How to Make a Girl Feel Special

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Every girl wants to feel like she's a special and unique treasure to her guy. How do you show her that she really is special to you? Nothing impresses a woman more than a guy treating her as his princess.

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Complimenting Her

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  1. Balance your compliments . Girls love compliments, and no wonder: They tell her that you really care, and they make her feel good about herself. Compliment her on both her looks and her personality and she'll feel like she's the whole package in your eyes. Try not to tell her she's "fit" or "hot," however, because that sounds plain and generic. Don't over-compliment a girl either because you might alarm her or give the impression that you want something from her in return for your kindness. [1]
    • Tell her that she's "beautiful," "pretty," or "gorgeous" instead. These words are often perceived as more heartfelt and they convey a little extra emotion.
    • Compliment aspects of her personality, too. Girls want to feel pretty on the outside and the inside. Sincere compliments about her personality let her understand that you like her for who she is deep down inside:
      • "Every time we're alone, you remind me of how fun it is to just do nothing together."
      • "You are as beautiful on the inside as you are on the outside."
      • "You make me want to be a better person every single day."
      • "When I look at you, I know what it's like to feel completely safe and comfortable around someone."
  2. It's a good idea to have a few basic compliments to give your girl every once in a while, but it's also a good idea to take something totally unique about her and let her know that you love it, or at least appreciate it. [2]
    • Maybe you're mesmerized by her eyes . Tell her what her eyes remind you of: "I love the way your shirt brings out the color of your eyes; it's such a contrast."
    • Perhaps you love the way her hair frames her facial features: "Your hair is so soft and silky; it really is a perfect match for your eyes and your lips."
    • What if you get tingly inside when she laughs ? "Your giggle is about as cute as it can get. It puts me in such a great mood."
    • Finally, maybe say something about her generosity . Many women are naturally born to be motherly and nurturing; if you say something about her kindness or generosity, it should hit home: "You've taught me what it means to be kind and what it feels to be looked after. I hope I can do the same for you."
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  3. . Giving a girl the right compliment when she expects it is great, but giving her the right compliment when it's unexpected is even better. Pick a time when you two are together to think about what you love/respect/admire about her and let her know out of the blue. [3]
    • When she's not expecting it, wrap your arm around her, squeeze her gently, kiss her cheek, neck, or forehead, and tell her something heartfelt about how she makes you feel. Look her in the eyes when you deliver the compliment. She'll melt like an ice-cube in an inferno.
    • Tell her that she's your first priority and that you would do whatever it takes to keep her happy when she needs it. Don't just say it; be prepared to do it! Girls won't respect you if you say one thing and do another.
    • Send her text messages like or call her unexpectedly. This will let her know that she is on your mind. Spread it out so that each call or text is a heart-warming surprise, not so much that she comes to expect it. Texts you can send her out of the blue:
      • "I miss you; was just thinking about you..."
      • "You really got me loving what we have together."
      • "Just stopping by to say 'Hi.' I wish I could be kissing you right now."
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Showing Her You Care

