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There are a lot of different people in the world, but despite our differences we all want to get along. Humans are social beings, and we enjoy being treated well. Getting along with someone, regardless of their values, isn't about being their best friend or sharing all their hobbies. It is about treating people with respect and care.

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Getting Along with Anyone

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  1. To start a conversation, it is important to listen first, especially when you are in a group. Don’t indulge yourself in instant chat when you have just arrived. First, examine the situation and the conversation, then say whatever you deem fit. It is better to say something substantial, rather than engage in meaningless banter. So it is better to listen to what the conversation is about before speaking. [1]
    • To learn more about other people, try asking open-ended questions, like "What do you think about this class?" or "How did you learn to play guitar so well?" Then, really listen to the answer so you can build on the conversation. [2]
  2. It is not your job or in your power to change anyone else. You can only change how you interact with people. You cannot change them. If you do not like how someone acts, you can arrange things so that you interact with them as little as possible. [3]
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  3. A little laughter goes a long way, and a smile eases tensions, whereas a frown can create tension. If someone teases you, try to laugh it off. If someone is frowning, smile at them. Be mindful of your countenance (facial expression). If you are persistently cheerful and optimistic, people will cheer up when they see you coming. [4]
  4. Some people do not take hints. Some people do not read body language. For these people, it really works to just say with a cheerful face and voice, "I really want us to work well together, and I want to back you up and help you."
  5. Radiate positivity. How you project your feelings affects the people within your proximity. It can have a ripple effect on the people around you. Therefore, it would be advisable to remain thoughtful of how you conduct yourself and deal with others around you. In other words, do not allow yourself to take out your negative emotions on others. [5]
  6. People love compliments, especially when they are genuine. Don't be so proud as to never congratulate someone on their work or ideas. A good compliment is sincere and succinct. No one likes a brown-noser or a suck-up, but no one likes people who seem better than everyone else either. [6]
    • Aim for one good compliment per conversation as a good benchmark.
  7. Being kind is its own reward. It could be as simple as bringing in doughnuts for people or offering to help someone who is struggling to carry something. This will show you care about other people and this will make people want to be around you.
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Having Good Manners

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  1. Think of your manners as the coat of paint on your personality-- if you keep it clean and pleasant, it leaves a wonderful first impression when you meet someone.
  2. This tells them that you are interested in what they have to say and want to be comfortable around them. When meeting someone for the first time, make good eye contact and shake their hand firmly as you introduce yourself.
  3. Be polite and humble . If you are rude and arrogant, people will not like you.
  4. The golden rule is still the most important rule for getting along with others. Think of how you would like your friends to act around you. If you treat people with love and respect, they will treat you with the same.
  5. Gossip has a way of traveling around, and hearing that someone has been speaking ill of you behind your back is a sure-fire way to ruin a friendship. If you wouldn't say it to them in person, it is best not to say it at all.
  6. Be confident. Talk loudly and clearly, speaking slowly enough to get your words out without mumbling. You don't need to yell, interject, or rush—take your time and make each word count.
  7. Forgiveness is not only polite, it leads to stronger friendships. No one is perfect, so judging someone for a fault is not fair when you expect them to forgive your mistakes too. Be willing to accept an apology and try and think of things through someone else's perspective -- were they really trying to be hurtful, or did they make an honest mistake? [7]
    • Having the humility to give and accept forgiveness is a great way to show people that you are a reasonable, kind person.
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Getting Along with People you Disagree With

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  1. You do not have to completely avoid contentious issues. However, it is important to refrain from yelling, judging, or blocking out people with whom you disagree. There are very few people who will agree with you on everything, so it important to learn how to have a civil, polite argument or debate.
    • If people have challenges, offer them support.
  2. While you can have a civil discussion about political differences, for example, saying that their view makes them "a bad person" is a perfect way to ruin a relationship.
  3. While you might have different ideas on who should be president, try and bond over a common topic or hobby. Find discussion topics and activities that you can both enjoy instead of focusing on the things that divide you.
  4. Even on contentious topics like religion or politics, there are likely to be a few things that you both can agree on. Don't be afraid to agree with someone when they make a good point -- this will make it easier to keep the conversation civil.
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    If you're feeling awkward or weird about making small talk, simply focus on the other person. Ask meaningful, open-ended questions that start with "How" or "What" so you can interact in a way that feels authentic and less superficial. Then, practice active listening—listen to truly hear them, then reflect back what you heard by paraphrasing what they just said. If you do this, other people will respond very positively.
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    Try understanding, from your brother's perspective, why he is nagging you. Then, compromise on the situation. If he wants something, come up with a solution. If he is being just overall annoying, then bribe him with candy, or anything to just go away.
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    Have a calm conversation with your friend about what happened and what you both feel. Either resolve your differences or agree to disagree. Don't let small arguments come in the way of your friendship.
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      Although you won’t be best friends with everyone you meet, you can try to get along with others well by treating them with care and respect. Don’t try to change people if you don’t like what they do, as this will only cause conflict. Instead, accept them for who they are so that you can get along. It can also help if you try to look for hobbies or interests you share with people you don't get along with, rather than focusing on the differences you have. If you do have a disagreement with someone, try to discuss the issue calmly and maturely rather than lashing out. It’s easier to get along with people if you are civil. For more tips on getting along with others well, like how to give genuine compliments, read on!

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