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Scientific signs that she's really into you
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Is she into you or just being polite? Sometimes it can be hard to tell, and that's okay! Scientifically speaking, people are pretty bad at picking up on flirtation. [1] Fortunately, there are surefire psychological signs you can rely on to tell you that a girl really likes you. Many of these are completely involuntary—if she likes you, she won't be able to control giving off these signals when she's around you. Read on to figure out if a girl you're talking to is interested in you romantically.
This article is based on an interview with our dating coach, John Keegan. Check out the full interview here.

Things You Should Know

  • If she makes prolonged eye contact, smiles a lot, uses open body language, and leans in toward you, she probably likes you.
  • She's likely attracted to you if you catch her subconsciously mirroring your body language or speech patterns.
  • You can tell she likes you if she responds to your texts immediately and is interested in making plans and meeting your family and friends.
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She makes prolonged eye contact.

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  1. Mutual eye contact can make for an incredibly intimate moment—that's why people don't tend to do it except with people they're interested in romantically or sexually. If she's making direct eye contact with you for a second longer than normal, you can tell she's thinking about you as more than just a friend . [2]
    • Prolonged eye contact can also trigger the body's release of oxytocin, known as "the love hormone" for the way it makes you feel. [3]
    • Keep in mind that eye contact is difficult for some people, so don't assume she's not into you just because she doesn't make eye contact very often.
    • Reader Poll: We asked 1354 wikiHow readers to tell us what the clearest indicator was that a girl liked them, and 50% said prolonged eye contact. [Take Poll] Every girl is different (and you shouldn’t assume she likes you unless she says so), but this could be a strong sign that she’s interested!
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How do her friends treat you?

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She mimics your body language or speech patterns.

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She removes obstacles between you.

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She compliments you a lot.

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  1. When a girl compliments you, she's letting you know the things that she likes about you. This is especially true if the praise is about something deep, like a compliment about the way you think, rather than something superficial.
    • For example, if she really likes you, she might say, "I really liked what you said about living in the moment. That shows self-awareness, and that's really important to me."
    • Women with a more traditional flirting style, on the other hand, might not compliment you as much. It's her style that matters! If she's acting a bit shy, she could still be into you even without the compliments. [10]

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