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  1. Spend time with her at the park, come with her when she goes shopping, take her to the beach....There are lots of places you can take her to make her feel comfortable and loved.
    • Do fun and exciting things together. [4] This has two benefits: First, it will show her that you want her to be involved in your life's journeys; second, the adventure will help you bond together by releasing a chemical (called 'oxytocin') that's responsible for feelings of love. [5]
    • Show that you care by taking part in the things that she loves doing. Going to see a chick flick, even if you think it will be boring, will tell her that you care about her needs, and not just your own. Even if you don't enjoy doing it, try to make it look like you're into it. It's best to be honest that you do not enjoy the movie but you are still willing to watch it with her to show you will be there for her; she'll appreciate the effort and love you've shown her.
    • If she wants to go clothes shopping, ask her if she would like to have you join her! If she lets you, help her find something to suit her best! Girls tend to have a hard time picking clothes to go with. Whether she's looking for a dress for fancy outings or nice weather, a swimsuit to go swimming in or for the beach, shorts or a skirt for casual wear, or anything else, assist her in finding something that you think fits her well, whether it blends with other pieces or if it reminds her of something that she likes. For example, "Of the dresses here, I think this yellow one fits you perfectly, because yellow is your favorite color and it goes along well with this sunhat." Or "I think this light blue bikini makes a great fit for you, as it's the same color as the bright skies, which I know makes you happy." It can serve for something for her to remember you by as well since you helped her pick it out. [6]
    • For that matter, even if you might not be wild about her wearing revealing clothing such as short shorts, skirts, or midriff baring tops, it's best you go along with it. This goes back to the bit on telling her that you care about what she wants. She might also like wearing them because she feels proud of her body and isn't afraid to show herself off.
  2. Do not save affection for only private moments; show the rest of the world how you feel about her. She'll feel like she makes you a lucky guy, which you are. Kiss her cheek or massage her hand when you are in public. Hold her close when introducing her to one of your friends. [7]
    • If she uses social media a lot, show your relationship publicly through social media. Post photos of the two of you, tag her at places, change your relationship status . Show her you are publicly committed to the relationship and that you are proud to show her off. However, if she is a very private person, this may make her uncomfortable.
    • Don't be afraid to introduce her as your girlfriend if she is. She might be a little put off if you just introduce her using her name. If you haven't made it clear whether you two are boyfriend and girlfriend, stick to introducing her by name.
    • Don't let go of her hand when another boy or girl walks by. She'll think that you're embarrassed to be with her, or that you're trying to impress another girl. If you're holding hands, wait for a good moment to break contact. When another girl is around, make sure your girl feels as if she's the only one.
    • For her birthday or your anniversary, do something nice for her in public. [8] Get or bake a cake for her birthday, or give her a card for your anniversary. Do one public thing for her and one private.
  3. Talk to her and explore her personality. Digging deeper and getting to know her likes and dislikes is a huge step in making her feel special. [9] Lots of guys never bother to get really close to a girl because they're only interested in having a physical relationship. Don't be the guy who doesn't know very much about his girlfriend or forgets what she likes and dislikes.
    • Ask her about her hobbies and find out what she's passionate about. Everyone is passionate about something, even if it's buried deep down inside. Find out what she loves to do more than anything else. Figure out what she likes about it. Try to understand it and be interested in it.
    • Ask lots of questions . Ask her about her childhood, her parents and siblings, her goals, her fears and desires, along with her likes and dislikes. The more you know about her, the better you can comfort her when she's down, inspire her when she's stuck, or calm her when she's stressed.
    • Practice listening . Don't tune her out. No matter what she has to say, listen, analyze with her, and offer an informed opinion if you have one. If you don't have an opinion, you can tell her that, saying that you're there for her when she needs to think things through.
  4. Be patient . On occasion, she may cause you to think What am I doing, this is crazy?! This is definitely not normal. Well, you're getting used to a new normal, and it's going to force you to be patient. She'll thank you for it. [10]
    • If she is late or forgets something, wait patiently for her. Try to be understanding. Don't make her feel guilty, especially if the first word she says is "Sorry." Who knows — one day, the tables could be turned and she might be waiting for you.
    • Let her win the argument. Sometimes, it's best to just let her win the argument. Stand up for yourself and what you believe in, but learn when to back down and let her win. You'll get more in the long run. [11]
    • Listen to her criticisms . No one wants to feel criticized, but you're going to have to compromise if you want to succeed in relationships. So take what she says to heart, try to change whatever is fixable, and show her that you're in it for the long run.
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Going the Extra Mile

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  1. If your princess turns into a damsel in distress, you're going to need to be by her side during her time of need. Whether it's a sliver in her toe, a schoolyard bully, or a serious illness in the family, stick by her side to show her that one of your biggest goals is making sure she's safe and secure.
    • If she's sad , ask her how you can make it better. Don't just sit there and say "I'm sorry," staring blankly at the wall. Girls want guys who can make them happy when they are down, who can cheer them up with a little bit of humor when the going gets tough. Try your best to liven up her spirits.
    • Stand up for her when she needs it. If she gets insulted, called ugly, or otherwise threatened, be there to protect her. Tell the offender that you'd never let her sit there and take negative remarks like that. Don't start a fight, but don't let other people push you or your girlfriend around.
    • No matter what is happening in your lives, be by her side. Comfort her that you are there to support her in every moment. Girls want the security of knowing that if something does happen, she won't have to worry about you jumping ship. Reassure her you're there to stay.
  2. Be romantic with her . You may not think you're the romantic type, but you should know a little bit about how to be romantic if you want to go the extra mile. Romance, for girls, should be like the movies: Everything should be slightly over the top (but not cheesy), a reminder of the effort that you'll go to in order to make her feel special.
    • Find out what her favorite flower is and send her a bunch. [12] If you're at the grocery store together, ask her casually what kind of flowers look good, and then take note. Remember that different flowers "mean" different things: While red roses mean love and romance, white roses mean friendship.
    • A romantic dinner or a trip to the spa are also romantic options to consider. [13]
    • Surprise her with a date. [14] The mere fact that you went out of your way to arrange a surprise date is often enough. Your date doesn't have to be elaborate. Tell her to meet you somewhere or pick her up yourself. Pretend you're doing something boring, like chores, and then surprise her with the date — like a movie, a cooking class, a picnic somewhere remote. She might jump into your arms or look you lovingly in the eyes.
    • Make something for her. It's a good idea to give her signs of your love, like cards, or jewelry, or flowers. But what if you want to take your signs of affection to the next level? You should definitely make her something with your own hands. The more personal it is, and the more energy you put into it, the better.
      • Make her a relationship journal. Buy a nice, blank journal. Write about when you first met her, all the first dates, and how she made you feel. Include pictures and other mementos, like movie stubs. Tell her that you want to take turns writing in the journal.
      • Make her a collage of all the mementos you saved from the relationship. Save brochures, tickets, stubs, receipts, and pictures that mean something to both of you. Tape or glue them to a nice poster board and give it to her.
      • Make her a video of yourself. It doesn't need to be fancy — a Facebook video will do. Tell her how she makes you feel; what you love about her; what you were thinking when you first met her. Set all of this to music and send it to her.
      • Do something for her parents. Maybe her mom needs help organizing a silent auction. Volunteer to be a busboy, or help out with ticket sales. Your girlfriend will be overjoyed that you're getting to know her family and you'd do something selfless for them.
      • Reader Poll: We asked 482 wikiHow readers about the best gifts to give to a woman, and 52% recommended gifts related to her hobbies . [Take Poll] Get your girl a gift related to her interests and passions to show how much you care!
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    Make sure that your sense of romance lines up with hers. Your natural way of showing affection might not always match their needs, and that's okay! Find a happy balance that feels good for both of you and respects your comfort level.

