward. If you look for the opportunities rather than staying focused on everything negative, then you give yourself a chance to grasp a way through and stay focused on the silver lining. Console yourself that there is a silver lining, if you look hard enough. [2] X Research source
- Hard times can be both creative and inspiring. This may seem an odd way to view what you're going through but it is certainly a more capable one, that allows you to actively seek solutions.
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Get support. The moment that you feel alone is the moment you need to reach out to others. Even if you feel that those close to you or associated with you have let you down or even distanced themselves from you, there are always people willing to help somewhere. Talk to your friends, family, doctor, therapist, or online social network (as yourself or anonymously). Talk to people who will listen and help you. [3] X Research source
- If you're having suicidal thoughts and need immediate help coping, please call or text 988 , in the US and Canada to reach a suicide crisis helpline. (See also How to cope with suicidal thoughts ).
- In addition to reaching out for help, make sure you’re taking care of yourself to the best of your abilities. Invest in self-care practices like getting enough sleep, exercising, eating well, and doing calming or meditative activities.
- Reader Poll: We asked 146 wikiHow readers and 51% of them agreed that getting 7-9 hours of sleep a night is the best self-care activity for taking care of their physical and mental health. [Take Poll]
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Understand that fear of change can hold you back. Many difficult situations arise as a result of clinging to the past. Change can be a positive when it involves growth, improvement and betterment of your life and situation. It can be tough to go through but in retrospect, many people who undergo major changes look back and realize that without the change, they'd have remained stuck in a rut. [4] X Expert Source Guy Reichard
Life Coach Expert Interview. 26 April 2021.- Again, return to the thought of looking for the silver lining and try to embrace change. Such a positive approach to change may lead to you coping better and turning what seems difficult around to feeling manageable. You don't have to love what you're going through, just make it bearable until it becomes your "new normal".
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QuestionHow do I face a difficult situation when I don't have any confidence?Guy Reichard is an Executive Life Coach and the Founder of HeartRich Coaching & Training, a professional life coaching and inner leadership training provider based in Toronto, Ontario, Canada. He works with people to create more meaning, purpose, well-being, and fulfillment in their lives. Guy has over 10 years of personal growth coaching and resilience training experience, helping clients enhance and transform their inner worlds, so they can be a more positive and powerful influence on those they love and lead. He is an Adler Certified Professional Coach (ACPC), and is accredited by the International Coach Federation. He earned a BA in Psychology from York University in 1997 and a Master of Business Administration (MBA) from York University in 2000.Try not to seek the comfort of confidence from the get-go. Learn to do things that are uncomfortable and difficult and that you can still get through them. Paradoxically, you will get more confident and comfortable with some of these difficult situations in time.
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QuestionWhy is it so hard for me to overcome obstacles in life?Guy Reichard is an Executive Life Coach and the Founder of HeartRich Coaching & Training, a professional life coaching and inner leadership training provider based in Toronto, Ontario, Canada. He works with people to create more meaning, purpose, well-being, and fulfillment in their lives. Guy has over 10 years of personal growth coaching and resilience training experience, helping clients enhance and transform their inner worlds, so they can be a more positive and powerful influence on those they love and lead. He is an Adler Certified Professional Coach (ACPC), and is accredited by the International Coach Federation. He earned a BA in Psychology from York University in 1997 and a Master of Business Administration (MBA) from York University in 2000.Often there is a fear or limiting belief making a situation more difficult for you. Know the outcome you want to create and keep more of your focus and energy on the outcome than the difficulties. This helps give more power to possibilities than to problems.
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- Aim to be better, not bitter, as a result of going through a difficult situation.Thanks
- Learn to let go. As Buddha once said, holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; it's you who gets hurt.Thanks
- Treat others with respect. Although you're going through hard times, how you treat others matters. Your actions speak louder than your words and people have long memories. This doesn't mean be a doormat; it means acknowledging others respectfully and maintaining your dignity in front of them.Thanks
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Warnings
- Some people are toxic to be around when you're going through a difficult situation. In particular, avoid those who put you down, who try to prevent positive changes for you and who seek to manipulate you.Thanks
- If you're having suicidal thoughts and need immediate help coping, please call or text 988 , in the US or Canada to reach a suicide crisis helpline.Thanks
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References
- ↑ https://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/7-steps-accept-tough-situations-life.html
- ↑ https://www.mhanational.org/deal-better-hard-times
- ↑ https://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/7-steps-accept-tough-situations-life.html
- ↑ Guy Reichard. Life Coach. Expert Interview. 26 April 2021.
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