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Not sure how to make the first move with your crush on Snapchat? Not to worry—you’ve got more power at your fingertips than you think. Unlike traditional texting, Snapchat offers plenty of seamless, creative ways to break the ice and make a great impression with the guy you like. Read on for a few Snaptastic ways to get the ball rolling!
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This is a super-easy way to get the ball rolling. [1] X Expert Source Collette Gee
Dating Coach Expert Interview. 20 August 2021. DMing your crush out of the blue can be super scary, especially if you don’t know him well. Thankfully, Snapchat Stories give you an easy in! Send something short, sweet, and clever that’ll both grab his attention and be easy to respond to. [2] X Research source You might say:- “Dang, it must be brutal to work this late.”
- “Haha, isn’t it 3 AM where you are? I’m surprised you’re still awake!”
- “I’m so jealous of all these beach pics. Keep them coming!”
- Reader Poll: We asked 235 wikiHow readers who've slid into their crush’s DMs, and 56% of them agreed that the best way to do so is by responding to their story with an emoji or quick reaction. [Take Poll] Then, ask them questions about whatever they posted to keep the conversation going!
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Updating your Story lets him make the first move. Maybe you’re both in the same math class, or you both play the same video game. Whatever that common link is, make a post about it on your story! With any luck, he’ll notice your post and shoot a DM in your direction. Here are a few ideas: [3] X Research source
- If you’re crushing hard on a classmate, you could post a pic of a homework problem that you’re struggling with or a bored-while-studying selfie.
- If you met your crush through an online community, you might post something that’s related to that mutual hobby, whether it’s sports, video games, or a specific book/movie franchise.
- If you don’t know your crush at all, you could play it safe with a picture of a cute animal.
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This is a fun way to strike up a convo while skipping the small talk. You can find them on your Stories page—simply scroll through until you find something that your crush would really like. Then, all you have to do is send it over and wait for his reaction. [4] X Research source
- If your crush is a big foodie, you might send him a video of some kitchen hacks.
- If he’s a fan of a certain celebrity, you could send him a special news byte.
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Memes are a great way to play to his sense of humor. Send him an academic meme to strike up a conversation about studying woes, or pick out a remixed cartoon meme to break out the laughs. [5] X Research source Once you’ve settled on a good meme, send it over and wait for the cry-laugh emojis to start rolling in.
- Take a look at what’s trending if you can’t think of something to send! The meme world is constantly changing and evolving.
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This is a great way to bring out his competitive side. Keep things simple with a friendly round of Snap Bowling or Tic Tac Toe. If you’d like to get to know him a little better, strike up a game of Would You Rather or Food Match. Here are a few other games to choose from: [6] X Research source
- Basket Head
- 3 in a Row
- Number One in Numbers
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A tasteful Bitmoji is worth 1000 words. Keep things simple with a basic “hi” sticker, or send over a “good morning” sticker to brighten up his day. If you’re feeling especially dramatic, shoot over the classic sticker of your Bitmoji swinging in on a chandelier. [7] X Research source With any luck, he’ll follow your lead and send a Bitmoji back to you!
- The sky’s the limit when it comes to Bitmoji stickers! You can send everything from fun greetings and “I love yous” to the latest and greatest internet slang.
- For a super playful touch, pick out a Bitmoji sticker that features both of your avatars.
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Invite him on a web-surfing adventure he’ll never forget. Maybe you stumbled on the most hilarious YouTube video ever, or found a TikTok that he’ll really vibe with. Whatever the case, link it into your Snap and see if he likes it! [8] X Research source
- If he’s a huge sports nut, you could send him a news article about his favorite team.
- If he’s really into video games, you might send him a link about a new PlayStation game that’s coming out.
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Let your Cameo do the talking if you aren’t sure how to break the ice. A silly sticker featuring the 2 of you as dancing bananas or penguins is sure to get the conversation going. [9] X Research source
- Dancing chickens, dancing lemons, and dancing stick figures are just a few of the chaotically hilarious Cameos you can choose from.
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A creative Snapsterpiece is sure to make him smile. Play around with different lenses to take the craziest, most unforgettable Snap ever. [10] X Research source Drop a playful caption in the picture before hitting send, and see if he texts or Snaps you back!
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Ditch the awkward one-on-one with the help of your mutual friends. We totally get it—talking to the guy you like can be super daunting, especially if you don’t know him that well. Instead of shooting him a random DM, just make a group chat instead! That might make it a little easier to hit the ground running. [11] X Research source
- This option works best if you have some friends in common. If you add him to a chat with a bunch of people he doesn’t know, he might feel a little weirded out.
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Punny messages set the mood in a way that “hi” and “how are you” just can’t. With a silly, clever caption, you can turn a grape, pineapple, sushi roll, ceiling fan, or even a light switch into an unforgettable message! Then, send your Snapsterpiece to him and him alone. Here are a few picture and caption ideas to get you started: [12] X Research source
- Bowl of Grapes: I had a grape time hanging out with you yesterday!
- Pineapple: Of all the fruits out there, you’d be 'fineapple'.
- Ceiling Fan: Good luck on your math test tomorrow! Your biggest fan is rooting for you.
- Sushi Roll: I can’t wait sushi you on Saturday!
- Light Switch: Do you feel turned on right now?
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DMs are a great option once you feel comfortable enough chatting one-on-one. Don’t just send a single-word greeting, like “hey” or “hi,” though! Instead, keep things interesting with an intriguing icebreaker or opening question. [13] X Research source Here are some fun topics you could chat about:
- Ghosts and aliens
- Astrology
- Love languages [14]
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Expert Source
Collette Gee
Dating Coach Expert Interview. 20 August 2021. - If you run out of ideas, you can always ask him about his favorite movie, book, color, or animal! [15] X Research source
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An open-ended question is something he can’t answer with “yes” or “no.” Sports, TV shows, movies, and homework are all fair game here! Start up a conversation with one of these questions, or use an open-ended question to jazz things up when your chat starts to get stale. [16] X Research source Here are a few ideas to get you started:
- “What do you think about that basketball game last night?”
- “What are your thoughts about the new character they added to the game?”
- “How do you get through math class without falling asleep?”
- “What are your plans for the weekend?”
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There’s no replacement for some one-on-one time with the guy of your dreams! If you’re feeling ready to take things to the next level, send him a casual chat message like, “Up for a call?” or “Down for a video chat?” If he seems interested, start up the call to get things going. [17] X Research source
Expert Q&A
Tips
- As a playful competition, challenge him to keep your Snapstreak going for as long as possible! [18] X Research sourceThanks
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References
- ↑ Collette Gee. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 20 August 2021.
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- ↑ https://help.snapchat.com/hc/en-us/articles/7012330092052-How-do-I-create-a-My-Selfie-for-Cameos
- ↑ https://help.snapchat.com/hc/en-us/articles/7012348332052-How-do-I-use-Lenses-on-Snapchat
- ↑ https://help.snapchat.com/hc/en-us/articles/7012348774804-How-to-Create-Group-Chats-on-Snapchat
- ↑ https://www.seventeen.com/love/tips/g2344/flirty-snapchats-to-send-your-crush/
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- ↑ Collette Gee. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 20 August 2021.
- ↑ https://www.thecut.com/article/things-to-talk-about-with-your-crush.html
- ↑ https://www.businessinsider.com/how-to-keep-a-conversation-going-2011-1
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- ↑ https://help.snapchat.com/hc/en-us/articles/7012318024852-I-lost-my-Snapstreak-How-do-I-restore-it