  3. Going the extra mile doesn't have to mean some grand, romantic gesture we see in the movies or hear about in stories. Often, the really small things mean just as much, provided you do them with feeling.
    • Sing romantic songs to her, even if your voice is horrible. Have a song that's yours. Even if you butcher it, the singing can be an opportunity for both of you to laugh. It's sure to be a win-win situation regardless!
    • Take lots of pictures with her. She'll find it heartwarming to look at you standing next to her with the both of you smiling. It also makes for a nice keepsake to make her know you'll remember her and the fun you shared. And don't be afraid to kiss her on her cheek or forehead for a picture! She might find that even more touching to look back on.
    • Find ways to send or leave little notes and symbols of endearment that will remind her of fun times you have shared together. A simple, handwritten note goes a long way.
  4. Love her for who she is and what her beliefs are because those are unlikely to change anytime soon. It's the easiest thing to say and the hardest thing to do, but it's true: Love her for who she is, despite her failures, because she loves you in the same way too.
    • Forgive her . So she makes a mistake? So what? Everyone makes mistakes, but it's the way they bounce back from their mistakes that show you who they really are. If she apologizes, is honest and genuinely sorry, try to forgive her. Chances are she'll go the same for you.
    • Respect her . Don't talk down to her, manipulate her, or say bad things when she isn't around. Treat her like a gentleman should treat a lady. Be respectful of her time, her effort, her beliefs. You'll earn her trust very quickly.
    • Get along with her friends, even if you don't like them. Her friends play an important part in her life; she wants them to get along with you, and you to get along with them.
    • Make an effort with her family. Her family is most likely the core of her happiness. If she has a great relationship with her family, try to respectfully become a part of that community when they let you in.
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    Pay close attention when she's talking about things she really likes. Take notes about what she's most passionate and excited about, and use that to help you choose a gift.
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      • Although doing extra chores like dishes, laundry, and vacuuming all in one day may seem helpful, sometimes it can make her feel ignored, as if you'd "rather do crummy chores" than spend time with her. This may seem silly, but explain that you were thinking of pleasing her and trying to help out around the house. Talk it out to avoid misunderstandings.
      • Don't give her too much attention all at once or she may feel embarrassed, especially if you try talking to her while she's busy with something else. Try chatting when she seems bored or wants attention instead. Pace yourself in showing affection over time rather than all in one day so she has moments to anticipate you.
      • In long distance relationships, be patient if she doesn't respond right away to texts or calls. Maybe it wasn't the best time to contact her, she got busy, or had a rough day. Don't worry or make assumptions, just ask her about it later when she's ready to talk.
      • If you help her, even with small, silly things, keep it between the two of you instead of announcing it to others. This confidentiality will inspire more trust and openness in your relationship.
      • Make sure to keep a sense of humor in the relationship instead of being overly serious all the time. Sprinkle in lighthearted jokes and laughter - she'll love seeing your funny side!
      • Use sincere compliments from the heart instead of clichés, which can come across as cheesy or trying too hard. Make sure she knows you truly mean what you say.
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      You can make a girl feel special by giving her unique, genuine compliments to show you really care about her. For example, try saying something heartfelt like “You’re as beautiful on the inside as you are on the outside.” Besides complimenting her, show this girl she’s special by taking her to her favorite places like a restaurant she loves, the mall, or a movie she's been wanting to see. Above all, she’ll feel special if you’re proud to show her off to everyone! When you’re in public, try holding her hand or giving her a quick kiss. Or, if she uses social media a lot, post a photo of you two together to show the world how lucky you are to be with her. To learn how to step up your romance to make her feel special, scroll down!

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