Is there a special guy in your life you're dreaming of getting together with? While there's no magic spell to guarantee that any guy in the world will fall in love with you, there are a few ways to get almost any guy to fall in love with you. We compiled a list of the best tips on how to get a boy to fall for you, including advice from psychotherapist Kelli Miller, LCSW, MSW on how to grab a guy's interest and keep him hooked while still remaining true to yourself.
How to Get a Guy to Fall in Love with You
- Be happy with who you are. Confidence is attractive!
- Take an interest in him by complimenting him and asking him about his hobbies.
- Have a positive attitude. Smile and maintain open body language.
- Flirt with him: tease him, giggle at his jokes, and engage in light banter.
Steps
Expert Q&A
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QuestionHow can I impress a boy and make him love me?Kelli Miller is a Psychotherapist based in Los Angeles, California. Kelli specializes in individual and couples therapy focusing on relationships, depression, anxiety, sexuality, communication, parenting, and more. She is the author of “Love Hacks: Simple Solutions to Your Most Common Relationship Issues” which details the top 15 relationship issues and 3 quick solutions to each. She is also the award-winning and best-selling author of “Thriving with ADHD”. Kelli co-hosted an advice show on LA Talk Radio and was a relationship expert for The Examiner. She received her MSW (Masters of Social Work) from the University of Pennsylvania and a BA in Sociology/Health from the University of Florida.That old cliche "be yourself" is a cliche for a reason. It's very rare for people to like somebody who's not authentic and real. Show him who you really are and avoid putting up a false sense of self. If he ends up liking you, he really likes the essence of you. If he doesn't, then you were not a good match for each other.
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Tips
- Just be yourself and love yourself, because if he doesn't like you for who you are then he isn't worth it.Thanks
- Don't rush things. Give your relationship the proper amount of time to develop.Thanks
- Don't change who you are completely just to make someone fall in love with you. You may lose your sense of identity and will feel lost if your plan doesn't work out.Thanks
Tips from our Readers
- A lot of boys love girls who are independent, so don't be all over him all the time. Just leave him to do what he wants. It's ok to say no to hanging out with him sometimes, too. Like when he says, "You wanna go for a walk around the park?" you can say "No, I have to be somewhere, but maybe next time."
- Act a bit secretive and mysterious. Don't tell him everything about you right from the start. This will make you more intriguing. At the same time, be a good listener and show him you really care about what he has to say.
- If the boy doesn't like you for who you really are in your heart, then he doesn't deserve you. Remember that he should love you for who you are, not for who he thinks you're supposed to be!
- If he's stressed or needs help in his life, be there for him. Help him through tough times. This will help him feel like he can trust you and turn to you when he needs someone.
References
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/how-do-life/202201/how-become-special
- ↑ Kelli Miller, LCSW, MSW. Psychotherapist. Expert Interview. 11 June 2020.
- ↑ Kelli Miller, LCSW, MSW. Psychotherapist. Expert Interview. 21 July 2020.
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/evidence-based-living/202109/the-psychology-compliments-nice-word-goes-long-way
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-attraction-doctor/201111/being-beautiful-or-handsome-is-easier-than-you-think
- ↑ https://cae.edu.sg/positivity-is-attractive/
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-pursuit-fun/202106/what-is-the-underlying-psychology-having-fun
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/cutting-edge-leadership/201404/5-secret-powers-eye-contact
- ↑ https://www.scienceofpeople.com/attraction/
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/flirting
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/ambigamy/201402/mastering-the-art-giving-and-taking-space
- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/health/the-secrets-of-happy-couples
- ↑ Kelli Miller, LCSW, MSW. Psychotherapist. Expert Interview. 21 July 2020.
- ↑ Kelli Miller, LCSW, MSW. Psychotherapist. Expert Interview. 21 July 2020.
About This Article
To get any boy to fall in love with you, smile when you’re around him, which shows you’re an attractive and confident person. If you want to grab his attention, make eye contact with him until he notices you, then smile and look away. You should also use open body language when you’re talking to friends, such as keeping your arms open and standing tall, to show that you’re relaxed and comfortable. When you’re talking to the guy, flirt with him by gently teasing him about one of his interests, like his pet or video games. Additionally, lightly touch his arm or shoulder from time to time to let him know you’re attracted to him. Once you get to know him a bit better, tell him about your hopes or goals, such as becoming a pastry chef or event planner, since he won’t be able to love you unless he knows what makes you unique as a person. Remember to show that you’re interested in his interests as well by asking him questions about them so he doesn't think you're just focused on yourself. For tips on how to stay in love when you’re together, read on!
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