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A guide to expanding your bisexual community
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The fact that bisexual people blend easily into the general population has its benefits, but it can also make it difficult to meet other bisexual people. You can meet other bisexuals if you go to social gatherings and are open about your interests. Online networking sites are also very helpful for making connections with other bisexual people. You can find other bisexual people online, in person, and by observing body language.
Things You Should Know
- Sign up for a bisexual dating website or app to build an awesome profile highlighting your wonderful personality.
- Join bisexual groups on social media like Facebook. These groups may provide dating opportunities, community-building activities, and more!
- Attend events in the LGBTQIA community, such as parades and festivals. You never know what incredible people you might run into.
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Find a bisexual dating website. There are many dating websites available for bisexual people interested in finding a partner. You can sign up on these websites and then build your profile. Follow some strategies to attract people to your profile. [1] X Expert Source Marissa Floro, PhD
Counseling Psychologist Expert Interview. 18 February 2021.- Avoid posting too many selfies, mention what you're looking for as well as who you are, and be genuine. [2] X Research source
- It is helpful to read reviews for these websites so you can choose one that would suit your interests best.
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Use a bisexual dating app. If you prefer to have quick access to a dating profile, you might want to use a dating app for your smartphone instead of a full website. Some dating websites also have apps, but there are some apps that are independent of websites. You will need to sign up and create a profile on apps, just like you do on websites. [3] X Expert Source Marissa Floro, PhD
Counseling Psychologist Expert Interview. 18 February 2021.- There are reviews of bisexual dating apps that can help you choose the best one.
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Join bisexual groups on social media. If you are on social media websites like Facebook and LinkedIn, there may be bisexual groups you can join. These groups provide you not only with dating opportunities, but the chance to make friends with other people who share your bisexual experience. [4] X Expert Source Marissa Floro, PhD
Counseling Psychologist Expert Interview. 18 February 2021.- For example, to find a bisexual group on Facebook, sign in and type “bisexual group” into the search bar.
- Once you've clicked on a Facebook group, click the “Join Group” button in the top right hand corner. [5] X Research source
- It might be good to add words to the search, such as your city name.
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Comment on forums for bisexual discussions. There are also discussion boards and forums you can join to find other bisexual people online. Although it is harder to find bisexual people you can meet in real life this way, at least you can make friends online. It is nice to have someone to chat with about your life experience.
- Join these forums by signing up and creating a username.
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Create a thoughtful username. No matter what online forum you choose to join, you will need a username that attracts people to your profile. Experts recommend using terms that attract the type of people you want, such as words of physical beauty to attract men and words of intelligence to attract women. [6] X Research source
- Men tend to be attracted by names like “Blondie” or “Cutie.”
- Women tend to be attracted by names like “Smartie” or “Cultured.”
- Avoid names that indicate small size, like “Little” or “Bug.”
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Attend events for the LGBT community. Many communities have LGBT events year round, from community gatherings to local Gay Pride Festivals. Look for your community's Pride website or LGBT organization website to find events celebrating the LGBT community.
- For example, the DC Center for the LGBT Community offers monthly events connecting people, such as coffee meetings and clubs. [7] X Research source
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Join bisexual or LGBT clubs. There may be clubs for LGBT people in your community. You can find them at local universities, community centers, even churches. Look online at your local university to see if their LGBT clubs are open to community members. Ask any LGBT friends you have if they attend clubs in your area that you can join.
- Such groups can be both social and activist in nature. For example, many LBGT clubs on college campuses offer a place for people of the same sexual orientation to interact. Yet these groups sometimes also advocate for equality on their campuses.
- You might be able to find organizations like these on-campus ones in the community at community centers, bars, or other local hot spots.
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Go to popular LGBT spots. You may be able to find other bisexual people at gay bars. You may also be able to find bisexual people at gatherings for the LGBT community at local churches. You increase your odds of meeting other bisexual people by going where you think others might go. [8] X Expert Source Marissa Floro, PhD
Counseling Psychologist Expert Interview. 18 February 2021.- Think about places you like to meet people. Chances are other bisexual people like the same places.
- Also try Meetup.com to see if there are LGBT meetups scheduled.
- Attend parties thrown by LGBT friends.
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Notice body language . Before directly asking if someone is bisexual, pay attention to signals that indicate their sexual orientation, such as body language. Does the person you are watching show a lot of affection to the same sex? Watching body language can tell you a lot about a person.
- Watch their eyes for signs of attraction to both same-sex people and those of the opposite sex. [9] X Research source
- For example, their pupils will dilate if they are attracted to you.
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Watch the behavior of others. Watch someone you suspect is bisexual and see how much affection they show. Are they open to hugging both sexes? Do they talk about liking both sexes? For example, a bisexual person might claim to be straight but go out of their way to meet with members of the same sex.
- Sometimes women will be bisexual and not realize it. Studies show that about 60% of women are attracted to the same gender, and that women become more bicurious when they age. [10] X Research source
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Talk to people. When you walk into a social situation where you are looking for bisexual people, you should talk to people in order to determine if they are also bisexual. You might share information about what you are interested in so that the other person feels comfortable sharing their sexual orientation.
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Avoid stereotypes. Be sure not to make any assumptions about someone else's sexuality. For instance, don't assume that someone is bisexual just because they hug someone of both genders at a party. To be certain someone is bisexual, you should talk to them about this with sensitivity and tact.
- You could start a conversation about this by saying, "I heard you say something that made me think you might like the same things I do. Do you want to chat?"
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QuestionHow can I meet bisexual people if I live in a small town?Dr. Marissa Floro, Ph.D. is a Psychologist and Instructor at Stanford University’s Weiland Health Initiative and adjunct faculty at the University of San Francisco. Dr. Floro received her Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology from Loyola University Chicago, focusing on the intersections of race, attraction, and gender. Dr. Floro’s continued clinical, teaching, and advocacy work focuses on sexual and gender diversity, racial identity and belonging, and liberation from oppressive systems and structures.Connecting with people online and through dating apps is really helpful. Certain dating apps are actually really inclusive like OkCupid and Tinder. There are also apps that are specifically geared toward queer communities, like Grindr and Her.
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QuestionWhere can I find other bi people in real life?Dr. Marissa Floro, Ph.D. is a Psychologist and Instructor at Stanford University’s Weiland Health Initiative and adjunct faculty at the University of San Francisco. Dr. Floro received her Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology from Loyola University Chicago, focusing on the intersections of race, attraction, and gender. Dr. Floro’s continued clinical, teaching, and advocacy work focuses on sexual and gender diversity, racial identity and belonging, and liberation from oppressive systems and structures.Try going to a gay bar, an LGBTQ+ meetup, or an LGBTQ+ community organization.
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- ↑ Marissa Floro, PhD. Counseling Psychologist. Expert Interview. 18 February 2021.
- ↑ https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/the-intersect/wp/2015/02/13/want-to-succeed-in-online-dating-pay-more-attention-to-your-username/
- ↑ Marissa Floro, PhD. Counseling Psychologist. Expert Interview. 18 February 2021.
- ↑ Marissa Floro, PhD. Counseling Psychologist. Expert Interview. 18 February 2021.
- ↑ https://www.facebook.com/help/103763583048280
- ↑ https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/the-intersect/wp/2015/02/13/want-to-succeed-in-online-dating-pay-more-attention-to-your-username/
- ↑ https://thedccenter.org/events/
- ↑ Marissa Floro, PhD. Counseling Psychologist. Expert Interview. 18 February 2021.
- ↑ https://www.psychologistworld.com/bodylanguage/eyes.php
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